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not sure what to do ... biting himself The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
24th Mar '13

My nearly two year old has taken to biting his own arms, to the point they actually bruise, whenever he's really frustrated or upset. He never bites other people only himself, he also occasionally head bangs as well. I don't know what to do ... time outs just make him bite or head bang more. Redirection turns into a tantrum. And it just feels wrong to comfort or reward him for something that is probably the result of bad behaviour in the first place. I'm just so confused about why he's doing this.

Two Princesses 2 kids; Long Beach, CA, United States 7199 posts
24th Mar '13

While this could be an early sign of emotional issues, it could also just be him trying to get attention when he's misbehaved or him not being able to verbalize his frustration.
How long has this been going on/?

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
24th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Two Princesses:</b>" While this could be an early sign of emotional issues, it could also just be him trying to get attention ... [snip!] ... to get attention when he's misbehaved or him not being able to verbalize his frustration. How long has this been going on/?"</blockquote>




the head banging has been awhile ... the biting maybe a week

Two Princesses 2 kids; Long Beach, CA, United States 7199 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Destiel:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Two Princesses:</b>" While this could be an early sign of emotional ... [snip!] ... How long has this been going on/?"</blockquote> the head banging has been awhile ... the biting maybe a week"



I would talk to his primary care doctor about this.
Have you tried asking him to use his words? My daughter is two and sometimes she gets frustrated because she is having trouble expressing what is bothering her. When I ask her to use her words and try her best to explain to me, that helps sometimes.

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
24th Mar '13

Have you tried encouraging him to explain what is going on? Or asking him if he is mad, sad, etc? My friend uses this with her 2 yr old because he isn't very verbal. Sometimes it just takes the slowing down to really focus on what is frustrating him and trying to fill the words he can't to understand what is going on.

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting White Chocolate Milk:" Have you tried encouraging him to explain what is going on? Or asking him if he is mad, sad, etc? My ... [snip!] ... slowing down to really focus on what is frustrating him and trying to fill the words he can't to understand what is going on."


He's barely talking at all, so asking him to use his words actually makes him madder

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Destiel:" He's barely talking at all, so asking him to use his words actually makes him madder"


Then I would just asking him different questions. If he is sad, or mad. If he thinks it is fun to bite himself? Anything to kind of give you some insight. Do you notice any sort of pattern? Like is there something that happens and he will start biting? Or is it just random?

The Master 2 kids; Perth, Australia 19989 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting White Chocolate Milk:" Then I would just asking him different questions. If he is sad, or mad. If he thinks it is fun to bite ... [snip!] ... Do you notice any sort of pattern? Like is there something that happens and he will start biting? Or is it just random?"


Its usually if he's in trouble or if he's done something he knows that he's not supposed to.