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My first baby.. birth plans?? Diandra Smiley 1 child; Salt Lake City, Utah 22 posts
1st Apr '13

Hi, I'm due with my first baby on June 25th, 2013 and I really don't know what to expect lol I am meeting a couple midwives until then but I'm pretty sure I've met the midwife that I want to be there when I give birth. Currently I'm looking into birthing classes but I've been hearing about hypno/water/natural birthing from other couples. At this point I feel I may be getting the epidural, just because I'm not sure of what to expect and how much pain I could handle ha.. with that being said, that's where I'm curious. I've heard several things about getting the epidural and problems it may cause but I don't know if I could handle the natural birthing process with my first so current Moms or Mommies to be, what birthing plans are you looking into or planning? Any suggestions on how I can better educate myself or what I should do?

Bad Things 1 child; Blacksburg, SC, United States 15810 posts
1st Apr '13

I was in the hospital with an obgyn.



My list was as follows;



1. Bring on the drugs
2. Delay cutting the cord
3. If all okay, place on chest asap.
4. Nobody in delivery room except grandma, mom, and SO.
5. Get it out.



Most of these were verbal, not written down. :D

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
1st Apr '13

Every labor is different. I never go in saying I will or wont get the epi just do the best I can and know I have options. If a natural birth is your goal then take classes for natural birth and work with your midwife on support. Whatever helps you relax and stay calm and focus.

Brookie99 1 child; Fort McMurray, Alberta 1126 posts
1st Apr '13

Im going into it with no plan in regards to pain management. Some people told me not to write a birth plan because its my first baby but there are some things I know I don't want unless it becomes 100% medically necessary and I feel more comfortable having it written down and my doctor being made aware of it as soon as possible. Pain management options aren't one of those things because I.have no idea what to expect. I want to labor and birth with out any pain medication but I know that I have no idea how much pain Im going to be in and might be begging for an epidural after an hour of labor

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20522 posts
1st Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Diandra Smiley:</b>" Hi, I'm due with my first baby on June 25th, 2013 and I really don't know what to expect lol I am meeting ... [snip!] ... what birthing plans are you looking into or planning? Any suggestions on how I can better educate myself or what I should do?"</blockquote>
First and second were all natural. Plan to do it again this time too. It was amazing!



It DOES hurt. But it ends. And it's not THAT bad. You just take it one contraction at a time and KNOW that you can do it. If you KNOW you can, then its much easier!

♥BakedACake♥ 2 kids; Hillsboro, Missouri 2961 posts
1st Apr '13

<qblockquote><b>Quoting Diandra Smiley:</b>" Hi, I'm due with my first baby on June 25th, 2013 and I really don't know what to expect lol I am meeting ... [snip!] ... what birthing plans are you looking into or planning? Any suggestions on how I can better educate myself or what I should do?"</blockquote>




I basically put on my first one that I wanted skin to skin, and a few other things but I can't really remember.



This 2nd one I got picky. I wanted no epidural unless I requested it. I wanted an IV pick line for just in case sort of situations, I wanted an all natural birth, I wanted to walk the halls, use a birthing ball, use the tub, ect, I wanted to wear my 'pretty pushers' gown during labor and delivery not a hospital gown, I wanted no students, I wanted only me and my husband in the delivery room, I would see visitors at my discretion, I wanted skin to skin t
I only got a few obvious things off my list. Me and my husband in the delivery room , and no epidural. I should have just thrown the damn birthing plan out the f**king window.

Diandra Smiley 1 child; Salt Lake City, Utah 22 posts
1st Apr '13

To be honest, I really did not have a plan at all, just pretty much thought to myself "I'll just wing it, whatever happens, happens.. Women have been giving birth for ages and we all got here somehow but we got here!" Until just a couple of days ago that changed recently just because I've seen/heard other couples preparing so I figured "hmm, I should at least get a sense of what I'm getting into and how to prepare" haha thanks though ladies, I'm definitely making a list of what I would like and what I wouldn't like. For now though, while I still have some time, I'm considering natural versus the epidural but I'm sure it will change once the actual day occurs because like you've all said, every labor and birth is different.. and each woman is different as well:) I guess I'm just feeling a bit nervous ha(:

pennylove Due July 9; 17 kids; 1 angel baby; Australia 1112 posts
1st Apr '13

i winged it and ended up induced and with a epi and 6 various doctors/nurses watching me give birth( i was pissed about that, public health system)
A birth plan is great but do not be afraid to throw that out the window as they say" and do something else completely against what you wanted eg. the epi......... i never wanted it but gas ans pethidine were doing shit and i needed pain relief now!!! goodluck:)

Diandra Smiley 1 child; Salt Lake City, Utah 22 posts
1st Apr '13
Quoting pennylove:" i winged it and ended up induced and with a epi and 6 various doctors/nurses watching me give birth( ... [snip!] ... wanted eg. the epi......... i never wanted it but gas ans pethidine were doing shit and i needed pain relief now!!! goodluck:)"

Oh wow.. that is just insane! I'm more of a private person too and I'm just hoping for the best lol thanks though but that's what the midwives keep telling me, "you can make a plan but it's just good to have options available because most likely it will not be exactly as you anticipated."

PokkaDotts 2 kids; Cranbrook, British Columbia 1777 posts
2nd Apr '13

First off, I'm also due June 25th!
And secondly, with my first I didn't make a birth plan. My midwives wanted me to, but I didn't have ANY idea about labour and birth, so I didn't know what I wanted. I ended up firing my midwives while I was in the hospital in labour, and using the on call doctor, and taking every drug available to me haha. I wont be making a birth plan this time around either, other than noting that I don't want a c-section unless 100% medically necesary.

Diandra Smiley 1 child; Salt Lake City, Utah 22 posts
2nd Apr '13

Congratulations, yay we're due the same day:D just a couple of months for us to go(:
but haha most likely I feel I will be doing the same, I mean sometimes you just don't feel anyone can understand what you're going through and you want to be able to feel like you can really trust someone. I had a male OBGYN before I had a midwife and he just didn't spend as much with me as I had expected he would or even his attitude towards my pregnancy, it felt as if he could care less so I decided I'd see the midwives and I really like a couple of them.
For now, I'm just nervous, the "not knowing what to expect" but I guess it's just one of those milestones in life that you just have to experience to really know what you're getting into and how it will be lol

PokkaDotts 2 kids; Cranbrook, British Columbia 1777 posts
2nd Apr '13
Quoting Diandra Smiley:" Congratulations, yay we're due the same day:D just a couple of months for us to go(: but haha most likely ... [snip!] ... one of those milestones in life that you just have to experience to really know what you're getting into and how it will be lol"


Exactly, it's really not as bad as I was worried it would be before I had my first, and I was in labour for 36 hours! I ended up firing my midwives because I just didn't trust them. I went with them because I had no choice in the matter, my doctor was on maternity leave and there was no other doctors to take me. They called me fat, made fun of me, dissaproved of me not being married and so on and so forth, so when I finally got to the hospital, out they went lol! But I know that my experience was the odd one out, and most midwives are amazing!