Quoting Leiaaaa:" no job, but hopefully soon. and no i havent because i cant afford a lawyer. hes been absent basically my sons whole life. im afraid if i do, he will fight for custody and i will lose."
You don't need an attorney to file for child support or custody. I never did.
You choosing not to get the help you're entitled to, and hoping the govt will pick up that slack isn't fair to tax payers.
Custody will go the parent who has actually been a parent. That's how the justice system works.
You need to do that you need to do for your child, and you need to start by getting custody and child support. You child's father clearly has no interest in being a father, so your "he's going to fight for custody and win" excuse is bullshit. You know damn well he doesn't want to be a single full time dad any more than you don't want him to be.
Quoting Leiaaaa:" when my son was first born they filed for child support and my sons father filled it out and sent it ... [snip!] ... of us heard anything back. and then i started to worry that if i try again he will fight me because thats what he threatened. "
And you believe him? Because he's shown how bad he wants to be a full time single father? No.
Go to the courts and ask for the papers to file for child support and custody. Don't sit there any lollygag about papers being mailed in and hearing nothing. Get shit done. You clearly don't have the money to raise the child on your own, and you're entitled to support from your child's father, so get it.
Quoting Leiaaaa:" can you please tell me the process of filing and finally receiving child support because clearly im not understanding."
Get in car.
Go to court.
Walk in court.
Ask for papers to file for child support.
Ask for papers to file for custody.
Fill out both papers.
Give papers back to person who gave you papers.
Quoting Red Bottom:" And you believe him? Because he's shown how bad he wants to be a full time single father? No. Go to ... [snip!] ... don't have the money to raise the child on your own, and you're entitled to support from your child's father, so get it. "
OP - you need to stop waiting around for someone else to help you....no one is going to get you a job, or a car, or an apartment. You need to step up and do this for yourself.