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......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
2nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" This. The entire point of closer parking spots isn't because a person is unable to walk from further ... [snip!] ... talking about how you can walk and are fine. good. Don't use the spot then. Why complain about others choosing to use a spot?"</blockquote>




I agree. I know I made my trips quick. I'd nearly be in tears by the end of my errands.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
2nd Apr '13
Quoting Bangtail:" I definitely ran into this issue. I thought I was all big and bad, walked across the parking lot into ... [snip!] ... so close to passing out that I couldn't feel my tongue. I never tried that again. Those extra minutes in the heat killed me."


Yep. I didn't do much of anything during my pregnancies, haha. First one was great. Worked on my feet all day right up until the night I had her. Course, I had her at 27 weeks, lol. 2nd pregnancy I was on bedrest and still close enough to family that I didn't have to go out much. My husband did the shopping. However, if I had to go out, holy fuck. 10-15 minutes of walking to the store from a parking lot was a LOT of time when I was supposed to only be up to pee, lol.



Now I have other issues. I CAN walk the store, but that doesn't mean I do it easily. It fucking hurts! So adding the walking that I will have to do in the store to the walking from forever away? I can see why people use them when they are available and the person qualifies.

Bangtail 50 kids; Katy, Texas 7752 posts
2nd Apr '13
Quoting she nan igans:" Yep. I didn't do much of anything during my pregnancies, haha. First one was great. Worked on my feet ... [snip!] ... in the store to the walking from forever away? I can see why people use them when they are available and the person qualifies. "


That was me. When I was pregnant with my first, I was working two jobs until about 27 weeks when I went into preterm labor. Luckily, with my second, I had an office job that would occasionally let me work from home, but that little man still would not stay in there. I had an at-home contraction monitor that I had to plug into the phone line and I was in L&D so many times to stop preterm labor, that the nurses would save me their US Magazines for the next time I came.



Now, I managed to very thoroughly break my foot about 5 1/2 months ago and I'm still not fully weight-bearing on it, so my husband has set it up where he works from home to help me heal. I can't even tell you the last time I went grocery shopping.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
2nd Apr '13
Quoting Bangtail:" That was me. When I was pregnant with my first, I was working two jobs until about 27 weeks when I ... [snip!] ... my husband has set it up where he works from home to help me heal. I can't even tell you the last time I went grocery shopping."


I go shopping. I'm not likely going to get better, and I refuse to miss out on life. However, I am tempted to get a placard or something to park closer because it would reduce the pain I'm in so I am capable of doing things other people get to do, you know?



It's tough. Everyone is so quick to decide if they think other people really deserve things. It's silly. You don't need it? Don't use it. Don't worry about other people. lol

Bangtail 50 kids; Katy, Texas 7752 posts
2nd Apr '13
Quoting she nan igans:" I go shopping. I'm not likely going to get better, and I refuse to miss out on life. However, I am ... [snip!] ... they think other people really deserve things. It's silly. You don't need it? Don't use it. Don't worry about other people. lol"


Well, I know from experience that chronic pain can often be alleviated with the right balance of movement and therapy. Sitting and giving in is the worst thing you can do. But overdoing it will kill you. Unfortunately, with my injury, I have to stay off of it for the bones to heal properly, so it's really agitating everything else.



Just a sidenote, I have heard about a supplement called SAM-e that does wonders for chronic pain. I can't try it, yet, but I'm going to as soon as I can.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
2nd Apr '13
Quoting Bangtail:" Well, I know from experience that chronic pain can often be alleviated with the right balance of movement ... [snip!] ... about a supplement called SAM-e that does wonders for chronic pain. I can't try it, yet, but I'm going to as soon as I can."


Let me know how it works.



