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UGH! (rant/vent) BastiansMommy 1 child; Shelton, Washington 2428 posts
24th Mar '13

So SO is pissed off at me because I made him delete a girl off xbox.
I know that sounds petty, but there's a reason.
When I was 8 months pregnant, he decided it was okay to text girls and get naked photos...of girls he KNOWS and specifically told me I had nothing to worry about. I found them, and told him either he steps up and acts like the dad I know he can be and boyfriend that I deserve...or he walks away and I don't hold a grudge. It was his choice. I kept it between him and me so that no one else knew what was going on.
I told him that he couldn't talk to the 3 girls he exchanged photos with, and the girl that he was trying to get to flirt with him. He had to delete them off facebook, xbox, email, out of his phone...everything. He agreed and completely understood.




Now, 6 months later...he's pissed off at me because he didn't delete one of the skanks (still bitter and can't bring myself to say [type] her name) and I found out. And I told him either he deletes her or I will.
Now he's pissed off at me and treating me like shit for making him do something that he promised me he would do because of something that never should have happened.



Oh, and on top of this...he knows I haven't been sleeping well (doc wants to put me on sleep meds, but I keep refusing) and even though he was awake and could take care of LO since he's not breastfed anymore...he said "I couldnt hear him. I had my headphones on. Don't be such a f**king b***h! Calm the f**k down. (that last part was different wording, but I don't like those words.)



So my day is going just lovely...what about yours?

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
24th Mar '13

id send him packing. he didnt forget to delete her she was probably his favorite out of the bunch. he isnt committed to you or your baby

BastiansMommy 1 child; Shelton, Washington 2428 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting I love Kenzi:" id send him packing. he didnt forget to delete her she was probably his favorite out of the bunch. he isnt committed to you or your baby"

Ironically...she pisses him off the most out of them. I hate saying this because I try to block it all from memory, but she had the best body out of the lot. Which isn't saying much. They all looked great :cry: Of course being 8 months pregnant and bigger than my sister was before she gave birth, could have had something to do with how they look in my head.
He sold his xbox shortly after that incident so we would have a little cash to spend on DS...and he just got a new one. That's how I found out.
I mean he is a good dad (I b***h a lot, but for the most part he is...he's better than either of our fathers ever have been) and if I need him, he's there...but it's just when he does shit like this it just makes me feel like dirt, ya know?



The worst part is knowing that if he'd done that and I hadn't been pregnant...I would have kicked his ass to the curb and he knows it. I've been cheated on once, not going to risk it again...but I gave him a second chance so that my son could have a father in his life unlike SO and I.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
24th Mar '13

just remember dont pick the shiniest of too turds just bc he is better than your father doesnt make him a good one. i would try to get you both into parenting classes and counciling if you want to make it work. i say you too so he doesnt feel ganged up on

BastiansMommy 1 child; Shelton, Washington 2428 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting I love Kenzi:" just remember dont pick the shiniest of too turds just bc he is better than your father doesnt make him ... [snip!] ... get you both into parenting classes and counciling if you want to make it work. i say you too so he doesnt feel ganged up on "

We don't have time for parenting classes or counseling because he works two jobs and is never home...today and yesterday have been the only days he's had off (and by that I mean has only worked 3 & 6 hours) in 3 months.
We got in a really bad fight about a week ago...and he actually brought up couples counseling...but we don't have the money nor the time :?
And I know...if it comes down to it and he is a complete shit hole for a dad...he's out. But for the most part he's a good dad...changes diapers, takes bath with/gives baths to DS, makes him a bottle, puts him in bed...it just irritates me when he knows that I don't feel good or I haven't slept in 2 days, and he cant step up and do it without me asking him to.

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting BastiansMommy:" We don't have time for parenting classes or counseling because he works two jobs and is never home...today ... [snip!] ... me when he knows that I don't feel good or I haven't slept in 2 days, and he cant step up and do it without me asking him to."


maybe try a church or look into dhhr. they may have something. its good he does all those things.

