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OMFG child just sleep Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
28th Mar '13

Seriously I need help. DD is 14 months old. She has been a horrible sleeper from day 1. Recently its just out of control. Her naps have gone from 3-4 hours to 40 min. She goes to bed and wakes within 4 hours (tonight was less than 2 hours) She screams and cries to the point of making herself sick. She will not sleep in her bed, she will not sleep in my bed, she will only sleep on my husbands chest downstairs in the recliner. Its now 1:30am and she is just screaming and almost to the point of puking. We cannot calm her for more than a minute or two . My husband is avg. 4-5 hours of broken sleep in a recliner. (She screams more and cries out for dada if I try to get up with her). He is exhausted and cranky and I miss my damn husband in bed. I have tried CIO, co-sleeping, pretty much everything. I have read books. She has a consistent routine every night. This isn't something that goes on for a week or two and then gets better. She hasn't slept through the night (without meds, benadryl when she had an allergic reaction) in months. She used to wake drink her cup of milk and go right back down. We have been doing this for over a year. Does anyone have any ideas at all?

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
28th Mar '13

I'd just keep giving her benadryl. TOTALLY JOKING!!!!



DS had gotten to the point that everyone was completely miserable. I was completely against CIO but it was the best thing we have done honestly. How were you doing it when you tried before? And how long ago did you try it? Maybe trying a different approach would help. I know sleeping babies are no fun for anyone involved.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
28th Mar '13
Quoting White Chocolate Milk:" I'd just keep giving her benadryl. TOTALLY JOKING!!!! DS had gotten to the point that everyone was completely ... [snip!] ... long ago did you try it? Maybe trying a different approach would help. I know sleeping babies are no fun for anyone involved."


Im not even going to lie. I gave her benadryl one night after being up with her for pretty much a week straight. She was still up all night. It only works like 25% of the time that I have had to give it to her. *sigh*



CIO- We started with going in and laying her down every 5,10,15 minutes going up to an hour, even a few night to two hours when she seemed to be settling. We did this for 2 months with no success and things just getting worse. Then I tried the same method I used with my oldest when we took the bottle away (at 21 months). The cry until you fall asleep. This never worked and caused her to cry and scram until she was sick. We have a video monitor so I could see her the whole time.



We have a white noise machine and she has a light up fishy crib thing that play music.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26127 posts
status 28th Mar '13

So she can sleep sitting up in a recliner with your husband... just a guess, maybe Daddy comforts her more but the recliner is good because shes elevated and reflux doesnt hurt her. Maybe she has tummy problems and laying down straight hurts her? Could that be a possibility?

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
28th Mar '13
Quoting FroggysMommy:" So she can sleep sitting up in a recliner with your husband... just a guess, maybe Daddy comforts her ... [snip!] ... and reflux doesnt hurt her. Maybe she has tummy problems and laying down straight hurts her? Could that be a possibility? "

She shows no signs of reflux and the recliner thing has only started in the past two weeks. When my husband leaves for work in the morning he brings her back to our room and she will sleep with me for 1-3 hours depending on the time and her mood.

Mak&Row 18 kids; Portland, Oregon 763 posts
28th Mar '13

What time does she go to bed? Sleep breeds sleeps and it seems counterintuitive, but putting her to sleep earlier might be the solution. I notice with my 9 month old the later we put her down, the worse she sleeps at night. Het bedtime is 7-730 pm (I wish a tad earlier). As soon as she gives you cues that she is tiered...rubbing eyes, fussy, etc, I'd start the nighttime routine then-even if it is 5pm.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
28th Mar '13
Quoting Mak&Row:" What time does she go to bed? Sleep breeds sleeps and it seems counterintuitive, but putting her to sleep ... [snip!] ... as she gives you cues that she is tiered...rubbing eyes, fussy, etc, I'd start the nighttime routine then-even if it is 5pm."

We have played with bedtime as well. Anywhere from 8 to 11pm. She will not go to bed until she see's daddy and he doesn't get from work until the earliest 6:30 usually its 7.

Mak&Row 18 kids; Portland, Oregon 763 posts
28th Mar '13

Maybe try bedtime around 7pm???? Sucks I know...sometimes I feel all I do is come home just to put the baby to bed :( but a well rested baby is a happy baby. Hang in there...it's gotta get better right?

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
28th Mar '13
Quoting Mak&Row:" Maybe try bedtime around 7pm???? Sucks I know...sometimes I feel all I do is come home just to put the ... [snip!] ... come home just to put the baby to bed :( but a well rested baby is a happy baby. Hang in there...it's gotta get better right?"

She will go down earlier but we still have the same problems. So if she goes down at 9 and would normal wake around 2, then she goes down at 7 and wakes up at 12. She will not go down without daddy home though. To the point that he left town one weekend and had to come home early because she stayed up all night (a few 20 min spurts of sleep here and there) I keep telling myself it has to get better but its just getting worse and worse. I could handle the waking at night if it was for hunger or a cuddle and she went right back to sleep like she used to do. But no it takes hours to get her to settle back down.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
28th Mar '13

She climbed the stairs so I put her back to bed and so far so good. I mean it is 2:30am and she was up at 8 and only took a 40 min so its about time..lol..Fingers crossed for a miracle night. I will be back in the morning (hopefully). Thanks everyone for the suggestions. Even if it is only ruling things out.

mommakatof3 Due September 15; 3 kids; 2 angel babies; DeRidder, Louisiana 429 posts
28th Mar '13

Have you talked to her doc?

MamaBear201205 50 kids; Cedar Rapids, Iowa 190 posts
28th Mar '13

Have you talked to her doctor? It sounds a little like reflux or ear infections IMO...wishing you the best! I would be going out of my mind. DD2 is the same way to a point, ONLY calms down for her daddy. Makes me feel useless!

mom2andrew&carter 18 kids; Leesburg, Florida 2159 posts
28th Mar '13

you should talk to your doctor about giving her melatonin. Its all natural and its safe for babys 6 months and up. but definitly take her to the doctor and make sure theres nothing else wrong with her. it also sounds like she might have an ear infection.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
28th Mar '13

Her doctor is very aware of the issues. All she says is im sorry you must so tired. Its a phase and should pass eventually. I wasn't aware phases could last for 14 months. Last night is basically what we call a good night. She finally went back down at 2:30 woke up twice and cried but self soothed herself back to sleep and woke up at 10:30. I get one of these nights ever few weeks.

White Chocolate Milk 1 child; Chelsea, Alabama 12303 posts
28th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" Her doctor is very aware of the issues. All she says is im sorry you must so tired. Its a phase and should ... [snip!] ... woke up twice and cried but self soothed herself back to sleep and woke up at 10:30. I get one of these nights ever few weeks."</blockquote>



After everything else you explained that sounds like a damn good night.



My next suggestion for things would be CIO standing by her crib. Rub and pat do whatever just don't pick her up.
She seems to be pretty stubborn just like DS was about things. Luckily the CIO you explained before with smaller intervals worked for us.