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something's got to give. Juliette 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Olive Branch, MS, United States 3015 posts
1st Apr '13

I'm dealing with depression. Bad. My kids are 4, 3 2 and 4 weeks. The baby is great. But the older 3 are making my life a living hell. I love them I really do. But they will not listen. They destroy my house faster than I can clean it. I'm losing my mind. I need a break. But can't get one. I would love to just take the baby and go stay in a hotel for a week. Ugh. I need help. Advice. Encouragement. If something doesn't change I'm going to have to go check into inpatient care. No joke.

The Blissful Six 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 10260 posts
1st Apr '13

You have 4 kids very close in age. That's got to be overwhelming. Have you thought about putting the oldest 2 in pre school? Do you have a head start program?

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
1st Apr '13

Are you on medication? Have you talked to a doctor about how you're feeling?



That's a good first step, IMO, if you haven't done so already.
I'm sorry you're feeling this way, and I hope things turn around for you soon :( Good luck!

Tig Ol' Bitties 2 kids; St Catharines, Ontario 3309 posts
1st Apr '13

Do you have a partner or a relative that would give you a break?

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
1st Apr '13

Could you get someone to take the kids for a night or two? Have them go to your parents or a family friends or something? Even just an afternoon might help.

Juliette 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Olive Branch, MS, United States 3015 posts
1st Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Blissful Six:</b>" You have 4 kids very close in age. That's got to be overwhelming. Have you thought about putting the oldest 2 in pre school? Do you have a head start program?"</blockquote>




My oldest starts school this year. I am going to try to get my 3 year old in prek he is behind so they will probably take him but that's 5 months away.

Juliette 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Olive Branch, MS, United States 3015 posts
1st Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Faith.:</b>" Are you on medication? Have you talked to a doctor about how you're feeling? That's a good first step, ... [snip!] ... if you haven't done so already. I'm sorry you're feeling this way, and I hope things turn around for you soon :( Good luck! "</blockquote>



I've tried meds in the past but they don't work. I want to go to the doctor but my husband works and can't take off. :/ could an urgent care center help me?

************************* Chehalis, Washington 362 posts
1st Apr '13

I can relate, mine are 7, 6, 5, and 3. We're having another baby in July but I can tell you those first years were tough. I can also tell you that it does get better, MUCH better. It sounds silly and anal but it really helped for me to make a daily schedule and set timers on my phone to go off so I would know to move to the next activity. The kids were in a routine so things calmed down. I'm absolutely not saying there weren't still days of destruction and chaos but it helped so much. Hang in there, it gets better and they start doing things on their own and/or with their siblings. You're just at that tough age right now for all of them.

Juliette 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Olive Branch, MS, United States 3015 posts
1st Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommyToWesley:</b>" Could you get someone to take the kids for a night or two? Have them go to your parents or a family friends or something? Even just an afternoon might help."</blockquote>



I wish! Everybody works my family lives 500 miles away so I just have my husbands family. They think I just need to suck it up and deal with it.

Juliette 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Olive Branch, MS, United States 3015 posts
1st Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting amkcr8667810:</b>" I can relate, mine are 7, 6, 5, and 3. We're having another baby in July but I can tell you those first ... [snip!] ... and they start doing things on their own and/or with their siblings. You're just at that tough age right now for all of them."</blockquote>



We do have a schedule. And I am trying so hard to make it work. They just don't listen. They want to so their own thing. I kinda want to go check into in patient care just for a break. Lol.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 46395 posts
status 1st Apr '13

Have you thought about finding a part time mother's helper,?

Juliette 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Olive Branch, MS, United States 3015 posts
1st Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Have you thought about finding a part time mother's helper,?"</blockquote>




We can't afford anything like that.

************************* Chehalis, Washington 362 posts
1st Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Juliette:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting amkcr8667810:</b>" I can relate, mine are 7, 6, 5, and 3. We're ... [snip!] ... They just don't listen. They want to so their own thing. I kinda want to go check into in patient care just for a break. Lol."</blockquote>




Absolutely not saying this is what you're doing but I also had this problem when in actuality the problem was me and not being consistent with my discipline. I.E. - with kids that close AND a baby, there's so many times I sat down to feed the baby and one of them would do something. What could I do? I had just sat down to feed the baby and now I have to get up and put one in time out. It was chaos but I had to do it. After even a few days of being 100% consistent they got the hint. Like I said not saying that's a problem for you but I know it was for me.

Juliette 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Olive Branch, MS, United States 3015 posts
1st Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting amkcr8667810:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Juliette:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting amkcr8667810:</b>" ... [snip!] ... few days of being 100% consistent they got the hint. Like I said not saying that's a problem for you but I know it was for me."</blockquote>




That could be some of it
. I'm usually pretty consistent. Until I have a bad depression day. Then I kind of give up. I don't want to. Its just hard to even get of the couch. Uhh.

************************* Chehalis, Washington 362 posts
1st Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Juliette:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting amkcr8667810:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Juliette:</b>" ... [snip!] ... Until I have a bad depression day. Then I kind of give up. I don't want to. Its just hard to even get of the couch. Uhh."</blockquote>



I don't blame you. Been there, done that...my poor husband would walk in the door, oreos would be crushed into the floor, cereal everywhere and he would be like "did you not see them doing this??" Yep...just don't really give a crap anymore. It sucked and then if all that wasn't bad enough you feel like a horrible mother yet you're trying so hard.