BastiansMommy 1 child; Shelton, Washington 2428 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting I love Kenzi:" maybe try a church or look into dhhr. they may have something. its good he does all those things. "

:oops::oops: Kind of super embarrassed to ask this...but what would a church do? Sorry, never really went to church unless it was with my friends...and then I kind of just joked around with them :oops: lol
And what's dhhr?
Like I said...he is a good dad. It's just annoying that I have to ask him to do those things...and not take into consideration that I'm exhausted or sick.
I keep reminding myself that he's 19 and never had to look out for anyone but himself...he'd never even been around kids until he met my family. It just drives me crazy

user banned Due November 26; 1 child; Parkersburg, West Virginia 9548 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting BastiansMommy:" :oops::oops: Kind of super embarrassed to ask this...but what would a church do? Sorry, never really ... [snip!] ... never had to look out for anyone but himself...he'd never even been around kids until he met my family. It just drives me crazy"

i dont go to church but some moms on here say a close pastor or whatever is good to talk to as a couple. and department of human resources they normally offer free classes.

BastiansMommy 1 child; Shelton, Washington 2428 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting I love Kenzi:" i dont go to church but some moms on here say a close pastor or whatever is good to talk to as a couple. and department of human resources they normally offer free classes. "

Oh...I can see that working. I just don't know one lol And I'm not really good at talking to people I know... I have weird trust issues
ANYWAY! I'll have to look in the dhhr thing...it's worth a shot if nothing else

Millie 1 child; Grand Rapids, MI, United States 150 posts
24th Mar '13

Girl tell him to kick rock! He isnt worth the stress if he keep doin it hes always gunna do it and that last part he deserves a nice lil punch in the mouth!

BastiansMommy 1 child; Shelton, Washington 2428 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Millie the Lette:" Girl tell him to kick rock! He isnt worth the stress if he keep doin it hes always gunna do it and that last part he deserves a nice lil punch in the mouth!"

I kind of like the idea of punching him in the mouth... I want to throw a can of soda at him because he told me to get off my ass and get one for him and the laughed saying "it was just a joke...calm the f**k down" bleh
And he hasn't done anything with any of those girls since...hell he didn't even talk to the one on xbox. He's good on that score...he watches porn, which I don't like but I can deal with (sex life hasn't been that great since I got pregnant).

Millie 1 child; Grand Rapids, MI, United States 150 posts
24th Mar '13

He would so hate me lol i kid u not if my bf ever did that oooooo....... mind as well lock my ass up! When i was married ........... biggest mistake of my life! Anywho! My ex was abusive so i dont take shit at all n my bf know that too!

BastiansMommy 1 child; Shelton, Washington 2428 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Millie the Lette:" He would so hate me lol i kid u not if my bf ever did that oooooo....... mind as well lock my ass up! ... [snip!] ... was married ........... biggest mistake of my life! Anywho! My ex was abusive so i dont take shit at all n my bf know that too!"

I tend to overreact to things like this...the boy who I lost my virginity to, and the only other boy I actually consider a boyfriend cheated on me for almost a year before I grew a back bone, acknowledged what was going on, and kicked him to the curb (2 years as of 5 days ago..only know that because I have terrible timing...it was his birthday :oops:).
I try to be reasonable and think things through before bringing them up with him...he knows what happened, we were friends when I was dating my ex...and he hated him for how he treated me. He wanted to kick my ex's ass because he was doing that shit... And then he went and did that and it sucks and I have issues with it still...it just pisses me off he doesn't think of it as that big of a deal.
Hell when I found out, I started hyperventilating and shaking every time he touched me for almost 3 weeks. Try explaining to your parents why you're sleeping on an uncomfortable couch 8 months pregnant without telling them about the situation you're currently in. That was an interesting month to say the least... lol

Millie 1 child; Grand Rapids, MI, United States 150 posts
24th Mar '13

But still he shouldnt have said what he said its wrong

BastiansMommy 1 child; Shelton, Washington 2428 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Millie the Lette:" But still he shouldnt have said what he said its wrong"

Yeah...I know. When I can bear talking to him without wanting to slap him...talking is going to happen