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Parents of girls, help! UH-LEX-US Due June 9 (boy); 1 child; Phoenix, Arizona 170 posts
27th Mar '13

So my 4yo, almost 5, thinks her vagina is her "butt" just like her actual butt, lol. I'm not big on spankings, ever, but sometimes I give her a pat on the rump and she obviously doesn't like it, so she will cover her butt lol, but now she covers her front and back, which makes me very uncomfortable and I feel horrible.



I have no idea how or when to tell her it's not her butt and if I do now, how do I say it and what word do I use? :/

~Mommyof3girls1boy~ Due October 5 (boy); 3 kids; Ohio 2686 posts
27th Mar '13

My older two girls are 4 and 5. They used to do the same thing (4 year old still does sometimes) but we told them that the front is her vagina (that's what it's called so we don't nitpick) and her backside is her butt. 5 year old never asked questions and just said okay. 4 year old is still learning ;)

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
27th Mar '13

Tell her now. It's nothing to feel weird or uncomfortable with. She should learn it's name (just vagina-- no need for pet names) just like any other body part, and if you give it it's name she's less likely to confuse it with her butt.



My daughter's 3.5 and calls it her "gina". She can't quite say the whole word.

The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1232 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting UH-LEX-US:" So my 4yo, almost 5, thinks her vagina is her "butt" just like her actual butt, lol. I'm not big on spankings, ... [snip!] ... horrible. I have no idea how or when to tell her it's not her butt and if I do now, how do I say it and what word do I use? :/"


My daughter calls it her "Front Butt" TOTALLY made it up herself too. I don't really mind... and really, to a kid, there is no real need to differentiate, IMO.



Other than explaining the importance of wiping and hygiene as it relates to UTIs.

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
27th Mar '13

My kids did that but we just stress that the proper word is vagina.

3 little monsters 3 kids; Olathe, Colorado 50990 posts
27th Mar '13

Just tell her it's not her butt. Tell her it's her vagina and don't be surprised if she is delighted with the novelty of a new word for a little while. It will wear off soon, she'll know what her butt/vagina is and where they are located, LOL

UH-LEX-US Due June 9 (boy); 1 child; Phoenix, Arizona 170 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting Rain (aka Mama):" Tell her now. It's nothing to feel weird or uncomfortable with. She should learn it's name (just vagina-- ... [snip!] ... she's less likely to confuse it with her butt. My daughter's 3.5 and calls it her "gina". She can't quite say the whole word."


"Gina"..that's cute though I think lol.
She's my first girl, and Idk why but I'd feel like a bad mom if she went out and about and let's say she said she has one or something. Like she shouldn't hear those words so young, if that makes sense. I think I feel that way because my grandma (obviously older and old-fashioned) complains about everything I do/teach her. :/



I'm just uncomfortable with pats on the butt now because she holds her front, makes me feel bad or like I'm doing something bad. :(



I'm going to start trying to get her to know the difference though.:)

❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
27th Mar '13

we are not ashamed if our body in thus house. she's 2 and calls it vagina. my mom was uncomfortable with that word so my mom refers to it as Gina (vagina without the va)

susanesque 2 kids; Georgia 8425 posts
27th Mar '13

Tell her the real word. My daughter still calls hers her butt too. :? Safety bonus, if you teach your child to say penis or vagina and they come home using a different word it can be a red flag for you and you can ask where they learned to call it that. I was just reading that on some blog... It made sense. :)

UH-LEX-US Due June 9 (boy); 1 child; Phoenix, Arizona 170 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting The Pretender:" My daughter calls it her "Front Butt" TOTALLY made it up herself too. I don't really mind... and really, ... [snip!] ... is no real need to differentiate, IMO. Other than explaining the importance of wiping and hygiene as it relates to UTIs. "


Yeah! I see no problem with it either, and like in baths, I tell her to wash her own private parts, and she understands that even though to her it's just her other butt lol. Do you or anyone else have them wash themselves there around this age?

UH-LEX-US Due June 9 (boy); 1 child; Phoenix, Arizona 170 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting susanesque:" Tell her the real word. My daughter still calls hers her butt too. :? Safety bonus, if you teach your ... [snip!] ... red flag for you and you can ask where they learned to call it that. I was just reading that on some blog... It made sense. :)"


WOW! That makes sense too! And a great idea!

Donna Jo Tanner 1 child; Beach Haven, New Jersey 6440 posts
27th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Pretender:</b>" My daughter calls it her "Front Butt" TOTALLY made it up herself too. I don't really mind... and really, ... [snip!] ... is no real need to differentiate, IMO. Other than explaining the importance of wiping and hygiene as it relates to UTIs. "</blockquote>




There is a need to differentiate. What if someone were to inappropriately touch her? She would need to be able to explain it. She could say oh someone touched my butt and you think nothing of it when really she means "her front butt."



OP tell her now and call it a vagina. It makes it easier on her aNd you to be open and honest about it.

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting UH-LEX-US:" "Gina"..that's cute though I think lol. She's my first girl, and Idk why but I'd feel like a bad mom ... [snip!] ... makes me feel bad or like I'm doing something bad. :( I'm going to start trying to get her to know the difference though.:)"


It is cute. But, they should also know the whole word too. Even though she calls it "gina", when I say "vagina" she knows exactly what I'm talking about.



You're not doing anything wrong by teaching her. A lot of people feel uncomfortable with the words vagina and penis. They end up seeming taboo for some reason. But that's what they are. They should know it. Nothing bad about it. :)

~Mommyof3girls1boy~ Due October 5 (boy); 3 kids; Ohio 2686 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting susanesque:" Tell her the real word. My daughter still calls hers her butt too. :? Safety bonus, if you teach your ... [snip!] ... red flag for you and you can ask where they learned to call it that. I was just reading that on some blog... It made sense. :)"


:!::!:

Rain (aka Mama) 3 kids; Monroe, Georgia 6487 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting susanesque:" Tell her the real word. My daughter still calls hers her butt too. :? Safety bonus, if you teach your ... [snip!] ... red flag for you and you can ask where they learned to call it that. I was just reading that on some blog... It made sense. :)"


Good point! I like that.