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DD is literally scaring the crap out of the cat.... : ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
27th Mar '13

So, we have a cat, she's the sweetest cat in the entire world, she's 6 years old now. She is so sweet to DD, but DD has scared her so badly by treating her wrong that she literally hides the entire day on the counter on top of whatever she can hide on. DD won't listen when I tell her to leave her alone, and constantly scares her, chases her, screams at her, grabs her, holds her roughly- etc. DD is 4, and she just doesn't seem to understand that she is supposed to be kind to her. She doesn't treat her mean on purpose, but she doesn't understand that she's hurting her.




Anyways, Grizabella, the cat, is so scared, she hides from her all day, and the poor cat is losing bowel control she gets so scared....DD has scared her twice in the last 2 weeks so badly, that she has been unable to hold her excrement, and has had to use the litter box but couldn't leave the kitchen because DD wouldn't let her leave, that she has pooped on the floor and counter :( I don't know what to do anymore....I try to discipline DD but she just doesn't care, and doesn't understand that she's traumatizing the cat....



What do I do? Do I continue to try to protect the cat and discipline DD, or do I just let go of a cat who has been with me since she was a kitten, and give her to the shelter? :cry: I am so upset over this...I don't want to lose my cat, but I don't know how much more she can take, and if it's wise to wait until she grows out of this....

αuτumnαl ~, FL, United States 67763 posts
27th Mar '13

It's in the cat's best interests to find a new home for her.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
27th Mar '13

Does your DD get time outs for scaring the cat? Or punished at all?
Or do you just tell her to stop?

~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" Does your DD get time outs for scaring the cat? Or punished at all? Or do you just tell her to stop?"


I try to give her time outs, but she just ignores me :( I wonder if I set the litter box up in my bedroom, and put a cat bed in there, if she would be better off sleeping in there, so DD can't get to her?

JΔ$ Georgia 77608 posts
27th Mar '13

I wouldn't give the cat to a shelter because they'd probably kill it, honestly. We recently just got a kitten (well, she found us :lol:) and the kids started off being rough with her at first. She's so little and easy to pick up so they seem to think she's like a real stuffed animal or something. I have told them both that if they do not follow direction when it comes to the kitten, I will find her a new home.



Does your daughter love that cat? Maybe telling her that you will rehome her if she doesn't treat her right will help? If all else fails, I'd try to find her a new home.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~:" I try to give her time outs, but she just ignores me :( I wonder if I set the litter box up in my bedroom, ... [snip!] ... litter box up in my bedroom, and put a cat bed in there, if she would be better off sleeping in there, so DD can't get to her? "


Whoa, don't let her ignore you.
If she gets up from time out, put her back. Do that for as long as it takes to get her to sit.
Don't let her take control.



And I would set up the cat stuff in your room until your DD starts to listen.

~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" I wouldn't give the cat to a shelter because they'd probably kill it, honestly. We recently just got ... [snip!] ... her that you will rehome her if she doesn't treat her right will help? If all else fails, I'd try to find her a new home."


She does love her, she tries to hold her and cuddle her, but she doesn't understand that she's too loud and scares her. When Grizabella runs away, DD thinks it's a game and chases her laughing, she doesn't get that she's scaring her and upsetting her. :(



yeah, that's my fear....I'll figure out other arrangements in the house...I couldn't handle giving her to a shelter, knowing she may be killed.

~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~ 17 kids; Connecticut 15826 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" Whoa, don't let her ignore you. If she gets up from time out, put her back. Do that for as long as ... [snip!] ... to get her to sit. Don't let her take control. And I would set up the cat stuff in your room until your DD starts to listen."


I'm going to, at least she will be content in there....I just got her a window bed, so maybe she will be happy in there.



I get so frustrated because she totally ignores me. And if I discipline her, she starts screaming and yelling and crying, and it sounds like I'm killing her! I live in an apartment complex, so I'm sure the neighbors have gotten an earful. :roll:

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
27th Mar '13
Quoting ~*~Modern*Day*Delilah~*~:" I'm going to, at least she will be content in there....I just got her a window bed, so maybe she will ... [snip!] ... and it sounds like I'm killing her! I live in an apartment complex, so I'm sure the neighbors have gotten an earful. :roll:"


I know it's rough mama, but if you don't just put up with it, she'll NEVER listen to you.
Right now, she knows that if she screams and yells you'll give in. Don't let her have that power.
Honestly, I'd highly suggest watching supernanny haha. It may sound silly, but she has a lot of helpful tips for children who are hard to discipline.