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yo moyo 1 child; Ishim, Russian Federation 1335 posts
25th Mar '13

When it comes to lying to your kids, would you tell your child if the dog died? Say to a 3 year old?
Regarding Santa, he knows about him but I'm not sure if he thinks he's real or not. We live in Russia and here nobody thinks Santa is real, it's just something people dress up as.

Leah+2 2 kids; Texas 5797 posts
25th Mar '13

Santa and the Easter bunny and what not are for fun. My son believes in them but we only do a small amount of gifts from them (like one or two) then the rest from us.



I do NOT lie to my son about anything else though. Like if medicine is going to taste good or if a shot is going to hurt or if we're going somewhere. My mom's husband is notorious for doing that last bit to my son. He ALWAYS tells him "I'll come see you later and we can play "" and then never shows up. It pisses me off to no end. My son is three and had a great memory for his age so he remembers and asks about it and I have to be the one that says sorry he never showed. And then console the hurt feelings and sometimes tears that follow :(

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
25th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting momento mori:</b>" When it comes to lying to your kids, would you tell your child if the dog died? Say to a 3 year old? ... [snip!] ... if he thinks he's real or not. We live in Russia and here nobody thinks Santa is real, it's just something people dress up as."</blockquote>



Yes. Our family dog died when she was 3 and she knows. She still talks about it. I'm very real about death. She's been to 3 funerals and she's 5.

~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
25th Mar '13

I think it's pretty much IMPOSSIBLE for children in 2013 to fully wholeheartedly believe in santa or the easter bunny- I mean, haven't they ever seen TV? Or the internet? LOL We do the santa/easter bunny thing here- BUT we also dress up all the time too. It's a normal thing around here to dress up as a member of KISS or whatever- for no reason at all- because it's a way we spend time together and it's fun. DD is only 4, but she knows ALL about character and mascot costuming, so she can tell in a way that Santa or the easter bunny is nothing but a person all dressed up. I will teach her not to ruin it for any kids who MAY actually believe.



I mean, we have some Disney mascot costumes, and DD had Minnie and Mickey at her birthday party- and me dressed up as Snow White- does that mean she believed I was REALLY Snow White, and Minnie and Mickey were real? No. She knew my boyfriend was in one, and a friend was in the other- and she thought it was awesome- and had a blast. It's all in good fun around here, it's like halloween 24/7 LOL :lol:

~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting momento mori:" When it comes to lying to your kids, would you tell your child if the dog died? Say to a 3 year old? ... [snip!] ... if he thinks he's real or not. We live in Russia and here nobody thinks Santa is real, it's just something people dress up as."

My daughter just turned 4 and she knows what death is- or at least gets the concept. Having a fish tank is a good way of explaining it from an early age- for us it is anyways. When a fish passes away, we talk about it, and she understands. I don't think it's a bad thing for a child to learn about the stages of life from an early age.

Dean Winchester 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Alaska 16777 posts
25th Mar '13

we love santa and the easter bunny.. and the tooth fairy and all of those.



i never thought my parents were lying to me... (til they started making me play santa for my lil sisters.. lol)



but i loved it. and still love the idea. i am starting to introduce the religious aspects of it, we are not completely religious but i would like my daughter to choose for herself on that end.



its imagination. its fun. and its just been a tradition in my family.

Soon to be 4<3 Due January 10 (girl); 1 child; Texas 2197 posts
status 25th Mar '13

I grew up believing in Santa and tooth fairy not the easter bunny though, but Iddidn't grow up hating my parents for it lol. I honestly can't wait till DS is older so we can do Elf on a shelf.

Dean Winchester 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Alaska 16777 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting *Mama de Nathan*:" I grew up believing in Santa and tooth fairy not the easter bunny though, but Iddidn't grow up hating my parents for it lol. I honestly can't wait till DS is older so we can do Elf on a shelf."


omgoodness DD loves hers!!



its wayyyy after christmas and she draws her elf pictures and talks about her constantly. i was so happy i started that last year.