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Estranged :/ Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
24th Mar '13

I'm estranged from my mom and sister, and for damn good reasons. My mom pulled shit with my grandparents for the holiday all "if K and DH are there, we won't be," which got US uninvited but my mom got my ex to take DD over tere even though I told everyone they couldn't just uninvited us to f**king Christmas and expect our kids to be there.



ANYWAY. This all because I set reasonable therapist-suggested boundaries on our relationship and they refuse to follow the rules. Not my problem. My grandparents think it's my problem and I should just not make them follow the rules if they buck. Not gonna happen. DH and I decided no more family thanksgiving/Christmas shit. Unless we are expressly invited, we aren't going/planning on going.



So, we actually got invited to Easter dinner (which I was not expecting) but wh**e queen and b***h princess are going to be there.



What do I do now????

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16230 posts
24th Mar '13

Do you think there will be confrontation if you go? If so, don't do it.

Little Bit's Momma Due October 21 (boy); 33 kids; North Richland Hills, Texas 7479 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Sneakthief:" I'm estranged from my mom and sister, and for damn good reasons. My mom pulle shit with my grandparents ... [snip!] ... to Easter dinner (which I was not expecting) but wh**e queen and b***h princess are going to be there. What do I do now????"


Honestly, stick to your guns. If they refuse to respect boundaries, then I wouldn't be around them personally.

Fur_Cue 4 kids; Dundee, United Kingdom 1222 posts
24th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sneakthief:</b>" I'm estranged from my mom and sister, and for damn good reasons. My mom pulle shit with my grandparents ... [snip!] ... to Easter dinner (which I was not expecting) but wh**e queen and b***h princess are going to be there. What do I do now????"</blockquote>



Don't go. Simples! Why cause yourself the head ache

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
24th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LA REINA

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16230 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Sneakthief:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LA REINA
Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
24th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sneakthief:</b>" I'm estranged from my mom and sister, and for ... [snip!] ... princess are going to be there. What do I do now????"</blockquote> Don't go. Simples! Why cause yourself the head ache"</blockquote>




Because then -I'm- the one being petty, or at least that's how it will be viewed.
I'd also like to spend time with extended family, DH and I won't start shit but TWTB can't live without it.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
24th Mar '13

Hard to say when I don't know the reason why you are estranged. If it was a pretty good reason I would think the family would back you up instead of saying its your problem and I wouldn't even consider reconciliation

The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1215 posts
24th Mar '13

Can you sniff it out and find out if they are willing to be civil or if there is likely to be a big blow up there? Maybe they're wanting to reconcile? If they are wanting that, maybe this could be a good step?

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
24th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" Hard to say when I don't know the reason why you are estranged. If it was a pretty good reason I would ... [snip!] ... I would think the family would back you up instead of saying its your problem and I wouldn't even consider reconciliation"</blockquote>



About 6+ years of abuse and stealing my daughter.

Fur_Cue 4 kids; Dundee, United Kingdom 1222 posts
25th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sneakthief:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sneakthief:</b>" ... [snip!] ... it will be viewed. I'd also like to spend time with extended family, DH and I won't start shit but TWTB can't live without it."</blockquote>



Who cares what they think? Screw them..