We have a whole bedtime routine that we do, the kids and I. They go potty, put their jammies on, I help them brush their teeth, and then they each pick a book to read. Pretty standard. lol.
Tonight, I sat down and started reading Violet's book because tonight it was her turn to have her book read first. They were both screaming and laughing, I made it about 3 pages in before I had to stop. I repeatedly told them to stop and then I finally told them both if they did it again, I would not read their books and they would go straight to bed. Violet quieted down, but Hanley would NOT stop screaming and laughing. I took Violet into my room and finished her book and didn't read Hanley's book to him.
When I went back into their room, Hanely was crying these big sad tears and gasping, the whole works. So, of course, I felt guilty.
Was I mean? Should I have still read him his book? :( I feel bad now.
IMO no, you warned him and he chose not to listen. 3 is old enough to know that his actions have reactions.
I warn my son, he's three. For instance today in the store I was buying him a new game, he decided to throw a huge fit and not share his pretzel with his little brother. & scream "IT'S MINE".
I told him if he couldn't share or listen to mommy we'd leave the store, empty handed. He quickly shared that pretzel LOL
No. You told him to stop and explained the consequences and followed through. I say you did good. (I would've felt guilty too, but that is your job)
I would have done the exact same thing you did.
I think 3 is old enough to grasp some type of consequence to negative actions. Maybe next time, sit down at his level with him and explain after you've finished reading his sister's book with her that it's supposed to be quiet time and it was her turn to have her book read first. That he wasn't being very nice by being too noisy and that when he does it, he won't get to read his book.
Bringing yourself down to his level and talking to him in a calm manner will be easier for him to take because it's not upsetting and so he'll hear it better and take it on :)
You did exactly what I would do. They need to know that you mean business and you will follow through with your punishments.
I do the same thing with T. Hanley needs to know when you say something you'll follow through.
I probably would of done the same thing. Except (I don't know if you did this) I would of say down with him after and explained why I didn't read him his book and told him I love him and that he'll have his book read to him tommorow etc.... Yesterday my DD kept biting before bed I told her if she bites one more time she going to bed right now ....she bite me again so I put her to bed!
No. You did right by following through on your words and actions.
<blockquote><b>Quoting susanesque:</b>" No. You told him to stop and explained the consequences and followed through. I say you did good. (I would've felt guilty too, but that is your job)"</blockquote>
This. If you'd have read it you'd have lost all credibility for your discipline. He'll get one tomorrow :) it's ok mama.
Gah! I just feel guilty because I know they look forward to reading with me at night. But it makes me feel a little better knowing that I'm not the only one who would do it that way.
I did explain to him after. Not that he wanted to hear it. lol.
I have to do that with my daughter sometimes. She wants to climb on me, jump on the bed, scream over me, or change her mind on which book she wants half way through and if she doesn't get it, tantrum. It helps a lot. She doesn't do it as often now because she gets a warning, a reminder, then I leave.
Quoting [Gryffinwhore♥]:" We have a whole bedtime routine that we do, the kids and I. They go potty, put their jammies on, I help ... [snip!] ... whole works. So, of course, I felt guilty. Was I mean? Should I have still read him his book? :( I feel bad now. He's 3. "
Nope. I've done it to my son a few times... the kids need to learn that when you say it's time to quiet down, it's time to quiet down, not keep screaming and laughing. I hate doing it, it feels mean... but it's called tough love.
Quoting Love my 3 kids:" You did exactly what I would do. They need to know that you mean business and you will follow through with your punishments."
I agree with this.