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Moms who had a planned 4th child Mama of *3* TTC since Feb 2013; 3 kids; Wisconsin 15841 posts
24th Mar '13

What made you have a 4th baby? How far apart in age was the 4th baby from the other kids? Did you find life to be much more difficult adding on a 4th?



SO and I have been going back and forth on the idea of having another baby. We have been having unprotected sex and havent gotten pregnant yet, but we are trying to decide whether we close up shop or just keep going with the flow. My kids are almost 4, 26 months and almost 9 months...I want another baby...but another part of me is scared it will be SO overwhelming having 4 under 5. I just want an answer to click in my head and its not happening. Im so undecided.

Lyrical Lucy 4 kids; California 1249 posts
24th Mar '13

I always wanted six children so we did not want the spacing to be too far apart. When it came time for the fourth baby I would say there was about 2 years or less between each child.
Having a fourth child did not really change anything. In fact it sort of made things easier in the long run because there were more to keep each other busy. at this point you are already busy with the other children (cooking, cleaning, washing etc) when you make a sandwich you make another one. when you draw a bath you just put them in together, you do a little more laundry and cook a little more food but the rewards are endless being a mom....

hobbit* 3 kids; New Zealand 44783 posts
24th Mar '13

Watching!
We're in the same boat. I would love love love another baby but at the saw Time 4 is a lot if kids lol ya know?
Mine are 6 2 and 7months. If we did have another it wouldn't be for another 2 years at the absolute least! I want my youngest in preschool lol

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
24th Mar '13

My cousin has always said there is a difference going from 1 to 2, 2 to 3, but after that it's easy. My memaw said the same thing. After 3, the next 3 didn't really have a huge impact on the work or anything.



I would say since you are undecided wait a little longer until you do feel that decision click. You probably have plenty of time to have another, but if you have any permanent "fixes" it isn't as easy to get it back.

Mama of *3* TTC since Feb 2013; 3 kids; Wisconsin 15841 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting White Chocolate Milk:" My cousin has always said there is a difference going from 1 to 2, 2 to 3, but after that it's easy. ... [snip!] ... You probably have plenty of time to have another, but if you have any permanent "fixes" it isn't as easy to get it back. "


I was hoping that was the case. Going from 1 to 2 was an easy transition for us. 2 to 3 was like holy crap Im busy haha. But my oldest will be in 4K in the fall, so I wouldnt even have all of them home during the week.

Mama of *3* TTC since Feb 2013; 3 kids; Wisconsin 15841 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Lyrical Lucy:" I always wanted six children so we did not want the spacing to be too far apart. When it came time for ... [snip!] ... just put them in together, you do a little more laundry and cook a little more food but the rewards are endless being a mom...."


My kids all have an 18 month age gap and I LOVE it. If we are going to have a 4th, then I want the spacing kept close together. My mom is like just wait a few years and then have another one. No? haha I dont want to be out of the baby phase so long and then have to do it all over again. 4 kids would completely get rid of the option to be in a car together (we have a van but SO has a car and we take that occasionally) and for some odd reason that makes me panic. haha I dont even know why!

Allissa Specht 35 kids; Essexville, Michigan 5426 posts
24th Mar '13

My husband and I are planning a fourth child, but not for about 4-5 years. Our youngest is 6 1/2 months and we want to be financially stable before having another. I'm currently in college so we are definitely waiting until I finish.

ThreeLittleBirds 4 kids; Pueblo West, CO, United States 1029 posts
24th Mar '13

I am trying for number 4. I have always wanted 4 kids. Beside that, my children are with my ex husband and my SO has no children of his own. If we were to conceive sometime soon (im actually 9 dpo today). My kids will be 7 almost 8), 6, and 4 when the baby is born.

Mama of *3* TTC since Feb 2013; 3 kids; Wisconsin 15841 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Allissa Specht:" My husband and I are planning a fourth child, but not for about 4-5 years. Our youngest is 6 1/2 months ... [snip!] ... we want to be financially stable before having another. I'm currently in college so we are definitely waiting until I finish."


I cant handle the idea of being done with the baby phase and on to preschool years, then going back to the baby stage again lol. I would rather have a baby now, go to school part time and then finish when Im able to after that. My mom thinks Im nuts! haha

Mama of *3* TTC since Feb 2013; 3 kids; Wisconsin 15841 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting ThreeLittleBirds:" I am trying for number 4. I have always wanted 4 kids. Beside that, my children are with my ex husband ... [snip!] ... If we were to conceive sometime soon (im actually 9 dpo today). My kids will be 7 almost 8), 6, and 4 when the baby is born."


Eeek good lcuk!!! My periods are all messed up, so I will have no idea when I ovulate or any of that. If we decide to get serious about this, Im going to have to start charting or something

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46840 posts
24th Mar '13

This baby was NOT planned.
I took a pregnancy test just because a friend wanted someone to take one with her. I TOTALLY wasn't expecting this. Haha.



However, we wanted to PLAN for a 4th around the time that our youngest started preschool so we'd just have one in daycare and not be so strained spreading our attention between two babies and our older kids.



I think this will all work out fine, but I'd wait for a 4th until LO is older, personally.

Mama of *3* TTC since Feb 2013; 3 kids; Wisconsin 15841 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting MunchkinWrangler:" This baby was NOT planned. I took a pregnancy test just because a friend wanted someone to take one ... [snip!] ... two babies and our older kids. I think this will all work out fine, but I'd wait for a 4th until LO is older, personally."


Its kind of a now or never thing for me. I dont want a big age gap. If im not having one now, then Im going to be done and move on to the next stage of my life. Now, trying to figure out if I want to have the baby or not is the question haha. Are you nervous about this baby and how everything is going to turn out with 4 so young?

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46840 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting L&B +1:" Its kind of a now or never thing for me. I dont want a big age gap. If im not having one now, then Im ... [snip!] ... the baby or not is the question haha. Are you nervous about this baby and how everything is going to turn out with 4 so young?"


Im not concerned about the age gap because it's the same gap as my first two. I am, however, definitely worried about having four. Will anyone babysit so DH and I can have a date night occasionally, still? Will we be able to continue having as much outings with tue kids like fishing and such or will we have to wait until they are older? Things like that...

BBNO5NTHEOVEN Due April 25; 5 kids; California 4933 posts
26th Mar '13
Quoting L&B +1:" What made you have a 4th baby? How far apart in age was the 4th baby from the other kids? Did you find ... [snip!] ... it will be SO overwhelming having 4 under 5. I just want an answer to click in my head and its not happening. Im so undecided."


I made the choice to have a fourth and a 5th! I say after 2 what's one more. For me the only thing that is harder is the laundry and dishes. But now that my older kids are getting older they are doing a chore per day and things are a lot easier than they were when my 4th was a newborn. I say go for it! OH. Also sports schedules can be pretty hard but other than those two things... no biggie!

Carol Allison Due August 8; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; United Kingdom 250 posts
26th Mar '13

I've got 3 children who are 10, 8 & 6 from a previous relationship.
I'm happily married to a new partner now & we want a baby of our own. I was recently pg but ended up having a m/c in Dec 2012 but were trying for baby again. I've not got long left to have more children as i'm 36 & my hubby is 45 but were determined to have our own baby no matter what life throws at us :)