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i feel as tho i dont have a mother.. *vent* *long* Tea Bag McGee Due November 21 (girl); 2 kids; tardis, OS, United States 6892 posts
23rd Mar '13

*PLEASE DO NOT QUOTE*
ok so right now until we can move into a new place we are staying with my parents. we didnt ask they offered.
wel for the first week things where great.. then DH had a mini heart attack.. i called and asked my mom if he could watch the children after getting off work so i could just be there for DH with out the kids stressing him out more.. well my mom first said yes.. so i waited on her call to let me know she was at the hospital.. 2 hours late i decide to call her she then yells at me and tells me my DH can tough it out and suck it up. so i decide to just deal with it and keep the kids there the nurses where really nice. he ended up being transferred to a huge city hospital.. i asked her if she could watch them while i got the things ready.. by this time im freaking out cuz they are say DH might need open heart surgery.. she yells at me calls me name ect.. so i just sucked it up and got everything ready and left and got a hotel stayed there with the kids.. well the whole time i was down there she did not talk to me or DH i talked to my dad one time and you could hear her say thats just a waste of time them being down there. blah blah blah.. well we get back
since getting back i have done everything in my power to make her happy.. but every time i try and talk to her she rolls her eyes and says what do you want.. or WHAT.. and the whole time im talking to her she just acts like a stuck up person like shes better then talking to me..
she has even gone to the point of telling me i have to keep my kids up so she can sleep because she needs her sleep and the noise they make when putting them to bed is to much.



the sad thing in all of this is.. we dropped everything we had going on to move up where they where so the kids could be around there grandparents because they begged us.. and i know that was are choice..



idk what to do anymore i just feel as tho i am not good enough.. and DH keeps telling me i am doing a awesome job i am a awesome mom and she is just bitter about something.



we are trying to find a place but there is nothing open right now that is in our price range. its fucked up.

ɑutumnɑℓ 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65787 posts
23rd Mar '13

f**k her. She sounds like a b***h.

Tea Bag McGee Due November 21 (girl); 2 kids; tardis, OS, United States 6892 posts
23rd Mar '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" f**k her. She sounds like a b***h."


that is so much easier said then done.. because of my living in the same house as of right now. it just sucks..

ɑutumnɑℓ 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65787 posts
23rd Mar '13
Quoting Tea Bag McGee:" that is so much easier said then done.. because of my living in the same house as of right now. it just sucks.. "


Can anyone spot you some money?

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
23rd Mar '13

I would straight up ask her what her issue is and remind hee she asked for you to move in. I tell her that I didn't appreciate her attitude and if she is going to keep it up once you move out you won't be coming back to visit.

Sugarhiccup LLC ; 5 kids; Lahaina, Hawaii 2825 posts
23rd Mar '13

I'm sorry you are going through this and I hope your dh is better soon. The way you described your mother it makes me wonder if your mom and mines are long lost twins or something. I was in your exact shoes six years ago and I hated it! Dealing with a person like that daily takes a lot out of a person mentally and emotionally especially when you have a lot going in already. In the end as soon as we could we moved out and then I didn't talk to my mom for four years. I'm not saying you should do this but things got really bad in my situation and I was too mentally drained to take anymore. Only recently have we begun to really talk again and this is six years later. We can hold a conversation but I'm always in guard after such a huge falling out :(. I also live 5000 miles away from her now so it's long distance. I hope things do get better for you. Have you tried talking to her to tell her how you feel? If you ever need to talk pm me. I know when I was dealing with this and tried to talk to people who had never been through this I'd always get I could never cut my mother off... Until they found out the details.

Tea Bag McGee Due November 21 (girl); 2 kids; tardis, OS, United States 6892 posts
23rd Mar '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" I would straight up ask her what her issue is and remind hee she asked for you to move in. I tell her ... [snip!] ... that I didn't appreciate her attitude and if she is going to keep it up once you move out you won't be coming back to visit."


oh i have tried this.. and in a really nice way as nice as it can get..



she then went off subject saying i am no good to anyone.



i was like wtf where did that come from.

Melissa 1 child; Michigan 1411 posts
23rd Mar '13
Quoting Tea Bag McGee:" *PLEASE DO NOT QUOTE* ok so right now until we can move into a new place we are staying with my parents. ... [snip!] ... something. we are trying to find a place but there is nothing open right now that is in our price range. its fucked up. "

I'm sorry. A parent should never treat their child that way no matter how old they are.

Tea Bag McGee Due November 21 (girl); 2 kids; tardis, OS, United States 6892 posts
23rd Mar '13
Quoting Sugarhiccup:" I'm sorry you are going through this and I hope your dh is better soon. The way you described your mother ... [snip!] ... to people who had never been through this I'd always get I could never cut my mother off... Until they found out the details."


i have tried talking to her..



she is so fake even to me.. like she is super b***h mode but when my step dad comes around BAM smiles and cheer and aw can i help you with that..



it draining me and making it really hard for me to just cope.
im just done and i want to move far far far away.. but as of right now its do that and leave everything behind we have worked up to and no do it and wait until we can move it all.

Tea Bag McGee Due November 21 (girl); 2 kids; tardis, OS, United States 6892 posts
23rd Mar '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" Can anyone spot you some money?"


oh god i freaking wish..

⚓Misty⚓ 4 kids; Keenesburg, Colorado 7275 posts
23rd Mar '13

What does your dad say about all of this??
Me & my mom cannot live together, but as soon as I got my own place we were fine

Sugarhiccup LLC ; 5 kids; Lahaina, Hawaii 2825 posts
23rd Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tea Bag McGee:</b>" i have tried talking to her.. she is so fake even to me.. like she is super b***h mode but when my ... [snip!] ... as of right now its do that and leave everything behind we have worked up to and no do it and wait until we can move it all. "</blockquote>



Geez hon I am sorry. Your situation sounds indentical to why mines was! I'm angry for you!

Tea Bag McGee Due November 21 (girl); 2 kids; tardis, OS, United States 6892 posts
23rd Mar '13
Quoting M walls:" What does your dad say about all of this?? Me & my mom cannot live together, but as soon as I got my own place we were fine"


he doesn't.. this is not his problem.