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Smex! Due November 30; 5 kids; Chehalis, Washington 31994 posts
29th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" And you care more about what sir 3 month thinks than what you feel? If it doesn't work, will you be angry with him or or yourself for getting an abortion?"</blockquote>



No I would be relived I got the abortion prolly.
I am telling him in the am that I'm keeping it.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15191 posts
29th Mar '13
Quoting Smex!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" And you care more about what sir 3 month thinks ... [snip!] ... No I would be relived I got the abortion prolly. I am telling him in the am that I'm keeping it."


Now, if he leaves, will you get an abortion because he left you? Seeing as you said if it didn't work out, you'd be relieved that you aborted the baby?

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
29th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Smex!:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Red Bottom:</b>" And you care more about what sir 3 month thinks ... [snip!] ... No I would be relived I got the abortion prolly. I am telling him in the am that I'm keeping it."</blockquote>



Good luck!

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
29th Mar '13

Don't abort if you dont want to. BUT if you decide to keep the baby, you should be able to take care of that baby alone. Sorry but women who force men into fatherhood suck ass to me.. :)

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
29th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:</b>" Don't abort if you dont want to. BUT if you decide to keep the baby, you should be able to take care of that baby alone. Sorry but women who force men into fatherhood suck ass to me.. :)"</blockquote>




That seems pretty stupid imo. Guys know the risks when they have sex expecially unprotected sex. I mean do women who choose abortion when the man wants the baby suck as well then? Should they be forced to be mothers or a check if they don't want to? In the end some one has to decide what to do and the woman is the one who sacrifises her physical and mental health to do it.

kthx. TTC since Nov 2012; Cleves, Ohio 65253 posts
status 29th Mar '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:</b>" Don't abort if you dont want to. BUT ... [snip!] ... In the end some one has to decide what to do and the woman is the one who sacrifises her physical and mental health to do it."


Yes... those women suck as well. If a man wants the child... I'll be more than happy to go through with the pregnancy and have the baby, give it to him, and be done. If one party does NOT want the baby... they should not be obligated to financially or mentally support it.




Just because we're the incubator... doesn't mean we get to make all final decision. JMO.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
29th Mar '13

You wouldn't be forcing him to do anything, he can always sign his rights away. If you want the baby, keep it. It's your body. But be prepared to do it on your own.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
29th Mar '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:</b>" Don't abort if you dont want to. BUT ... [snip!] ... In the end some one has to decide what to do and the woman is the one who sacrifises her physical and mental health to do it."


Well said.

Smex! Due November 30; 5 kids; Chehalis, Washington 31994 posts
30th Mar '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:</b>" Don't abort if you dont want to. BUT ... [snip!] ... In the end some one has to decide what to do and the woman is the one who sacrifises her physical and mental health to do it."</blockquote>




We have choosen to terminate.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
30th Mar '13
Quoting Smex!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:</b>" ... [snip!] ... woman is the one who sacrifises her physical and mental health to do it."</blockquote> We have choosen to terminate."


I'm sorry OP. Either way I am sure this is a tough decision.

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26126 posts
status 31st Mar '13
Quoting Smex!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting kate & tilly:</b>" Either abort or give him the option of not ... [snip!] ... option and its worked so wonderfully! I never hear from him I love it lol!! I'm in love with this guy tho and want him around."


Does he even want to be a father to the child you have? If he's that against it maybe it's best to not be together, and keep your child. I dont think any guy should be forced to "be there" and any mother can raise her child alone if necessary.



That being said, I also support you if you do terminate but make sure its for you, not because of him and him leaving you. It needs to be YOU, not him.



There is a great message board for girls who have had an abortion if you want to talk on there, but I won't post it publicly. You can PM me if you want (this goes to anyone who has had an abortion). I just dont want people with anti abortion agenda to go spam the board.

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
1st Apr '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:</b>" Don't abort if you dont want to. BUT ... [snip!] ... In the end some one has to decide what to do and the woman is the one who sacrifises her physical and mental health to do it."


typical..twisting my words awesome!! Men dont have a right to force women into motherhood, I only think its fair that women shouldn't force men. Men should be able to sign away their rights. So YES women and men who force each other into parenthood suck ass!!

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 26126 posts
status 1st Apr '13
Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" typical..twisting my words awesome!! Men dont have a right to force women into motherhood, I only think ... [snip!] ... force men. Men should be able to sign away their rights. So YES women and men who force each other into parenthood suck ass!! "


Agreed, and most states dont allow for a parent to sign away their rights. So its shitty to force a parent to be a parent when they dont want to be there.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11952 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting kthx.:" Yes... those women suck as well. If a man wants the child... I'll be more than happy to go through with ... [snip!] ... financially or mentally support it. Just because we're the incubator... doesn't mean we get to make all final decision. JMO."


The problem with your theory is that it has way to many holes in it. I think anyone who has every been pregnant knows that there is a lot more to it then being an incubator. It causes a lot of strain on your body and can do a number on your mental health as well. Then you have to consider the fact that you might have complications and be put on bed rest ect. Things that the woman might not be able to afford missing out on work over. And there is ALWAYS the risk of dieing when giving birth. Rare but it still happens even in this day and age. No one should be forced to take those risks if they don't want to. Men don't have to face those risk just the woman so that changes things. Then there is a man is having unprotected sex yet claims he doesn't want a child. No one held a gun to the guys head and forced him to not use a condom. if he didn't want to be a father than he should have taken the precautions necessary to prevent it. If the woman chooses to keep the baby and file for child support at that point he has no one to blame but himself. Then what happens if a man claims he wants a child but once the woman gets pregnant changes his mind? If she can't support the child on her own should she be forced to abort or give the child up when they had both wanted it when she got pregnant? No of course she shouldn't. Things aren't always so black and white and that is why things are the way they are.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" The problem with your theory is that it has way to many holes in it. I think anyone who has every been ... [snip!] ... got pregnant? No of course she shouldn't. Things aren't always so black and white and that is why things are the way they are."


Yeah I don't understand why men are being let off the hook here when they are just as responsible for the pregnancy...............don't want a kid? wrap it up or get a vasectomy.