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Don't know what to do --K-- 2 kids; Romania 3189 posts
25th Mar '13

I've been fretting about this since I found out I'm pregnant: I don't know who is going to watch my DS while I am in labor.



I was going to ask my brother but his wife is due the 17th of July so they will have their hands full on my due date.



My mum is the only person who watches him and she says she wants to be there when I have the baby and we will figure it out later but I don't want to wait.



I told her I would seriously rather labor alone and know my DS is safe with her then be worrying about him, she won't listen. (This LO's dad should be here, he says he wants to be, but I'm not sure what happens when you get out of boot camp or even if he will be out by then.)



His sperm doner is who knows where strung out and homeless so I'm not considering him an option.

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
25th Mar '13

I would start interviewing babysitters now then.

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
25th Mar '13

I'd really press my Mother and tell her that your LO being watched is more important than her being there when you're in labor. You won't be alone, there is hospital staff to help and support you. I know it's not the same but having care for your older child is a little more important.

justanotherchicken Alabama 2402 posts
25th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 4 til Gwen:</b>" I would start interviewing babysitters now then."</blockquote>




This!
Do you have family daycare available there?

--K-- 2 kids; Romania 3189 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting Just Ames:" I'd really press my Mother and tell her that your LO being watched is more important than her being there ... [snip!] ... staff to help and support you. I know it's not the same but having care for your older child is a little more important."


I know the staff will be there, to her that is alone though.
I'm think I'll have to be more firm about it. I'll probably talk to her again tonight.
We live with her so its not hard to find time lol.

--K-- 2 kids; Romania 3189 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting Kiki~2boys:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 4 til Gwen:</b>" I would start interviewing babysitters now then."</blockquote> This! Do you have family daycare available there?"


What is family daycare?

Just Ames 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Montego Bay, Jamaica 114793 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting Katie♥Hippoand#2:" I know the staff will be there, to her that is alone though. I'm think I'll have to be more firm about it. I'll probably talk to her again tonight. We live with her so its not hard to find time lol."

We do not have family close to us and if it came down to it, my Husband would have stayed with our Son. Of course we didn't want that but I mean what are you supposed to do? Your child needs to be looked after you know?

tonys_mama(army wife) 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Fort Irwin, California 15523 posts
25th Mar '13

Having him there with you is an option. Both of my kids were in the delivery room when I had my youngest dd. it was a great experience to have them there with me. My mom and husband were also there with me so I didn't have watch/care for the much.

Mrs. Curtis 1 child; Lompoc, California 1996 posts
25th Mar '13

do you have a neighbor you trust?? or even the parents of one of his friends that lives close?



if we were in that situation i know our neighbor 2 houses down would watch him. even with the 4 kids they have.. if someone is a parent themselves they are more likely to help since they know you cant take LO with you.

justanotherchicken Alabama 2402 posts
25th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Katie♥Hippoand#2:</b>" What is family daycare?"</blockquote>




It's like long day care(at a facility) but its done at the carers home, just with stricter rules and policies. Some of them can offer over night care too.



I think if you rather your mum though then tell her you insist!

tooodles 240 kids; Thailand 5075 posts
25th Mar '13

I was in the same situation but thankfully I had my baby during the day time so my oldest was able to be in daycare and my mom left after I had the baby to go get him. Had I gone into labor any time after 6pm I would of labored alone which wasnt a big deal to me but it was to my mom. She wanted to be there for me but I like being alone so it wasnt an issue for me.

--K-- 2 kids; Romania 3189 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting Deborah B.:" do you have a neighbor you trust?? or even the parents of one of his friends that lives close? if we ... [snip!] ... 4 kids they have.. if someone is a parent themselves they are more likely to help since they know you cant take LO with you."


No :/
I don't know any of my neighbors and the only friend of his I know have a baby too (I'm not sure how old she is now)
I might ask someone from his daycare though if my mum seriously won't. I trust them.

--K-- 2 kids; Romania 3189 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):" Having him there with you is an option. Both of my kids were in the delivery room when I had my youngest ... [snip!] ... experience to have them there with me. My mom and husband were also there with me so I didn't have watch/care for the much."


I think that would stress me out too. He would want to be as close to me as he could and I wouldn't want to show any pain.

The Bear and The Bird 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42577 posts
25th Mar '13

You might be able to go to a daycare center and ask them about a temporary drop-in enrollment for a few days while you labor and recover. My daughter's school offers it but not all do.