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What happened to her Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
25th Mar '13

Its like when my daughter got close to 8 months old a switch flipped. She used to be so sweet and independent and now all she does is follow me around screaming. I can't cook, clean or even go pee without her screaming nonstop. She doesn't sleep at night anymore and she wakes up in the middle of the night and starts screaming. I am at the end of my rope I am going insane. And before any one suggests baby wearing it is impossible for me right now she is almost 18lbs and I am in physical therapy because the pregnancy ripped apart my muscles in my stomach and back so I am not supposed to carry her for more then a few minutes at a time.

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
25th Mar '13

Teething?

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
25th Mar '13

That might be part of the problem. At that age some babes get really attached and need lots of physical attention. Maybe sitting on the couch and holding her or laying on the floor with her.
I know you have to get things done around the house, so talk to get the whole time you're busy. Narrate what you're doing, show her things "Look, now mommy is going to put this plate in the dishwasher. This plate is white. Get in there white plate!" Just make everything fun and keep her involved.
This is normal for her age and its also normal for their sleep to get out of whack. It could be a growth spurt if she wants to eat more often, nightmares, or just sleep regression. All you can do is give her plenty of living attention and let her outgrow this phase.

Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
25th Mar '13

no she has been teething for the last 6 months and its not teething. She has been sick for the last 3 months but as soon as she started crawling properly she started doing this. She follows me around like a lost puppy just screaming nonstop. If I pick her up she wiggles around grabbing at me pinching me and crying. She has become my personal nightmare. I feel bad because I have actually started hiding from her just to get away from her

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
25th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jeeper:</b>" no she has been teething for the last 6 months and its not teething. She has been sick for the last 3 ... [snip!] ... She has become my personal nightmare. I feel bad because I have actually started hiding from her just to get away from her"</blockquote>




She picks up on your frustration. I know it can be very annoying, but just always talk to her and make eye contact from time to time. Smile and try to stay positive. She will pick up on it and copy you.



Have you ruled out an ear infection?

Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting A is Me:" That might be part of the problem. At that age some babes get really attached and need lots of physical ... [snip!] ... nightmares, or just sleep regression. All you can do is give her plenty of living attention and let her outgrow this phase."

I have tried doing that she just screams over my voice and can't hear what I am saying. She has been spending a lot of time in her crib lately so I can get chores done without falling over her. She still needs to eat and so do I and she can't be under my feet while I am cooking with hot pans I would rather her cry in her crib for 20 minutes then me drop a pan full of boiling food in her and burn her

Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting A is Me:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jeeper:</b>" no she has been teething for the last 6 months ... [snip!] ... from time to time. Smile and try to stay positive. She will pick up on it and copy you. Have you ruled out an ear infection?"

Yes she gets checked biweekly for ear infections because we almost had to get ear tubes there are no ear infections thankfully.

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
25th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jeeper:</b>" I have tried doing that she just screams over my voice and can't hear what I am saying. She has been ... [snip!] ... with hot pans I would rather her cry in her crib for 20 minutes then me drop a pan full of boiling food in her and burn her"</blockquote>




You can't put her where she can still see you? Like in a jumper or pack n play? Isolating her is only making things worse.

Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting A is Me:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jeeper:</b>" I have tried doing that she just screams over my ... [snip!] ... You can't put her where she can still see you? Like in a jumper or pack n play? Isolating her is only making things worse."

I don't have a jumper and the pack and play stays at my parents for when we visit there. I put a gate up at the kitchen but she just stands there at the gate screaming at the top of her lungs. I have 2 roommates and all 3 of us are college students and they need to study. The worst part is if I leave and she stays with my roommates or her father comes over she will sit and quietly play and won't cry at all but as soon as I walk back into the room she starts screaming again. Also she doesn't scream at night if I don't sleep in our room so I have been sleeping on the couch

Denise87 Due April 6; Indiana 321 posts
25th Mar '13

My little girl began doing this as well about 9 months old. she still does it and she will be 1 in 2 weeks. I don't isolate her because that just makes the problem worse for us. I put her in a jumperoo(which she loves), her exersaucer, or her high chair with some toys so that she can still be in the room with me but not be in harms way. It is frustrating but it is a phase. they will grow out of it :) hang in there

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
25th Mar '13

It's separation anxiety, momma. You say this started when she started crawling? That's when the whole concept of "if I can leave the room, so can mommy" kicks in. Happened with my daughter and we're on week 4 of it with our son. It gets better.

Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting Denise87:" My little girl began doing this as well about 9 months old. she still does it and she will be 1 in 2 ... [snip!] ... be in the room with me but not be in harms way. It is frustrating but it is a phase. they will grow out of it :) hang in there"

Oh please don't say it's going to last that long. I put her in her crib because the screaming stop when she is in her crib and she will play with her stuffed animals in her crib. If I put her anywhere that she can see me she just screams and screams and screams. I think the fact that I am a single mom adds to my frustration because I have NO help at all. I hope she grows out of this soon I feel like she hates me.

A is Me 1 child; South Carolina 3782 posts
25th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jeeper:</b>" I don't have a jumper and the pack and play stays at my parents for when we visit there. I put a gate ... [snip!] ... she starts screaming again. Also she doesn't scream at night if I don't sleep in our room so I have been sleeping on the couch"</blockquote>




She wants to be near you. There's nothing wrong with that. You have to give her the attention she needs because she's an infant and she needs MOMMY'S love for her well being.
I cooked with my son on the kitchen floor. It can be done. Hold her and play on the floor with her when your hands aren't busy stirring or chopping.
Stop putting her where she can't see you. That is like torture for a baby. That would get any baby more upset. Plus, if she cries and cries, she's learning that she has to cry and cry to get your attention. It's not being clingy, it really is a need at that age to be close to mother.
So there's no easy fix here. It all starts with a total change of attitude. That she's not trying to be annoying, clingy, or drive you crazy. She doesn't enjoy being upset. She NEEDS you and screaming is her only way to communicate that. Make her a priority and work your daily tasks around her, not the other way around. You'll see a big difference once she begins to trust that you are always there.



Oh and the reason she may not cry when you leave her with others is because she's being stimulated by the other adults so she might not even think about missing you. That's normal for her age, too. Give her plenty of things to keep her busy while you're busy. (Once again, where she can SEE YOU)

Jeeper 1 child; Orlando, Florida 2287 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting A is Me:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jeeper:</b>" I don't have a jumper and the pack and play stays ... [snip!] ... normal for her age, too. Give her plenty of things to keep her busy while you're busy. (Once again, where she can SEE YOU)"

I have tried all of that. If I get in the floor with her she climbs up on me screaming I pick her up and she screams. I play with her she is screaming. I leave the room and my roommate puts her on the floor with her toys and ignores her and she plays quietly on the floor with her toys (the same ones I give her and try to play with her with) until I walk back in and then she starts screaming again. I tried letting her in the kitchen last night while I was cooking and she literally sat on my feet and started screaming. The only time she isn't screaming is when I am not in her sight.

Denise87 Due April 6; Indiana 321 posts
25th Mar '13

It is super frustrating, I totally understand! Just keep telling yourself that it will pass. If she will play in her crib then there is nothing wrong with that. My little girl always had a bigger fit if she couldn't see me :( I hope for your sake it is a short phase