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adding another THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20010 posts
26th Mar '13

if you live in a house someone else owns, but you pay half the bills, do you think it's wrong to have another baby? does it matter if the person who owns the house is all for it?

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49254 posts
26th Mar '13

If I had roommates they sure as hell wouldn't be dictating my reproductive cycle.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20010 posts
26th Mar '13
Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" If I had roommates they sure as hell wouldn't be dictating my reproductive cycle."

what if it's like MIL?

мɑkɑnɑni 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65684 posts
26th Mar '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" what if it's like MIL?"


Time to move out.

I'm His Amy He's My Rory 2 kids; Caldwell, Idaho 49254 posts
26th Mar '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" what if it's like MIL?"


Still if you're paying half the bills, same scenario. You're not just a mooch. You're paying your way.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20010 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" Time to move out."


there are reasons for not (OTHER THAN financial)

Love my 3 kids Due July 27; Ohio 812 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" Time to move out."


Totally agree!!

[Gryffinwhore♥] Due March 3; 34 kids; Poulsbo, Washington 32869 posts
27th Mar '13

I've actually been in this situation.
I wouldn't suggest adding another. It didn't end well for me. There were other issues, of course, but my relationship with my MIL quickly deteriorated due to having another child.



I think it would be different if your MIL lived with YOU. Know what I mean? If she was in your house and not the other way around.

☆º×ß¡±©µ×º☆ Due September 18 (girl); 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Centralia, Washington 45381 posts
status 27th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mαkαnαni:</b>" Time to move out."</blockquote>




exactly

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20010 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting [Gryffinwhore♥]:" I've actually been in this situation. I wouldn't suggest adding another. It didn't end well for me. ... [snip!] ... it would be different if your MIL lived with YOU. Know what I mean? If she was in your house and not the other way around. "

this is part of why i'm putting it off. she already has expectations that she feels aren't being met. i'm working on improving them and getting DD where she's "easier" before having another. by the time we plan to get our own house though, too much time will have passed and DD will be too old. i don't want that big of an age gap.



but i do get what you mean.

Squid Kid Unavailable, NA, United States 32448 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" this is part of why i'm putting it off. she already has expectations that she feels aren't being met. ... [snip!] ... too much time will have passed and DD will be too old. i don't want that big of an age gap. but i do get what you mean."


The age gap isn't that important, especially if you only have two kids.



Having another would mean you'd stay dependent on living with them longer, rather than being able to get your own home to raise your children in- and it'll rile up your relationships.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
27th Mar '13

When the house is soaked in cat piss and you're too scared to let the kid you already have down on the carpets because they're so dirty.... yeah.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20010 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting 4 til Gwen:" When the house is soaked in cat piss and you're too scared to let the kid you already have down on the carpets because they're so dirty.... yeah."


:roll:

Ryloonjimama Australia 18851 posts
27th Mar '13

I wouldnt say it's wrong. It just wouldn't be smart to do so, if you NEED them though. Like as in, you would struggle to live if you had to pay FULL bills, rent, the works... Otherwise, it's whatever. Go for your life.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20010 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting -()-()-()-:" I wouldnt say it's wrong. It just wouldn't be smart to do so, if you NEED them though. Like as in, you ... [snip!] ... as in, you would struggle to live if you had to pay FULL bills, rent, the works... Otherwise, it's whatever. Go for your life."

we could do it, but like i said, there are other factors of why we're living here. but thanks.