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Vent Kaitlynn Hoefert Due November 11; 17 kids; Nederland, Texas 367 posts
23rd Mar '13

I know im probably going to get bashed for this but i need to vent bc it is driving my crazy. Me and my SO found out that we were pregnant with our second child the other day and i cant even enjoy it bc of my sister in law. I feel so horrible bc its hard for her to have a baby and she has a 4 year old but she cant get pregnant again, shes been doing fertility treatments for about a month now. This happened when i had my first child, when my other sister in law had her baby and when ANYONE she knows has a baby. She wont speak to anyone for weeks bc shes upset that she thinks all "these idiots making stupid decisions that affect everyone" was her exact quote and noone deserves to have a baby but her. I get it, dont get me wrong, i used to spend hours talking to her about this. i feel horrible but she wont even look at me let alone talk to me. She makes it so hard for anyone to enjoy being pregnant. And i feel horrible for feeling this way bc i know she wants another baby so bad. (I actually contemplated getting an abortion to make her feel better) I just dont know what to do....i wanna just cry constantly bc i feel like i dont want this baby if its going to cause so much drama........

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
23rd Mar '13

Her fertility issues have nothing to do with you. Enjoy your pregnancy!

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
23rd Mar '13
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" Her fertility issues have nothing to do with you. Enjoy your pregnancy!"


:!: She needs to grow up.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
23rd Mar '13
Quoting Kaitlynn Hoefert:" I know im probably going to get bashed for this but i need to vent bc it is driving my crazy. Me and ... [snip!] ... know what to do....i wanna just cry constantly bc i feel like i dont want this baby if its going to cause so much drama........"


dude f**k her in the ass. she has one kid already many moms cant even do that without adoption. do not abort or feel guilty. i would just stop talking to her selfish dumb ass

{tamz} Due September 2; 1 child; Maryland 2533 posts
23rd Mar '13

I can understand her struggling with anger but its something she needs to deal with a shrink or with herself. When DD was born 3 months early, I swear I hated every pregnant woman I met, especially while DD was in NICU, but that didn't mean I had the right to attack them and make them regret their pregnancy.



Enjoy your pregnancy, its your to enjoy, not hers to ruin.

Fatty McRunnerPants 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Clearlake, California 59390 posts
23rd Mar '13

Dude, why would this effect you so much? If she wants to be miserable, allow her to be. Just go on your merry way. I kind of get what she's going through. When you can't have another child and want one it's very very hard to be around people who pop them out without giving a second thought. I personally tend to stay away from pregnant people/ newborns in general although I won't come out and purposfully make someone uncomfortable. Just give her her space, she'll come around eventually. Until then ignore her behavior and realize it has nothing to do with you personally.

rpgmomma8404 1 child; St Ann, Missouri 7591 posts
23rd Mar '13
Quoting Dovahkiin:" :!: She needs to grow up. "

^^What she said^^



My cousin was trying to get pregnant around the time I got pregnant. I didn't even know her and her husband were trying to have a baby. When my mom told me I felt horrible but my cousin took it well. She sent me a bunch of baby clothes and a crib she wasn't going to use. About a year or so after I had my son she finally got pregnant because they relaxed and stopped trying so hard. Then she got pregnant again soon after having her first. Good things do come to those who wait. If someone stresses out about it so much it's not going to happen.

мɑkɑnɑni 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65239 posts
status 23rd Mar '13
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" Her fertility issues have nothing to do with you. Enjoy your pregnancy!"


:!:



Don't let her bring you down. My husband and I have fertility issues (unexplainable infertility) and I never felt jealous of others who were having babies. It's not my fault or their fault.



It's the comments that annoyed/hurt me more than anything.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
23rd Mar '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" :!: Don't let her bring you down. My husband and I have fertility issues (unexplainable infertility) ... [snip!] ... of others who were having babies. It's not my fault or their fault. It's the comments that annoyed/hurt me more than anything."


For the LONGEST time I didn't think I could get pregnant. I too know what it is like to have issues but I was never bitter towards others.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15275 posts
23rd Mar '13

If she can't manage to people happy for people experiencing something she would be ecstatic to experience, she has a lot of issues and needs therapy.



I'm sure it's frustrating but you don't punish people for their bodies working normally.



The fact that you're considering getting an abortion because someone you know is throwing a fit makes me worry about YOUR mental state as well.



This is your family. This is who will be sitting at the thanksgiving dinner table for the next 40 years. This is the person you will cry for at their high school graduation. Why are you concerned with what someone else has to say about the state of YOUR uterus and YOUR flesh and blood?

mom2andrew&carter 18 kids; Leesburg, Florida 2159 posts
23rd Mar '13

i was in a similar situation. My cousin lost her baby at 21 weeks pregnant i was there with her the whole time she deliever him and we got to hold him. A week after that i found out i was pregnant with my first son. She cried for about a week straight after i told her but she never once told me that i didnt deserve the baby. I know she was hurting and i tried to give her space but she eventually was ok with it . She even gave me alot of the stuff she already had for the baby she lost and helped throw me a baby shower. your sister in law is being very immature and i would try talking to her and tell her you know shes hurting but that doesnt mean she has to take it out on you. She should be happy for you