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First time trying anal questions? Mandi Bass 1 child; Minnesota 1064 posts
22nd Mar '13

Hi... um.. I've always been a little weirded out by anal sex. I mean... that's my butt! It sounds really uncomfortable and based on a really bad experience being constipated, I feel like it probably hurts a whole hell of alot. I could be wrong though. My SO of 4 1/2 years broached this subject with me last night, asking if I'm willing to try. I've decided that yes, I will try it for him. For whatever reason, the thought of doing it no longer puts me into a panic (I am extremely shy when it comes to anything involving sex, even with SO.) and I'm going to give it a go.



I have several questions about it. Is it going to be terribly painful? What's the best way to go about doing this? I researched it and enemas kept getting brought up- is that really necessary? What's the best lube to use? Best position? Will it feel good for me at all? Basically any advice that you could possibly give me would be appreciated. I've never had anal sex and I'm trying to figure it all out before we get there. Thanks in advance!

☠Jenniefahhh 1 child; Djibouti 70800 posts
22nd Mar '13

You don't need an enema, but I like to make sure roads are clear before he goes in. :lol: What works best for me is we'll have vaginal intercourse, get me real into it, then I'll use my bullet while he's inserting his peen into my butt. I'm relaxed from the previous sex and distracted cuz the bullet feels so good. Once he's in and gets a good motion I usually come instantly.



And since it's buttsex, he normally comes real quick anyway so it doesn't last long. :lol:

saageex3 1 child; New York 5795 posts
22nd Mar '13

The first time me and SO tried, we were drunk so I didn't really remember but other times I tried we kind of just went for it, no lube or anything. At first it hurt but after it was fine. I feel like its a bit more for them but if you have him rub your clit or if you do it, it makes it 10 times better. Also, doggy style was best IMO

user banned California 36390 posts
22nd Mar '13

Enemas aren't 100% necessary but it might be helpful for you since you'll know you're clean. Use lots of lube and relax. Make sure your SO fingers you first, at least two fingers. Using a condom helps too. Go SLOW, it's not a race.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
22nd Mar '13
Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:" You don't need an enema, but I like to make sure roads are clear before he goes in. :lol: What works ... [snip!] ... motion I usually come instantly. And since it's buttsex, he normally comes real quick anyway so it doesn't last long. :lol:"

:!::!:



As far as positions go we like either in a spooning position or doggy, and we use coconut oil for lube.

☠Jenniefahhh 1 child; Djibouti 70800 posts
22nd Mar '13
Quoting 624582:" :!::!: As far as positions go we like either in a spooning position or doggy, and we use coconut oil for lube."


Spooning seems easiest for us.



But once when I was insanely drunk I was on top. No idea how I pulled that one off. :lol:

Mandi Bass 1 child; Minnesota 1064 posts
22nd Mar '13

Okay, so doggy style or spooning works best. We just now started doggy style for normal sex- I was really nervous about trying it and it took him weeks to talk me into it... Now i love it :D As far as condoms go- are they a must? I'm allergic to latex and the sheep skin just freaks SO out so we never use them.



I'm thinking an enema may be in order because I am terrified that some ungodly mess may occur... and then I would curl up and die from mortification. Any advice on them? I've never tried one before.... filling my butt up with water has just never occurred to me:P



I don't have any type of vibrator- this is something else that SO has been trying to talk me into. I just feel weird about touching myself and the few times I've tried, even with his help, have just ended in me being very frustrated and unsatisfied.



We currently use a water-based lube that has little balls in it. They burst and create a "cool" feeling. Would this work or should we just go buy the coconut oil?



A friend told me that it could take several tries before we are successful. Is this true? That we need to start small and work up to it over several days? Or can we just go for it the first time and hopefully it all works out okay?

☠Jenniefahhh 1 child; Djibouti 70800 posts
22nd Mar '13
Quoting Mandi Bass:" Okay, so doggy style or spooning works best. We just now started doggy style for normal sex- I was really ... [snip!] ... start small and work up to it over several days? Or can we just go for it the first time and hopefully it all works out okay?"


You need to loosen up chick lol.



We never use condoms. Get a vibrator, I promise, it'll change your sex life.

Mandi Bass 1 child; Minnesota 1064 posts
22nd Mar '13
Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:" You need to loosen up chick lol. We never use condoms. Get a vibrator, I promise, it'll change your sex life."

Oh yeah, I definitely do! I'm 22 and have only ever had sex with SO. I've never even messed around with anyone else... I don't even know why I'm so uptight about it. I attribute it to the fact that I'm so damned shy that I can barely make eye contact with strangers while talking to them. I freaking hate it!



On the plus side, SO is patient and works with me on it... I'm slowly discovering that I may be kind of a closet kinky sex girl. :D

user banned California 36390 posts
22nd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mandi Bass:</b>" Okay, so doggy style or spooning works best. We just now started doggy style for normal sex- I was really ... [snip!] ... start small and work up to it over several days? Or can we just go for it the first time and hopefully it all works out okay?"</blockquote>




I have never personally had an enema. If I feel like the road's not clear, he takes the pink highway. You are just thinking waaay too much about it. Condoms aren't a must but they make the slide a little easier. Just relax and have him stop if it hurts. And make sure he trims his nails! DH cut me inside with his nails and it hurt so bad

Mandi Bass 1 child; Minnesota 1064 posts
22nd Mar '13
Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mandi Bass:</b>" Okay, so doggy style or spooning works best. ... [snip!] ... Just relax and have him stop if it hurts. And make sure he trims his nails! DH cut me inside with his nails and it hurt so bad"

SO always keeps his nails trimmed now... He really hurt me once and makes sure it won't happen again!

user banned California 36390 posts
22nd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mandi Bass:</b>" SO always keeps his nails trimmed now... He really hurt me once and makes sure it won't happen again!"</blockquote>




Lucky you!

rpgmomma8404 1 child; St Ann, Missouri 7591 posts
23rd Mar '13

Lots of lube, relax, and take it slllooowww. Don't rush or it's going to hurt. I learned my lesson on that the hard way and couldn't sit right for a week. :?

Dawn Hinrichs Due November 29; Japan 18 posts
23rd Mar '13

best way ive found:
1. have sex first
2. k.y the penis and ass
3. dont do if you have pooed in last 6 hours
4. doggy styles best
5. have penis insirted slowly and begin thrusting.
Do not have them fully pull it out wirh every thrust..makes it worse.
6. you or him rub clit at same time
7. you may tear your ass alittle will heal up afterca few days
gets easier every time :)

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
23rd Mar '13
Quoting ☠Jenniefahhh:" Spooning seems easiest for us. But once when I was insanely drunk I was on top. No idea how I pulled that one off. :lol:"


Fucccck that.



Then again, a copious amount alcohol can make me do the seemingly impossible.