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Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
24th Mar '13

I wouldn't have given him a bottle. That's a whole cycle of bad you just started.

Mommmm Due February 14; 17 kids; Colorado 390 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I just wouldn't let him have it. At 4 they're old enough to understand and begin to reason. I'd offer a cup, maybe even a sippy cup, but not a bottle. Ever."


I feel like I am neglecting him as he cries for one, my sister just said to give it to him if he wont stop. I feel wrong for giving it to him but what else am I suppose to do

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting IrishTwins91213:" Easy for you to say, hes still sobbing with it. There is obviously something he needs extra comfort for"


Have you talked to him & asked him WHY?



I get that he may need extra comfort.. Trust me, I get it, I let my child have a bottle over the age of 2 because I felt he needed extra comfort in it. But I would never go BACK with it...

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
24th Mar '13

I don't ever let my four year old "demand" anything. I could never see him wanting a bottle. Have you talked to your sister about this? Honestly, that would really have me concerned.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting IrishTwins91213:" I feel like I am neglecting him as he cries for one, my sister just said to give it to him if he wont stop. I feel wrong for giving it to him but what else am I suppose to do"

Not give it to him.



Or give him something gross in it.



Like decaf since most kids don't like coffee or cranberry juice.

Mommmm Due February 14; 17 kids; Colorado 390 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" <blockquote><b>Quoting IrishTwins91213:</b>" Easy for you to say, hes still sobbing ... [snip!] ... Then find another way. He is way to old for a bottle. It's not addressing the root issue either. What's his mom say?"


I was told to just give it to him, I tried to comfort him

Not tellin 3 kids; Montana 55982 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting IrishTwins91213:" I just caved in and gave almost 4 year old a bottle for the second night in a row, its my nephew and ... [snip!] ... world would make him demand a bottle! He hasn't had a bottle in over two years! Has anybody else have a child go through this?"



WHAT!?!?!? Why is he asking for a bottle? Has he been thru something traumatic?

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting IrishTwins91213:" I feel like I am neglecting him as he cries for one, my sister just said to give it to him if he wont stop. I feel wrong for giving it to him but what else am I suppose to do"


I believe you & your sister are more so neglecting him by not finding out the real issue & just putting a bottle in his mouth...

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting IrishTwins91213:" I feel like I am neglecting him as he cries for one, my sister just said to give it to him if he wont stop. I feel wrong for giving it to him but what else am I suppose to do"


I'm sorry but I don't care how much my kid cries if it's not something good for him, physically, emotionally or whatever, I'm not gonna give it to him. Period. There's a difference between comforting a child and giving in to a child's demands.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting ma ♥:" I believe you & your sister are more so neglecting him by not finding out the real issue & just putting a bottle in his mouth..."


Agreed.

Mommmm Due February 14; 17 kids; Colorado 390 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting ma ♥:" Have you talked to him & asked him WHY? I get that he may need extra comfort.. Trust me, I get ... [snip!] ... let my child have a bottle over the age of 2 because I felt he needed extra comfort in it. But I would never go BACK with it..."


He would not answer me when I asked why, and proceeded to cry more for it. As soon as he got it he started to calm down, im at loss what else I am suppose to do at such a late hour with others trying to sleep in the house.

user banned New York 15996 posts
24th Mar '13

Makes you seem a bit lazy also.

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5422 posts
24th Mar '13

Maybe ask him if he would like a cup/sippy to drink and to cuddle while he drinks his drink?
Maybe he is needing extra comfort/soothing so if you hold him close rub his back while he drink a sippy that would be good middle ground.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I'm sorry but I don't care how much my kid cries if it's not something good for him, physically, emotionally ... [snip!] ... I'm not gonna give it to him. Period. There's a difference between comforting a child and giving in to a child's demands."

Right! Because if my daughter screamed for 30 minutes because she wanted a giant candy bar, or even a beer I would not give it to her. IMO it is the same thing.