My son is very attached to me he is 20 months old. I have been a SAHM and we co-sleep so that has a bit to do with why he is attached. As well as DH used to work thirds so he would be working at night and sleeping most of the day. DH hasn't started his new job but he throws a fit if I make him stay with DH for a period of time. There have only been a handful of times where he is fine to stay with DH and not have me right there. To go to sleep usually he lays next to me or on me (which I have no problem with), but sometimes it would be nice if DH could get him to sleep.
Right now I have been trying to get him to let Daddy do things for him as well like change diapers, get him to sleep, etc. But sometimes he just throws a fit so bad DH will just let me take him, is there anything else I can do to get him more used to letting Daddy be involved?
idk how to help but fear this will be us at the rte we're going
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" idk how to help but fear this will be us at the rte we're going"
Yeah I mean I like it but at the same time it's rough if I just need a break and he refuses to go to his dad.
It's a normal stage of development, give him a year and he'll be all about daddy :p
This is a stage of rapid change where they can need a lot of reassurance and security so it's natural they look to mommy for this. Once they hit that cognitive spurt and pass through the vocab explosion they have a better ability to understand and navigate things with other people. By trying to push him away it can make them even more clingy as they get even more settled. instead see if you can find other ways to nurture yourself.. like with your son in the day or when he's sleeping and napping. Go for walks, meet up with other mommys, enjoy music together, cobathe, snatch 5 mins to do whatever you like whenever you can. Self care can help during this stage, don't fear it, just 'give in' and it will pass. Don't stress about it, it's not a forever thing as it's so common for kids to go through this.
My son was very much a mama's boy until very recently (he just turned two), when suddenly dada was ok for certain things too, sometimes even preferable. DH can put him to bed now; he did for the first time just about a month ago. I think a lot of it is just stages, like PP said. Also, if you could go out for a bit and leave him with Dad, I think you'll find they do fine. Sometimes they whine for you when you're there, but they're fine when you're gone. I wouldn't force him too much; it'll come in time.
Quoting Mama*AtoZ:" It's a normal stage of development, give him a year and he'll be all about daddy :p This is a stage of ... [snip!] ... 'give in' and it will pass. Don't stress about it, it's not a forever thing as it's so common for kids to go through this. "
I thought it was pretty normal but some people have told me I should force Daddy on him more. I didn't know if there was anything I could do to help or it was a phase. Glad to hear it's normal and just a little phase he's going through.
Quoting Cat Abbott:" My son was very much a mama's boy until very recently (he just turned two), when suddenly dada was ok ... [snip!] ... they whine for you when you're there, but they're fine when you're gone. I wouldn't force him too much; it'll come in time."
I have been leaving him with Daddy while I make a quick run to the store or something, I always ask hoe he does and DH tells me he is fine and playing. So I know that he will do okay. But today I had a tooth pulled and he had to stay with Daddy, he was sooo tired but refused to lay on Daddy and fall asleep. But as soon as we got home and I fed him, let him play a bit, then laid him next to me he fell right asleep. It just sucks he like refuses to nap with Daddy at all. It makes me him cranky when he doesn't get a nap.