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Zombie Mom ✄ 1 child; Washington 13824 posts
25th Mar '13

ok to everyone that says not to spank her.. do you have 4+ year olds that went through the same thing even to the point of grinding on other people (family members?) please tell me that is not disgusting.... it's gone on a VERY LONG time, and i use to talk to her about it. i told her it was inappropriate, not that it's bad. and told her not to do it. hoping she would just quit doing it all together... but it's just escalated and im tired of it :(

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
25th Mar '13

You have to remember that in her little mind, it's no different than scratching an itch, or doing anything else. She doesn't think of it as sexual.

Amber Mosher 1 child; Rochelle, Illinois 1860 posts
25th Mar '13

Masturbating is a NATURAL thing and not spanking worthy. I would tell her that it's better to do it in private than to do it in front of other people. And like what was said before, are you going to spank her if you catch doing it as a teenager?



Some people, I swear.....

The ℰffin' D! 2 kids; New York 26316 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting Zombie Mom ✄:" ok to everyone that says not to spank her.. do you have 4+ year olds that went through the same thing ... [snip!] ... and told her not to do it. hoping she would just quit doing it all together... but it's just escalated and im tired of it :( "


She doesn't understand it like we do. She doesn't see it as a disgusting thing to do. It's like an itch that she can't seem to scratch, if you know what I mean.

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49446 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):" <blockquote><b>Quoting Zombie Mom ✄:</b>" it's disgusting to watch. she knows ... [snip!] ... her isn't going to help anything. When she's doing it just make her go to her room so you don't have to watch her do it."

My daughter is almost 4 and I could never imagine spanking her for something like this

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" You have to remember that in her little mind, it's no different than scratching an itch, or doing anything else. She doesn't think of it as sexual. "

This.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting Zombie Mom ✄:" ok to everyone that says not to spank her.. do you have 4+ year olds that went through the same thing ... [snip!] ... and told her not to do it. hoping she would just quit doing it all together... but it's just escalated and im tired of it :( "


If you had been an effective parent in the first place, it would not have "escalated".

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting Zombie Mom ✄:" ok to everyone that says not to spank her.. do you have 4+ year olds that went through the same thing ... [snip!] ... and told her not to do it. hoping she would just quit doing it all together... but it's just escalated and im tired of it :( "


I've got 3 boys, all of whom have *gasp* discovered their privates. I had them go to their room, I didn't demand that they stop and act surprised when they didn't get it.



You need to get over whatever weird hang up you have, accept that she is going to do it, and put all that spanking effort into actually parenting.

Big D! Due October 7; 1 child; Escondido, California 9518 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting Zombie Mom ✄:" ok to everyone that says not to spank her.. do you have 4+ year olds that went through the same thing ... [snip!] ... and told her not to do it. hoping she would just quit doing it all together... but it's just escalated and im tired of it :( "

We have a 4 year old that won't sleep at nap time until she finishes and we put her cot behind a shelf and leave her alone. It's not disgusting and we don't tell her not to do it.

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49446 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting Zombie Mom ✄:" ok to everyone that says not to spank her.. do you have 4+ year olds that went through the same thing ... [snip!] ... and told her not to do it. hoping she would just quit doing it all together... but it's just escalated and im tired of it :( "

well get used to it because its going to continue to happen. She really does not know what she is doing, she just knows it feels good, and doesnt think its disgusting or doesnt think of it as sexual

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49446 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting FaithOne:" Sounds like Mommy needs to masturbate, so maybe she can chill out. "

I spit out my drink when I read this, lol

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" I've got 3 boys, all of whom have *gasp* discovered their privates. I had them go to their room, I didn't ... [snip!] ... whatever weird hang up you have, accept that she is going to do it, and put all that spanking effort into actually parenting. "



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Buzz and Almond Joys momm 2 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 12593 posts
25th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Zombie Mom ✄:</b>" ok to everyone that says not to spank her.. do you have 4+ year olds that went through the same thing ... [snip!] ... and told her not to do it. hoping she would just quit doing it all together... but it's just escalated and im tired of it :( "</blockquote>



Yes- as I said I did. My daughter is almost four. When I start seeing her getting ready to do it I tell her " young lady we both know what you are doing. Please go do it somewhere private". Sometimes she will try to do it and say she is not so then I picke her up and takeher to her room and tell her if she still wants to do it she can do it in there because its not for anyone to watch

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting Taryn - Anya's mommy:" I spit out my drink when I read this, lol"


:lol: I hope you aimed away from the computer.

JΔS Georgia 70888 posts
25th Mar '13
Quoting Zombie Mom ✄:" ok to everyone that says not to spank her.. do you have 4+ year olds that went through the same thing ... [snip!] ... and told her not to do it. hoping she would just quit doing it all together... but it's just escalated and im tired of it :( "


I have a 4 year old who went through a phase of touching herself. But I am adult enough to tell her to go to her room so that grinding on other family members wouldn't become an issue. Even if it did, I surely wouldn't spank her for it. What is that going to teach her? Absolutely nothing. She's 4, she's not stupid. You can explain this in the most simple way to her and she would understand. All you had to tell her was "do it in private sweetie". Period. Instead, you're so "disgusted" and you want to act like a kid about it. Its hilarious and sad at the same damn time.