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ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting IrishTwins91213:" I was just trying to calm him down, how do you calm down a child who wont even listen to what your trying to say? He has never behaved like this before, so I gave in"


I'm assuming you're babysitting for your sister, right?
Do you think maybe she still gives him a bottle all of the time, but is embarrassed to tell you so, so she makes you believe the child is weaned of the bottle when he really isn't? That would make sense as to why he "demanded" the bottle... Idk, just a thought..

Mommmm Due February 14; 17 kids; Colorado 390 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting IrishTwins91213:</b>" im not being lazy im just at loss for ... [snip!] ... you've done all that and he's calmed down try to get to the bottom of what could be going on that is causing him to regress."


I am going to try this tomorrow before this whole thing happens again, I didn't think much of it last night besides him missing his mom but now that its happening again, there is obviously something bigger especially when hes not crying for mommy first.

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5396 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Asher and Haddie's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting IrishTwins91213:</b>" im not being lazy im just at loss for ... [snip!] ... you've done all that and he's calmed down try to get to the bottom of what could be going on that is causing him to regress."



This is really great advice :D.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Smokey_Taboo:" Dont call her lazy, she just feeling helpless.. Come one what mother hasnt felt helpless at times, especially ... [snip!] ... easier to put on the tv for 20mins while you finish up the dishes then having abunch of screaming toddlers running around lol.."


Yeah we all do stuff to make things easier. But when there's obviously an underlying issue, and not trying to help the child, I'm inclined to call that more than lazy. I don't care if it's not her kid. If my niece and nephew were that upset and obviously distraught over something that it altered their daily behavior I'd be ALL over trying to fix it. Shit I noticed an issue my brother and sister hadn't (a 12 year old boy paying too much attention to my 7 year old niece) so I ADDRESSED THE ISSUE. I had to have the good touch bad touch conversation with her, and deal with speaking to the boys mother about it. I politely told her that if I ever found out her son touched my baby girl that I'd castrate her boy.

Kimmy Gibbler 2 kids; Grapevine, Texas 8039 posts
24th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting IrishTwins91213:</b>" I am going to try this tomorrow before this whole thing happens again, I didn't think much of it last ... [snip!] ... his mom but now that its happening again, there is obviously something bigger especially when hes not crying for mommy first."</blockquote>




I'm sorry you're having to deal with all that. I'm sorry that your sister didn't give you better advice. If my sister called me telling me that my son was going nuts for a bottle, I would have made her put him on the phone and would have had that conversation myself.

Mommmm Due February 14; 17 kids; Colorado 390 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting ma ♥:" I'm assuming you're babysitting for your sister, right? Do you think maybe she still gives him a bottle ... [snip!] ... is weaned of the bottle when he really isn't? That would make sense as to why he "demanded" the bottle... Idk, just a thought.."


I have watched him over nights a number of times and he has never behaved like this. I dont think I have ever seen him freak out so badly, for sure not the easy going kid im use to, the only way I can see him wanting the bottle is for attention but he didnt stop even with all focus on him

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5396 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Yeah we all do stuff to make things easier. But when there's obviously an underlying issue, and not ... [snip!] ... the boys mother about it. I politely told her that if I ever found out her son touched my baby girl that I'd castrate her boy."


Im not a fan of bringing someone down that already is stressed and probably feeling pretty crappy.. We are mothers shouldnt be so quick to jump the gun on one another and assume the worst, especially when they are obviously here seeking advice.



Im really glad you where able to check that with your niece, Im sure she knows hows how protected and loved she is by her aunt.

Mommmm Due February 14; 17 kids; Colorado 390 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Yeah we all do stuff to make things easier. But when there's obviously an underlying issue, and not ... [snip!] ... the boys mother about it. I politely told her that if I ever found out her son touched my baby girl that I'd castrate her boy."


That is much different then giving a 4 year old a bottle, yes there is most likely and underlining cause as to why he wants it but in order to make him relax I gave him a bottle, the same as if your child is scared of the dark and you give them a night light. I realize that its not normal for a 4 year old to cry for a bottle but I guess it made him feel safe at this moment. I came on here not to be judged, more so to get advice on what to do im far from the perfect aunt and my daughter has yet to cause any tantrums

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5396 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting IrishTwins91213:" I have watched him over nights a number of times and he has never behaved like this. I dont think I ... [snip!] ... kid im use to, the only way I can see him wanting the bottle is for attention but he didnt stop even with all focus on him"


In the future if this happens again if your sister is ok with the no bottle rule. I would stick with. Give him a safe to cry/tantrum and just tell him when he is calm and ready to talk you are here and you can cuddle with him while he drinks from a sippy cup. I would really empathize on replacing the comfort he trying to seek with the bottle.

Mommmm Due February 14; 17 kids; Colorado 390 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting Smokey_Taboo:" In the future if this happens again if your sister is ok with the no bottle rule. I would stick with. ... [snip!] ... him while he drinks from a sippy cup. I would really empathize on replacing the comfort he trying to seek with the bottle. "


I am going to sit down with him tomorrow and ask him why seeing as how he was his normal self all day today. Thanks

ma ♥ 1 child; California 63053 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting IrishTwins91213:" That is much different then giving a 4 year old a bottle, yes there is most likely and underlining cause ... [snip!] ... to be judged, more so to get advice on what to do im far from the perfect aunt and my daughter has yet to cause any tantrums"


I don't know any parent that hasn't given in once or twice when their child was throwing a fit. We've all done it.
Anyway, maybe you & your sister should sit down & talk to him when he's feeling normal again, like tomorrow or sometime... make him explain to you why he wants a bottle & have him come up with some ideas, other than a bottle, that will help him feel secure.

Mommmm Due February 14; 17 kids; Colorado 390 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting ma ♥:" I don't know any parent that hasn't given in once or twice when their child was throwing a fit. We've ... [snip!] ... to you why he wants a bottle & have him come up with some ideas, other than a bottle, that will help him feel secure."


I am going to try that tomorrow thanks

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting IrishTwins91213:" That is much different then giving a 4 year old a bottle, yes there is most likely and underlining cause ... [snip!] ... to be judged, more so to get advice on what to do im far from the perfect aunt and my daughter has yet to cause any tantrums"



I did give you advice, annnnd you ignored it?

Mommmm Due February 14; 17 kids; Colorado 390 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I did give you advice, annnnd you ignored it?"


I didn't ignore it

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49251 posts
24th Mar '13
Quoting IrishTwins91213:" I didn't ignore it"


So you've looked into a substitution that I showed you?