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Big Wedding or Small wedding!? [JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
1st Apr '13

We can't decide.



If I want a big wedding I would like to have a nice wedding with everything. Nothing fancy but just something I always liked with a big reception.



But then again I think I should keep the money and just have something small or at the courthouse.



If you are or have been married how did you decide what you wanted to do?



SO wants a small big wedding, he just wants the basics but he wants everyone to be there. I think if I have a big wedding I want a big wedding with more than the basics.

Monsters² Mom 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Dahlgren, VA, United States 4920 posts
1st Apr '13

I wanted a big wedding. Got about a month away and the stress of everything was insane. I was ready to just go to the courthouse and sometimes I wish I did. But in the end I loved my big wedding. I loved having everybody there and all the traditional wedding things (first dance/cake cutting/etc).

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
1st Apr '13

You know...the wedding is always super important until it's done. By then you've spent thousands of dollars. I wish we had saved the money we put into our wedding for a house. We'd have a huge down payment already.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
1st Apr '13

We eloped, I didn't want to deal with planning a wedding or a bunch of people. Seems like an awful lot of bother to me.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6263 posts
1st Apr '13

I think we're probably just going to go to the Dominican or Cuba and get married. I would love a semi big wedding but I don't get along with my parents, don't want them there.. and half of his family doesn't like me because of all the shit talking his mom has done. So why waste the $$ on having them there to celebrate our love? I'd much rather go somewhere beautiful with our closest friends and children and have a small ceremony on the beach followed by an awesome vacation.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
1st Apr '13
Quoting ℳonster's ℳom:" I wanted a big wedding. Got about a month away and the stress of everything was insane. I was ready to ... [snip!] ... I loved my big wedding. I loved having everybody there and all the traditional wedding things (first dance/cake cutting/etc)."


The stress is worry some, but I have found a place that will decorate, set up chairs and tables and take them down, provide linens and make sure everything is in line with the wedding before and during. My father won't get over that he wants us to get married at his place and I really don't want that.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
1st Apr '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" We eloped, I didn't want to deal with planning a wedding or a bunch of people. Seems like an awful lot of bother to me. "


That is what the other part of me says, but SO doesn't get it and said he would plan it. If there is planning to be done I need to be involved. lol.

Pirate 2 kids; Arizona 1506 posts
1st Apr '13

For me personally I'd want a small but beautiful wedding. I'm a pretty private person so the thought of having a big wedding just sounds nerve wrecking. I'd like something personal and sentimental the next time I marry.



Then from what I've seen so many large weddings can easily become more about the guests than about the couple.



Plus I'm also practical. I couldn't spend 30 grand or more on wedding. To me that money could go towards a down payment on a house or a new car.

Sneakmom 2 kids; Texas 4861 posts
1st Apr '13

We eloped and will do a small summer vow renewal after a few years when the family calms down.
It's been over a year already and my mom still won't speak to him directly. But she's not invited anyway, poo.

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
1st Apr '13
Quoting Pirate:" For me personally I'd want a small but beautiful wedding. I'm a pretty private person so the thought ... [snip!] ... I couldn't spend 30 grand or more on wedding. To me that money could go towards a down payment on a house or a new car."


It would end up being about 10 grand for the big wedding, which is a lot but if we can pay for a 10,000 wedding in one year we should be able to do the same the following year for a house payment, that and I don't want a house here anyway.

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
1st Apr '13
Quoting Pirate:" For me personally I'd want a small but beautiful wedding. I'm a pretty private person so the thought ... [snip!] ... I couldn't spend 30 grand or more on wedding. To me that money could go towards a down payment on a house or a new car."


I have anxiety, and with all the people at our wedding staring at me, I completely blanked on my vows. I stood there in shock for at least a minute before I said something. I was so embarrassed, and I cringe every time I think about it.

Nae&Zoe's Mommy 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Red Deer, Alberta 645 posts
1st Apr '13

I always wanted to have a smaller wedding if one at all lol.. I was never one to want to get married or had it planned out since I was a little girl.. I knew I always wanted babies but not the wedding.. weird now that I think about it. But we did have a small wedding with only 27 ppl (our close family and friends) for our ceremony and dinner. We are doing a larger party during the summer where everyone can come and celebrate!

♀NoBoysAllowed 19 kids; San Diego, California 51862 posts
1st Apr '13
Quoting [JadeLee]:" It would end up being about 10 grand for the big wedding, which is a lot but if we can pay for a 10,000 ... [snip!] ... in one year we should be able to do the same the following year for a house payment, that and I don't want a house here anyway."


But if you save the 10 grand and come up with another 10k in a year, then you'll have 20k to put down on a house, making your house payments smaller or you could get a house in a good neighborhood, a bigger one, and/or a nicer house. I just think those are things that are more important than a huge party that you'll enjoy for one day.

Monsters² Mom 2 kids; 4 angel babies; Dahlgren, VA, United States 4920 posts
1st Apr '13
Quoting [JadeLee]:" The stress is worry some, but I have found a place that will decorate, set up chairs and tables and ... [snip!] ... wedding before and during. My father won't get over that he wants us to get married at his place and I really don't want that."


My place did that too, they even cooked/catered and made the cake. It was family drama for me that caused the stress. That and the fact that all of the tuxs were given to the WRONG person, my bussle on my dress broke so I had the whole night with my train down and it was annoying (but photographed nicely) and my wonderful MIL's wardrobe for the evening lol.



I look back now and laugh at how worked up I got. But at that moment in time I was peeved beyond all belief. lol

[JadeLee] 1 child; Minnesota 12190 posts
1st Apr '13
Quoting Nae&Zoe's Mommy:" I always wanted to have a smaller wedding if one at all lol.. I was never one to want to get married ... [snip!] ... and friends) for our ceremony and dinner. We are doing a larger party during the summer where everyone can come and celebrate!"

Same here... but then I got SO and I think I might regret it if I don't have a nice wedding and just have a small one.