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The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1215 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting UH-LEX-US:" Yeah! I see no problem with it either, and like in baths, I tell her to wash her own private parts, ... [snip!] ... that even though to her it's just her other butt lol. Do you or anyone else have them wash themselves there around this age?"


I help her wash her private bits when we shower (I use a loofah or a washrag) and I help wipe her butt after a poop (because she sucks at that still) and I have told her the only other people that she can ask for help are her parents and her grandmas. (I include my ex's girlfriend, too, because she's a lot like a step mom. There is really no reason for my husband to have to help, because he usually only spends an hour or two alone with her a week. BUT if the situation were to arise, I would be fine with it. He is an awesome "step daddy" as she calls him).

The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1215 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting Jenna+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Pretender:</b>" My daughter calls it her "Front Butt" ... [snip!] ... "her front butt." OP tell her now and call it a vagina. It makes it easier on her aNd you to be open and honest about it."


It wouldn't matter to me- if someone touched her 'butt' or 'front butt' under or over her clothes, IT DOESNT MATTER... it is BOTH molestation and asking where, precisely, she was touched is moot point. What is important is calling the police and taking my daughter to the hospital and getting her care. NO ONE should be touching my daughter in any of her private areas (and she KNOWS what is considered a PRIVATE area... we have had this talk) unless it is for wiping her butt or during a bath. And she knows who is allowed to help.

UH-LEX-US Due June 9 (boy); 1 child; Phoenix, Arizona 170 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting The Pretender:" I help her wash her private bits when we shower (I use a loofah or a washrag) and I help wipe her butt ... [snip!] ... with her a week. BUT if the situation were to arise, I would be fine with it. He is an awesome "step daddy" as she calls him)."


Yeah, my daughter hates when I try and wipe her butt after poop, she wants to do it herself. Sometimes, she'll throw tp on the floor and sit back on the toilet and say "go mommy" lol. So I have bought washable wipes and she does fine with them.



I just feel like with her age, she's able to wash herself in certain areas, but she rather herself anyway. Her dad washes her hair because she likes him too, but that's really it.

UH-LEX-US Due June 9 (boy); 1 child; Phoenix, Arizona 170 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting The Pretender:" It wouldn't matter to me- if someone touched her 'butt' or 'front butt' under or over her clothes, ... [snip!] ... be touching my daughter in any of her private areas (and she KNOWS what is considered a PRIVATE area... we have had this talk)"


Exactly! My daughter tells me everything. Her uncle (whose almost 11) bumps her even by accident when he walks by her, and she tells me lol.

The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1215 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting UH-LEX-US:" Yeah, my daughter hates when I try and wipe her butt after poop, she wants to do it herself. Sometimes, ... [snip!] ... in certain areas, but she rather herself anyway. Her dad washes her hair because she likes him too, but that's really it."


Yeah, my daughter ALWAYS has clumps of poop or at least skid marks if I don't help her. NOT helping isn't an option, lol

UH-LEX-US Due June 9 (boy); 1 child; Phoenix, Arizona 170 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting The Pretender:" Yeah, my daughter ALWAYS has clumps of poop or at least skid marks if I don't help her. NOT helping isn't an option, lol"


Yeah I notice the occasional skid mark lol. Usually I try and tell her, if she wipes herself with the wipes, I'll help by doing it one more time, and sometimes she doesn't protest it too much as long as she can help too lol.