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am i to harsh? Jillian Lindsey 2 kids; Mosheim, Tennessee 2354 posts
24th Mar '13

i told my two year old if he didnt help clean up his toys he wont get to play with his toys 2mro i pointed to cars and asked them to pick them up and put them in the bag as i was also putting cars in the bag he wouldnt do it so now hes in bed and he wont be playing with his toys 2mro it sounds harsh but what else can i do to get him to help clean up the toy mess he made or use as a punishment if if refuses to help
i wont bribe him with crap thats just not my thing

Tori Loutzenhiser 2 kids; Nebraska 236 posts
24th Mar '13

I don't think it's too harsh. I put up my 2 year olds toys if he won't help pick them up. I just make sure to do it in front of him so he sees that they're gone.

nursemaya mom to 3! 3 kids; 5 angel babies; Minnesota 16003 posts
24th Mar '13

Not harsh at all. I would throw them away and I have

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
24th Mar '13

My son loses any toys for 1-2 days if he doesn't clean them up. Not harsh.



And the older he gets the less I physically help with cleanup. Now I just coach him to do each task. Soon it'll be "clean it up" and he'll either do it or ill keep them.

SubLowe 1 child; Oceanside, California 15389 posts
24th Mar '13

um yes! 2 years old? kids learn from immitating until they are 7. you cannot expect a 2 year old to clean up. perhaps help you put a couple toys away. He is not a mini adult. and punishment for not putting toys away at 2 years old is crossing a line imo

SubLowe 1 child; Oceanside, California 15389 posts
24th Mar '13

what you should do is make putting toys away fun, perhaps make up a rhyme or look one up , sing certain songs, do this every single night. repetition and rhytm is how you teach kids that young

DJ, Nick & Emma's mommy Due August 20 (boy); 3 kids; Toledo, Ohio 2157 posts
24th Mar '13

What I have done is put them in a garbage bag and I put them up for a few days. When I pulled them back out, if he still didn't want to pick them back up when he got them out, I would do the same thing again. He eventually got the point and would start picking them up.

user banned New York 15996 posts
24th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting OneLoveMama:</b>" sorry double post"</blockquote>




A 2 year old is able to help clean up his toys.

BRowell 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Bristol, TN, United States 3721 posts
status 24th Mar '13

As long as he can understand the consequences of not cleaning up his toys then I think it's fine.

SubLowe 1 child; Oceanside, California 15389 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Tori Loutzenhiser:" I don't think it's too harsh. I put up my 2 year olds toys if he won't help pick them up. I just make sure to do it in front of him so he sees that they're gone."


he sees that you will put them away anyways? thats what he sees

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
24th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting OneLoveMama:</b>" um yes! 2 years old? kids learn from immitating until they are 7. you cannot expect a 2 year old to clean ... [snip!] ... put a couple toys away. He is not a mini adult. and punishment for not putting toys away at 2 years old is crossing a line imo"</blockquote>



Are you serious? My son watched and learned at a few months old. By a year he helped. By 2 I sat on the floor and coached him while demonstrating and he did most of the basic cleanup.



At 3 he puts laundry in the hamper, trash in the trash, toys in their proper places, dishes in the sink or dishwasher, and helps load the washer and empty the dryer and even helps put away his own folded clothes. I reward him for doing well, but if he flat refuses to do his chores, he loses privileges (toys, dessert, game time, etc)

Derp Due January 10; 1 child; Camp Lejeune, NC, United States 11596 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting OneLoveMama:" um yes! 2 years old? kids learn from immitating until they are 7. you cannot expect a 2 year old to clean ... [snip!] ... put a couple toys away. He is not a mini adult. and punishment for not putting toys away at 2 years old is crossing a line imo"

Most two year olds are more than capable of understanding the simple request of picking toys up after playtime. It's a great way to lay a solid foundation so you don't run into issues later on. It's not crossing a line, at least not in my opinion.

Laura [Syltherin] 3 kids; Florida 12072 posts
24th Mar '13

Mine are two and four and know exactly what clean up means. I don't care if they put things in the correct bin but if they make the mess, i expect help with cleaning it up.



If they don't help, any toys left on the floor will usually be mine for the following day.

j0des(+2) 18 kids; Virginia 5095 posts
24th Mar '13

Hey, whatever works for you..



I always have my kids help me put up their toys. My 14 month old helps too..even when he spills snacks. I praise them and tell them.. Good job! Thank you for helping, youre my big helper! It gets it get done easier and we are both happier.



However, when they make not so good choices, there are consequences. If I ask them to do something and they dont do it.. I take away a toy, treat, or activity. But, I dont follow them around telling them to fo things all day either..theyre kids. I nicely suggest they put things up and I also advise them to pick up or theyll trip over toys. I organize so its easier for both myself and them to keep the house tidy.I have toy otomans and bins everywhere lol

human making in progress 2 kids; Port Orchard, Washington 7986 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting OneLoveMama:" um yes! 2 years old? kids learn from immitating until they are 7. you cannot expect a 2 year old to clean ... [snip!] ... put a couple toys away. He is not a mini adult. and punishment for not putting toys away at 2 years old is crossing a line imo"


so would you suggest not punishing a child for not cleaning up until they are seven then?
I knew I had to clean up my toys for as long as I can remember, and knew that if I didnt that mom would come in with a trash bag and throw them all away. lol. my favorites of course she would let me keep, but kept them up for a few days.