I dont really believe in abortion so I cant help you there but, Im wondering why your other 2 kids arent with you??? And if they were taken away then maybe you should not be having kids if you cant take care of the ones you already have (Im just assuming).. As for him.. he disgusts me.. He's having all this unprotected sex (fully knowing that he can get these girls pregnant) and not learning to wrap it... He needs to man up and take on his responsibilties and stop being a loser.. He may not have wanted another child but he sure didnt do anything to prevent it...
Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" I agree with this. And be prepared for ... [snip!] ... want to put in the massive amount of work its gonna take then if suggest adoption(I know you said you can't but..) or abortion."
here cps will take them if ur other children have been removed no questions asked.
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" like I said in my response, it IS true in this state. If were children were taken from her, they will take this one as well. I don't know what her state laws are."
In our state the mother has a chance to 'prove' herself. My niece is pregnant, only 18 with her second. Her first is in foster care, this child was going to be taken as well cause she was not following what she needed to keep the child. She is already about 30weeks and NOW decided to check herself into rehab. So now our state is going to allow her to keep her unborn child.
OP: I agree with everyone else. It sounds like to me that you are thinking a baby will fix you and your SO. I cant take BC and I chart, Ive gone 4 and 5yrs between having kids with NO protection. If your charting correctly its possible to NOT get pregnant. 3 times in a year should have made you think about BC.
I think you need to focus on your and your living children. Im sorry.
Honestly, whether you keep this child or not is completely up to you. I couldn't tell someone what to do, HOWEVER, you don't have custody of your other two children so have you thought about what will happen to this one if you have it? What about your other children's feelings? I can imagine they would resent that this baby gets to be with mommy (assuming CPS doesn't step in), but they don't. Honestly if I were in your position I don't know what I would do about this baby, but I DO know that I would not be focused on my "relationship" or lack there of. I would be 100% focused on doing everything I could to get my children back, and part of that is surrounding yourself with supportive people with the same mindset as you. Doesn't sound like your man really cares about much of anything. Get rid of the dead weight.
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" Did you lose custody of your other children?"
No, I did in 2010. I have since complete programs and regained partial custody.
Quoting The Doctor:" I believe you said your parents have custody of your two children? Why not start by trying to get custody ... [snip!] ... is going to change anything with your addiction or mental illness when your other kids didn't. I'm not trying to be snarky."
Their father has residential since I gave him my section 8 3 years ago when I was having problems
Otherwise I have all my rights back
Quoting 6 blessings so far....:" KUDOS for getting the help you need and rebuilding your relationship w/your children. I will pray for ... [snip!] ... you stray strong and focused on your road of recovery and count the new life growing inside you as the blessing that it is....."
Thanks, prayers are always appreciated and helpful
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" I agree with this. And be prepared for CPS or whatever it is called in your state, to step in right ... [snip!] ... in right after birth, if they removed your other children. In this state, you wouldn't ever leave the hospital with the child."
CPS will be involved reguardless bc I HAD a previous case, however there is nothing for them to remove this child for
Quoting Just Ames:" And I mean that makes sense. If you do not have your other children, there is a reason so why would you be OK with another child?"
I do, I don't have residential custody, I have partial and all my rights
Ok, we'll thanks for the responses ladies, I tried my best to respond to most w/o being repetitive before I delete my OP.
Love & prayers, ~J.C.