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How to make my baby more flexible and adjusted to life whoknowsx New York, 1185 posts
26th Mar '13

Oh the title :shock: lol



My baby is what you would categorized as sensitive. He takes a while to adjust to many, many things. Case in point, wind. We pretty much stop going outside because he kept having panic attacks in the wind. He would hold his breath, body would go stiff, and then he would scream like he was being murdered. So fun.



Finally we kept dragging him outside when the weather got a bit warmer and on most days he does decent.



But the one thing he does not do well with is functioning away from stuff he is use to. And I am getting cabin fever.



My family wants us to go to a nice restaurant 30 minutes away for easter but now i'm nervous.. what if he gets tired? will he have a public meltdown? or can I just throw him in a wrap and get him to sleep? Obviously no one knows..



my question is what things can I do to encourage him to nap on the go sometimes? or even being away from our apt for longer than 1 hr?

Is this just a "keep trying and eventually he will adjust" thing? Or am I expecting too much out of my 5 1/2 month old?

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 22567 posts
26th Mar '13

my 4 year old is still like that when the wind slaps her in the face.



I think you should go ahead and take him to the restaurant, if he gets tired put him in the wrap for a nap

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 47188 posts
status 26th Mar '13

He isn't getting "panic attacks" because of the wind, and I wouldn't say that makes him "sensitive".



In a way, yes you are expecting too much. Babies don't nap on demand.



Just plan ahead of time, you'll be fine.

whoknowsx New York, 1185 posts
26th Mar '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" He isn't getting "panic attacks" because of the wind, and I wouldn't say that makes him "sensitive". ... [snip!] ... "sensitive". In a way, yes you are expecting too much. Babies don't nap on demand. Just plan ahead of time, you'll be fine."


I was just throwing words around. He just doesn't like the wind and I don't blame him... He is a sensitive baby. Perhaps not for that reason. But sensitive none the less.



I'm not asking him to nap on demand, I just want to figure out a way for him to nap outside of his crib/swing when he is tired.. perhaps in a wrap or the stroller if we aren't at home.
But maybe you are right, perhaps he is too young for that.

** 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Conway, Arkansas 3579 posts
26th Mar '13

Get him out of the house, push his comfort zones, the most ill adjusted kids are the ones who stay at home too much, are not socialized and the parents bend to that because they don't want to do anything he won't like. You have to remember, socialization is a VERY important part of his development, so my vote....do it anways, he will get used to it eventually

whoknowsx New York, 1185 posts
26th Mar '13
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♥ The Prodigy Due March 3 (boy); 33 kids; Perth, Australia 5617 posts
26th Mar '13

If he likes the swing I'm sure you'd be able to get him to sleep in the pram, pushing him back and forth. It's the only thing that worked for DS and I wouldn't say he is sensitive but a screamer, that he was! He also rarely napped at home anyway, but the pram thing always worked.

whoknowsx New York, 1185 posts
26th Mar '13
Quoting ♥ The Prodigy:" If he likes the swing I'm sure you'd be able to get him to sleep in the pram, pushing him back and forth. ... [snip!] ... say he is sensitive but a screamer, that he was! He also rarely napped at home anyway, but the pram thing always worked."


I can't remember the last time DS has fallen asleep int he stroller. But then again, we just stopped trying after the public wind meltdowns lol.



I might bring that and the wrap just in case.

whoknowsx New York, 1185 posts
26th Mar '13
Quoting Blythe.:" my 4 year old is still like that when the wind slaps her in the face. I think you should go ahead and take him to the restaurant, if he gets tired put him in the wrap for a nap"


Yeah I think i'll do that... and just go to the bathroom and run water and bounce to get him to sleep (since he naps with motion and white noise)

♥ The Prodigy Due March 3 (boy); 33 kids; Perth, Australia 5617 posts
26th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting whoknowsx:</b>" I can't remember the last time DS has fallen asleep int he stroller. But then again, we just stopped trying after the public wind meltdowns lol. I might bring that and the wrap just in case."</blockquote>




Do you have a rain cover that would block the wind? I always put it on, on really windy days, and perths one of the most windy cities in the world. He didn't like the wind much but wasn't too bad but he had many public meltdowns. Does the stroller face you?

♥ The Prodigy Due March 3 (boy); 33 kids; Perth, Australia 5617 posts
26th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting whoknowsx:</b>" Yeah I think i'll do that... and just go to the bathroom and run water and bounce to get him to sleep (since he naps with motion and white noise)"</blockquote>



Have you downloaded a white noise app for your phone? Worked well for DS too.

whoknowsx New York, 1185 posts
26th Mar '13
Quoting ♥ The Prodigy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting whoknowsx:</b>" Yeah I think i'll do that... and just go to ... [snip!] ... motion and white noise)"</blockquote> Have you downloaded a white noise app for your phone? Worked well for DS too."


I haven't but that's a good idea!



and yes we started using the raincover like a month ago -- made a world of difference!

buddhababy 1 child; Spain 378 posts
26th Mar '13

As unhelpful as it sounds, I think he'll probably just have to get over it. My mother to this day reminds me that I was a more sensitive child as well.. some people just don't adjust well (to this day I'm slow to adjust lol). Just live your life, you can't stay stuck inside 24/7.



For example, Lee won't nap anywhere besides his crib or pack'n'play. On most days we have a regular schedule that allows me to bring him home for naps but on days where we're out all day or traveling then usually he'll spend some quiet time in the stroller with the hood pulled down even though he won't nap. Also, I second what someone said about the white noise machine. We use one and bring it wherever we travel if we'll be away from home so that even if he's in a strange place, it will still sound familiar.



Hang in there, it keeps getting easier!

whoknowsx New York, 1185 posts
26th Mar '13
Quoting buddhababy:" As unhelpful as it sounds, I think he'll probably just have to get over it. My mother to this day reminds ... [snip!] ... away from home so that even if he's in a strange place, it will still sound familiar. Hang in there, it keeps getting easier!"


Thanks! You are right.. it has gotten so much easier already and I'm sure it will continue to be so.



I just wanted to make sure that I was on the right track -- I agree that he has to just get over it but my SO is so nervous about him not getting home in time for his nap. He is inflexible in so many ways that we can't even get a baby sitter (i.e he usually refuses to drink from a bottle unless he is starving in which case you have sing, bounce and feed him at the same time o_0). I just want him to adjust.... and be flexible.. like soon.

buddhababy 1 child; Spain 378 posts
26th Mar '13
Quoting whoknowsx:" Thanks! You are right.. it has gotten so much easier already and I'm sure it will continue to be so. ... [snip!] ... which case you have sing, bounce and feed him at the same time o_0). I just want him to adjust.... and be flexible.. like soon."


I think you're definitely on the right track (personally) but I know it's tough not to worry. I mean, if he really needs to be home to nap then you could just adjust your life around his nap schedule. Like I said, most days it's like that for us, but because I'm very accommodating most of the time I definitely don't feel bad when we don't stick so closely to the schedule. But some of my friends with kids don't have any schedule and their kids learned to nap on the go. I think it's a combo of the child and the parents' ability to be on a more/less strict schedule.