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Estranged :/ Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
24th Mar '13

I'm estranged from my mom and sister, and for damn good reasons. My mom pulled shit with my grandparents for the holiday all "if K and DH are there, we won't be," which got US uninvited but my mom got my ex to take DD over tere even though I told everyone they couldn't just uninvited us to f**king Christmas and expect our kids to be there.



ANYWAY. This all because I set reasonable therapist-suggested boundaries on our relationship and they refuse to follow the rules. Not my problem. My grandparents think it's my problem and I should just not make them follow the rules if they buck. Not gonna happen. DH and I decided no more family thanksgiving/Christmas shit. Unless we are expressly invited, we aren't going/planning on going.



So, we actually got invited to Easter dinner (which I was not expecting) but wh**e queen and b***h princess are going to be there.



What do I do now????

LA REINA™ Chicago, IL, United States 15863 posts
24th Mar '13

Do you think there will be confrontation if you go? If so, don't do it.

Little Bit's Momma Due October 21; 33 kids; North Richland Hills, Texas 7479 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Sneakthief:" I'm estranged from my mom and sister, and for damn good reasons. My mom pulle shit with my grandparents ... [snip!] ... to Easter dinner (which I was not expecting) but wh**e queen and b***h princess are going to be there. What do I do now????"


Honestly, stick to your guns. If they refuse to respect boundaries, then I wouldn't be around them personally.

Fur_Cue 4 kids; Dundee, United Kingdom 1222 posts
24th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sneakthief:</b>" I'm estranged from my mom and sister, and for damn good reasons. My mom pulle shit with my grandparents ... [snip!] ... to Easter dinner (which I was not expecting) but wh**e queen and b***h princess are going to be there. What do I do now????"</blockquote>



Don't go. Simples! Why cause yourself the head ache

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
24th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LA REINA

LA REINA™ Chicago, IL, United States 15863 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Sneakthief:" <blockquote><b>Quoting LA REINA
Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
24th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sneakthief:</b>" I'm estranged from my mom and sister, and for ... [snip!] ... princess are going to be there. What do I do now????"</blockquote> Don't go. Simples! Why cause yourself the head ache"</blockquote>




Because then -I'm- the one being petty, or at least that's how it will be viewed.
I'd also like to spend time with extended family, DH and I won't start shit but TWTB can't live without it.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26; 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
24th Mar '13

Hard to say when I don't know the reason why you are estranged. If it was a pretty good reason I would think the family would back you up instead of saying its your problem and I wouldn't even consider reconciliation

The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1215 posts
24th Mar '13

Can you sniff it out and find out if they are willing to be civil or if there is likely to be a big blow up there? Maybe they're wanting to reconcile? If they are wanting that, maybe this could be a good step?

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
24th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Onalee's Mummy:</b>" Hard to say when I don't know the reason why you are estranged. If it was a pretty good reason I would ... [snip!] ... I would think the family would back you up instead of saying its your problem and I wouldn't even consider reconciliation"</blockquote>



About 6+ years of abuse and stealing my daughter.

Fur_Cue 4 kids; Dundee, United Kingdom 1222 posts
25th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sneakthief:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Talena_caro:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sneakthief:</b>" ... [snip!] ... it will be viewed. I'd also like to spend time with extended family, DH and I won't start shit but TWTB can't live without it."</blockquote>



Who cares what they think? Screw them..