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Bangtail 50 kids; Houston, TX, United States 7754 posts
Apr 2nd '13
Quoting she nan igans:" I go shopping. I'm not likely going to get better, and I refuse to miss out on life. However, I am ... [snip!] ... they think other people really deserve things. It's silly. You don't need it? Don't use it. Don't worry about other people. lol"


Well, I know from experience that chronic pain can often be alleviated with the right balance of movement and therapy. Sitting and giving in is the worst thing you can do. But overdoing it will kill you. Unfortunately, with my injury, I have to stay off of it for the bones to heal properly, so it's really agitating everything else.



Just a sidenote, I have heard about a supplement called SAM-e that does wonders for chronic pain. I can't try it, yet, but I'm going to as soon as I can.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
Apr 2nd '13
Quoting Bangtail:" Well, I know from experience that chronic pain can often be alleviated with the right balance of movement ... [snip!] ... about a supplement called SAM-e that does wonders for chronic pain. I can't try it, yet, but I'm going to as soon as I can."


Let me know how it works.



And yes, it's that balance. Figuring out how much you need to do, but also not doing too much and making it worse. It sucks!

empire state of mind New York, New York 12208 posts
Apr 2nd '13

There are other disabilities that make it difficult to walk but don't ge a handicap spot. I just think its stupid to have one for pregnancy or small children.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
Apr 2nd '13
Quoting empire state of mind:" There are other disabilities that make it difficult to walk but don't ge a handicap spot. I just think its stupid to have one for pregnancy or small children."


Actually, if it affect mobility a lot most people can attempt to get a handicap placard.



A spot specifically for pregnancy makes sense because women who need it can use it when they are pregnant, since there are always new women becoming pregnant and others who are no longer pregnant. It takes a spot from a person who doesn't need it.



The only reason to complain really would be that you don't want to have to walk ONE extra spot because a single spot it reserved for pregnant women. Seems sort of against your whole "if you can't walk you shouldn't go to the store" idea, doesn't it? I mean, if you can walk that extra space, why do you care?

empire state of mind New York, New York 12208 posts
Apr 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Actually, if it affect mobility a lot most people can attempt to get a handicap placard. A spot specifically ... [snip!] ... "if you can't walk you shouldn't go to the store" idea, doesn't it? I mean, if you can walk that extra space, why do you care?"</blockquote>




Because I'm sick of pregnant women with their woe is me attitude. I actually do have a disease that causes pain and affects my mobility and I just take the closest spot wherever that may be because I'm an adult and can suck it up.

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20532 posts
Apr 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting empire state of mind:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Also, isn't that true for most of the reasons ... [snip!] ... a lot and I've never seen someone with just a cane park handicap. Usually they get one of those power scooters in the store"</blockquote>



I use a power scooter in the store when pregnant unless its a quick trip.
I'm high risk and have been on moderate rest since 17w.



Don't have a handicap placard, so the parking spots are awesome.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
Apr 2nd '13
Quoting P Pickle Pants:" <blockquote><b>Quoting empire state of mind:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... trip. I'm high risk and have been on moderate rest since 17w. Don't have a handicap placard, so the parking spots are awesome."

Stuff like that I can totally understand. I saw the other post where you replied to me. Sad that pregnant women with high risk pregnancies aren't able to get the tags. If ANY pregnant women should get the right to park up close, that would be a good reason IMO.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
Apr 2nd '13
Quoting empire state of mind:" <blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" Actually, if it affect mobility a lot most ... [snip!] ... pain and affects my mobility and I just take the closest spot wherever that may be because I'm an adult and can suck it up."


I also have an illness that causes chronic pain, so I get it. It sucks. It's great that you can suck it up. I'd think it would give you a bit more sympathy though, because maybe others aren't as lucky to be able to suck it up. You really can't judge what their pain is, and if you NEEDED a handicap placard, you could get one. Why begrudge other people who are in pain because you've decided you don't NEED the same treatment? That is your choice.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
Apr 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" I also have an illness that causes chronic pain, so I get it. It sucks. It's great that you can suck ... [snip!] ... one. Why begrudge other people who are in pain because you've decided you don't NEED the same treatment? That is your choice."</blockquote>




:!:

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20532 posts
Apr 2nd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lady GooGoo™:</b>" Stuff like that I can totally understand. I saw the other post where you replied to me. Sad that pregnant ... [snip!] ... aren't able to get the tags. If ANY pregnant women should get the right to park up close, that would be a good reason IMO."</blockquote>




That's just it. You can't tell I'm high risk from looking at me. You can't tell there's anything wrong with me at all. I just look like a lazy pregnant lady. Especially since I FEEL great and don't move with visible discomfort.



You never know who has symphysis pubis dysfunction or an incompetent cervix or any other of a hundred complications.



My story isn't written on my sleeve. No one who doesn't know me would know my risks. I get asked every day if I'm excited about another baby and I want to say that I'm still too afraid to be truly excited. But I look like anyone else. Even doctors took years to figure it out.

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
Apr 3rd '13

It depends if the woman is high risk or not. I was told to use those motorized shopping carts and not to walk..I walked..I was in pain but I walked..that shits embarassing

empire state of mind New York, New York 12208 posts
Apr 3rd '13
Quoting she nan igans:" I also have an illness that causes chronic pain, so I get it. It sucks. It's great that you can suck ... [snip!] ... one. Why begrudge other people who are in pain because you've decided you don't NEED the same treatment? That is your choice."


Because pregnancy is a choice and I've never known any pregnant woman to not be in some discomfort towards the end. It's not like it comes as some surprise. Anyway I haven't seen those expectant mother parking spots in a long ass time, so it doesn't really affect me anyway.

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20532 posts
Apr 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting empire state of mind:</b>" Because pregnancy is a choice."</blockquote>




Not when you want a baby and your body isn't good at giving you one.



And don't say "adopt" because I'd love to, but its harder for military families and very difficult to afford and takes a long time. It's not like I can just walk into an office and walk out saying "okay, looks great! We'll call you when we find the right kid for you"



Plus adoption wouldn't allow me to breast feed, give birth, or one of a dozen othe experiences I find essential to the mothering process.

empire state of mind New York, New York 12208 posts
Apr 3rd '13
Quoting P Pickle Pants:" <blockquote><b>Quoting empire state of mind:</b>" Because pregnancy is a choice."</blockquote> ... [snip!] ... wouldn't allow me to breast feed, give birth, or one of a dozen othe experiences I find essential to the mothering process."

I also think your situation is different because you are high risk, and I think you SHOULD qualify for handicap parking.

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20532 posts
Apr 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting empire state of mind:</b>" I also think your situation is different because you are high risk, and I think you SHOULD qualify for handicap parking."</blockquote>



But why not give the benefit of the doubt to other mamas out there and just take a little zen moment instead of getting heated up about the parking of parking there out of spite when you're not pregnant (sorry if that wasn't you, I have preg brain) ...and remember that the one spot YOU take out of spite may be the spot someone like ME needs