And yes, it's that balance. Figuring out how much you need to do, but also not doing too much and making it worse. It sucks!

empire state of mind New York, New York 12208 posts
2nd Apr '13

There are other disabilities that make it difficult to walk but don't ge a handicap spot. I just think its stupid to have one for pregnancy or small children.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
2nd Apr '13
Quoting empire state of mind:" There are other disabilities that make it difficult to walk but don't ge a handicap spot. I just think its stupid to have one for pregnancy or small children."


Actually, if it affect mobility a lot most people can attempt to get a handicap placard.



A spot specifically for pregnancy makes sense because women who need it can use it when they are pregnant, since there are always new women becoming pregnant and others who are no longer pregnant. It takes a spot from a person who doesn't need it.



The only reason to complain really would be that you don't want to have to walk ONE extra spot because a single spot it reserved for pregnant women. Seems sort of against your whole "if you can't walk you shouldn't go to the store" idea, doesn't it? I mean, if you can walk that extra space, why do you care?

empire state of mind New York, New York 12208 posts
2nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Actually, if it affect mobility a lot most people can attempt to get a handicap placard. A spot specifically ... [snip!] ... "if you can't walk you shouldn't go to the store" idea, doesn't it? I mean, if you can walk that extra space, why do you care?"</blockquote>




Because I'm sick of pregnant women with their woe is me attitude. I actually do have a disease that causes pain and affects my mobility and I just take the closest spot wherever that may be because I'm an adult and can suck it up.

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
2nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting empire state of mind:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Also, isn't that true for most of the reasons ... [snip!] ... a lot and I've never seen someone with just a cane park handicap. Usually they get one of those power scooters in the store"</blockquote>



I use a power scooter in the store when pregnant unless its a quick trip.
I'm high risk and have been on moderate rest since 17w.



Don't have a handicap placard, so the parking spots are awesome.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
2nd Apr '13
Quoting P Pickle Pants:" <blockquote><b>Quoting empire state of mind:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... trip. I'm high risk and have been on moderate rest since 17w. Don't have a handicap placard, so the parking spots are awesome."

Stuff like that I can totally understand. I saw the other post where you replied to me. Sad that pregnant women with high risk pregnancies aren't able to get the tags. If ANY pregnant women should get the right to park up close, that would be a good reason IMO.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
2nd Apr '13
Quoting empire state of mind:" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Actually, if it affect mobility a lot most ... [snip!] ... pain and affects my mobility and I just take the closest spot wherever that may be because I'm an adult and can suck it up."


I also have an illness that causes chronic pain, so I get it. It sucks. It's great that you can suck it up. I'd think it would give you a bit more sympathy though, because maybe others aren't as lucky to be able to suck it up. You really can't judge what their pain is, and if you NEEDED a handicap placard, you could get one. Why begrudge other people who are in pain because you've decided you don't NEED the same treatment? That is your choice.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
2nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" I also have an illness that causes chronic pain, so I get it. It sucks. It's great that you can suck ... [snip!] ... one. Why begrudge other people who are in pain because you've decided you don't NEED the same treatment? That is your choice."</blockquote>




:!:

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
2nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lady GooGoo™:</b>" Stuff like that I can totally understand. I saw the other post where you replied to me. Sad that pregnant ... [snip!] ... aren't able to get the tags. If ANY pregnant women should get the right to park up close, that would be a good reason IMO."</blockquote>




That's just it. You can't tell I'm high risk from looking at me. You can't tell there's anything wrong with me at all. I just look like a lazy pregnant lady. Especially since I FEEL great and don't move with visible discomfort.



You never know who has symphysis pubis dysfunction or an incompetent cervix or any other of a hundred complications.



My story isn't written on my sleeve. No one who doesn't know me would know my risks. I get asked every day if I'm excited about another baby and I want to say that I'm still too afraid to be truly excited. But I look like anyone else. Even doctors took years to figure it out.

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
3rd Apr '13

It depends if the woman is high risk or not. I was told to use those motorized shopping carts and not to walk..I walked..I was in pain but I walked..that shits embarassing