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user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
27th Mar '13

Dude, who cares? She's just venting. The kid is a dickhole and I wouldn't want my child hearing the things he says, either. Hopefully he'll change by the time/when the baby is born, but everyone and their mother writes vents about the pettiest things on BG, she's no different. No one here can say they wouldn't be at least a little miffed if their SO's brother said the stuff he's said to her, like that she is an idiot for not aborting, etc. f**k that, man.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
27th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brookie99:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brookie99:</b>" ... [snip!] ... a good reason to deny your DD her family."</blockquote> I didnt say I was going to nor did I say I was going to try to."</blockquote>



You said you want to. You just won't because you are worried about backlash from his family. It is annoying but normal. Plus you are assuming that he is going to say that stuff in front of or to her. He is obviously a young teenager who still thinks he will have the world at 19 (a lot of us do think that in our teen years, think the shit you want will just be there even if it is statistically unlikely or impossible)

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
27th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:</b>" "I honestly wish I didn't ever have to see him again and could keep him away from my daughter once she ... [snip!] ... though you didn't say you are going to keep them away from eachother, it sounds like if you had the choice you would."</blockquote>



Yeah well that's just the way it comes out but after having him say things like "I hope your baby dies", "your baby is going to a retard", "I hope you have a miscarriage", "you should have just aborted that kid when you had the chance" on almost a daily basis I don't feel he deserves to have a relationship with her and to me that's not normal sibling rivalry.

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
27th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Pusherman:</b>" Dude, who cares? She's just venting. The kid is a dickhole and I wouldn't want my child hearing the things ... [snip!] ... miffed if their SO's brother said the stuff he's said to her, like that she is an idiot for not aborting, etc. f**k that, man."</blockquote>




Thanks, this reminded me why I don't post vents in the teen pregnancy forum because people automatically turn it into a maturity debate.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
27th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Pusherman:</b>" Dude, who cares? She's just venting. The kid is a dickhole and I wouldn't want my child hearing the things ... [snip!] ... miffed if their SO's brother said the stuff he's said to her, like that she is an idiot for not aborting, etc. f**k that, man."</blockquote>



My DH was pissed about what my sister has said to me BUT he has never even thought he would want to deny my kids a relationship with their family (for a bit it was supervised only) and my DS left me god awful messages about how I didn't deserve to be a mother or have such a good husband. She realized she was wrong and made ammends. Teenagers run their mouths and sometimes say fucked up things without thinking. Most realize they were young and dumb and grow up.

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
27th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Pusherman:</b>" Dude, who cares? She's just venting. The kid ... [snip!] ... run their mouths and sometimes say fucked up things without thinking. Most realize they were young and dumb and grow up."</blockquote>




Saying you don't deserve to be a mother one time and then realizing they where wrong does not compare to someone saying they hope your baby dies or that they hope you have a miscarriage on a regular basis for the last 8 months and seeing nothing wrong with it. That's not normal sibling rivalry or normal behaviour for a 16 year old regardless of their maturity.

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Pusherman:</b>" Dude, who cares? She's just venting. The kid ... [snip!] ... run their mouths and sometimes say fucked up things without thinking. Most realize they were young and dumb and grow up."


I don't know. None of my husband's siblings have ever been rude to me and vice versa. I don't see it as something normal, but even if it is normal, she can still vent about it, because it sucks. I won't talk to my husband's cousins because they are idiots and their kids are a*****es, and they have never gone so far to say anything even remotely close to what OP is saying. Oh, and that is the only family (aside from mine) that my husband even has in this country.

user banned (boy); 2 kids; Fucking, Austria 36337 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting Brookie99:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Pusherman:</b>" ... [snip!] ... nothing wrong with it. That's not normal sibling rivalry or normal behaviour for a 16 year old regardless of their maturity."

he's being a dickhead.



Kill 'em with kindness.

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
27th Mar '13

I honestly doubt she is going to try like hell to keep her SO's brother away from their kid if he controls himself :/..OP he is an immature little kid...just set your boundaries with him concerning your kid. He needs to show some respect

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
27th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brookie99:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Pusherman:</b>" ... [snip!] ... nothing wrong with it. That's not normal sibling rivalry or normal behaviour for a 16 year old regardless of their maturity."</blockquote>




Oh shit....I missed the part where he wished death upon your baby...tf? That needs to stop...now.
Ugh I'm sorry you have to deal with such BS

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
27th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brookie99:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" ... [snip!] ... the part where he wished death upon your baby...tf? That needs to stop...now. Ugh I'm sorry you have to deal with such BS"</blockquote>




That's the main reason I feel he doesn't deserve to even see her... I get that he is her uncle and what ever but if he wishes that she would die I really don't know why the hell should I allow him to even see her... Just because he is related by blood isn't good enough for me to want him in her life.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42775 posts
27th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brookie99:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 4 til Gwen:</b>" Sounds like a bunch of teenage bullshit. Grow ... [snip!] ... that gets on my nerves because Im mature enough to keep my mouth shut and not escalate the situation?? Yep makes sense...."</blockquote>




You need to grow up because you're letting a kid with a big mouth bother you in the first place.

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
27th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 4 til Gwen:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Brookie99:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting 4 til Gwen:</b>" ... [snip!] ... You need to grow up because you're letting a kid with a big mouth bother you in the first place."</blockquote>



Im sure you would be bothered too if you had to be around someone who kept saying they wished your baby would die and that you would have a miscarriage but if you enjoy being around people like that then good for you but I don't.

mommakatof3 Due September 15; 3 kids; 2 angel babies; DeRidder, Louisiana 476 posts
27th Mar '13

I think he is out of line and you need to talk to ur bd about hus bro and remarks just because thats his bro he shouldnt let him talk about ur baby or you. Thats such bs! Im sorry some are jumping on you for this but just dont read there shit. Im sure if their bd borther said anything like that to them they would flip out just the same or even worse. Maybe when he sees the baby he will grow up and see its time to be an uncle... but if not and he says stuff like that in front of her imo he wouldnt be alound around her for a while. Good luck

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11980 posts
27th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Brookie99:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mama Rice:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Pusherman:</b>" ... [snip!] ... nothing wrong with it. That's not normal sibling rivalry or normal behaviour for a 16 year old regardless of their maturity."</blockquote>



Believe me I have been in your position. My DH and I lost our first baby at 12 weeks 5 days (heartbeat stopped at 9 weeks but I didn't pass the baby until almost 4 weeks later) and my DS faked a miscarriage claiming she had to deliver her baby at 14 weeks in a hospital. She was a minor (16 years old with no job or insurance) and she gave us 4 different hospitals she claimed to have delivered at, no paperwork proof, nothing. She said if she wasn't crying I had no business crying, I cried for weeks. I was hit hard by it. She didn't admit she was lying until 4 years later. She has left voice mails saying I never deserved my kids and my m/c were because God knew it.



She was a very troubled teen. I am not saying it isn't hard to move past and there was a lot of pain for me to work through. I am just saying not to condemn him as a lost cause because of what he says at 16, when he gets older most likely he will make amends and realize how wrong he was.