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oohlala Heidi 1 child; Canandaigua, New York 219 posts
3rd Apr '13

Well it's both your's and his responsible to wear protection and/or make sure the other is on birth control and you both neglected to do that therefore you are both responsible for the actions that happened as a result. A pregnancy.
He can say he doesn't want to be a father but it is your choice as well to keep that baby or not & honestly you need to do what you think is right for you. If you wanna step up and take responsibly for your actions & be a mother instead of killing an innocent life that never asked to be created in the first place, well than more power to you. You should take responsibly and do that right thing.
Single mothers do it everyday, if he isn't going to be a father there is no way to force him, he will have to be responsible for his actions in another way and that's called child support. I also think you should really assess your relationship with this guy, if you two have been together for 3 months and he hasn't been concerned about pregnancy prevention & then immediately wants you to get an abortion when the obvious happens well..... that does not show very good character on his part.

oohlala Heidi 1 child; Canandaigua, New York 219 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting kthx.:" Yes... those women suck as well. If a man wants the child... I'll be more than happy to go through with ... [snip!] ... financially or mentally support it. Just because we're the incubator... doesn't mean we get to make all final decision. JMO."

No they should be obligated to financially support the child, whether they wanted it to begin with or not. Guess what happens when you have sex? Someone get's pregnant. & it's not right to make only the person who wants the child take respoinsiblity for the actions of two people. Everyone needs to take responsibility.
You don't have to force them to be a father by no means, in fact you can't force someone to be a father but you can make them take responsiblity for their part in the matter and you should. Especially if the sex was unprotected, if you are going to have unprotected sex you should be ready for a pregnancy after all. The girl doesn't get to not take responsiblity whether she aborts or doesn't, she still has to either put her body through 9 months of pregnancy and take care of the child alone or put her body through an abortion and deal with the guilt of killing a potential life. But just because the guy doesn't want it he should be able to just go live his life? No. He has to take responsibility too.

1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting ღ Heidi ღ:" No they should be obligated to financially support the child, whether they wanted it to begin with or ... [snip!] ... But just because the guy doesn't want it he should be able to just go live his life? No. He has to take responsibility too."


vws

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27480 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting ღ Heidi ღ:" Well it's both your's and his responsible to wear protection and/or make sure the other is on birth control ... [snip!] ... immediately wants you to get an abortion when the obvious happens well..... that does not show very good character on his part."


LOL Really? " If you wanna step up and take responsibly for your actions & be a mother instead of killing an innocent life that never asked to be created in the first place, well than more power to you. You should take responsibly and do that right thing."



It's not killing a life. The "right thing" may be an abortion. Nice agenda you are pushing over here!

Amanda Contento Florida 2300 posts
3rd Apr '13

He doesn't have to be in her life, if you don't want him there and he doesn't want him there, then have the baby, be a single mother and leave the dad spot open on the birth certificate and you guys can go about your lives separately

FroggysMommy 1 child; Golden, Colorado 27480 posts
4th Apr '13
Quoting Amanda Contento:" He doesn't have to be in her life, if you don't want him there and he doesn't want him there, then have ... [snip!] ... baby, be a single mother and leave the dad spot open on the birth certificate and you guys can go about your lives separately "


This. That space should be open for a father that actually wants to be there. If you know from the get-go that the father doesnt want to be there then I dont think you should get child support... though if the guy walks out later then yes, they should be made to pay. But I will always believe its better to have an absent parent than one that doesnt want to be there.