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TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3738 posts
2nd Apr '13

I don't really have anything to add to this thread...I just wanted to say good luck! We tried CIO when DS was 7 months old...I failed :( I let SO try it for a week. He didn't cry as long or hard by the 5th day (still hurt my feelings, though) and by the last night, he still wasn't going down as easy as SO promised me...plus, he was teething again, so I had to give in. Well, he's almost 10 months and we're still back to the way it was before -- nursing until he's fast asleep, then lay him down quietly. 2, 3 sometimes 4 hours later, do it all over again.



I will admit though, during the week that we did CIO, he slept for longer stretches. I thought he was dead the first night, because he slept for 7.5 hours. Maybe once he's a year I'll be strong enough to try again. Let me know how you make out! :)

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
2nd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Oh Lord. How old is she now? Have you seen improvements since you tried CIO? Not just her going down good but in the amount of sleep in total? "</blockquote>




Nope she is still a horrible unpredictable sleeper

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting TootsMcGoots:" I don't really have anything to add to this thread...I just wanted to say good luck! We tried CIO when ... [snip!] ... because he slept for 7.5 hours. Maybe once he's a year I'll be strong enough to try again. Let me know how you make out! :)"


Thanks! I remember that and how everyone jumped on you in your thread which is why I added the note on the bottom lol.



The issue I have with him is that he takes FOREVER to fall asleep and he can't do it without me nursing or bouncing him. But for HOURS. If it only took 10 minutes, it would be fine. If it was every hour, but I could get him back to sleep fast it would be fine. If he actually slept when we co-sleep, it would be fine. But he is just not sleeping at all unless I spend HOURS putting him to sleep. I'm pretty much neglecting my 4 year old and that's a serious problem for me...DS1 is fine, he's very independent, but I feel so guilty. :(

TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3738 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Thanks! I remember that and how everyone jumped on you in your thread which is why I added the note ... [snip!] ... neglecting my 4 year old and that's a serious problem for me...DS1 is fine, he's very independent, but I feel so guilty. :("


I know! They were bitches! lol Like I enjoyed hearing him cry :roll: lol It traumatized me from wanting to try again. SO keeps throwing it out there, but I keep saying no. Once he's tired enough to sleep, it's easy to get him down...but then he's up several times a night. It only takes about 20 minutes from the moment I get out of bed, until I'm back in bed...but it's inconvenient for me lol. Luckily though, he's not waking up 9 times anymore...average is 3-4. Last night was only once though! I'm not going to get my hopes up that this will continue. Last time he did this, the next night was HELL!
Do what feels right. If you're ready to try CIO, then do it. LOTS of people do it, and their babies are happy and healthy...and a happy baby, is a happy mommy :)

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting TootsMcGoots:" I know! They were bitches! lol Like I enjoyed hearing him cry :roll: lol It traumatized me from wanting ... [snip!] ... to try CIO, then do it. LOTS of people do it, and their babies are happy and healthy...and a happy baby, is a happy mommy :)"


Right? It's a proven fact that mothers are actually physically uncomfortable when their babies cry. That's 100% correct in my case. I feel like I'm always stressed the hell out because he's crying...and then I have to spend time I don't have putting him to sleep.



I wanted to wait to try CIO when he was a year old. But my mothering capabilities and my marriage are both suffering so something has got to give! I'm glad your kiddo is getting better at the whole sleeping thing. It's like we actually have to teach them that they NEED sleep. I thought that was freaking instinct, man! Lol.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Right? It's a proven fact that mothers are actually physically uncomfortable when their babies cry. ... [snip!] ... sleeping thing. It's like we actually have to teach them that they NEED sleep. I thought that was freaking instinct, man! Lol. "

Im actually looking into a baby sleep coach for help because im seriously out of ideas and my husband and I need sleep. I will let you know how it/if it works out.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" Im actually looking into a baby sleep coach for help because im seriously out of ideas and my husband and I need sleep. I will let you know how it/if it works out. "


Baby sleep coach? I have never heard of one of those. Is it expensive? Because at this point I'd shell out some cash for someone to help me.



I'm considering hiring a babysitter for 12 straight hours just so DH and I could have some time to ourselves, but I don't trust anyone enough to leave them alone with 2 terrors lol.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Baby sleep coach? I have never heard of one of those. Is it expensive? Because at this point I'd shell ... [snip!] ... just so DH and I could have some time to ourselves, but I don't trust anyone enough to leave them alone with 2 terrors lol. "

I hadn't either but i looked into it and im desperate at this point. The one im going to have a consultation with charges $100 for a the "this is the plan" meeting or $250 for the plan meeting and 8 follow ups.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" I hadn't either but i looked into it and im desperate at this point. The one im going to have a consultation ... [snip!] ... to have a consultation with charges $100 for a the "this is the plan" meeting or $250 for the plan meeting and 8 follow ups."


So $250 all together for all 8 follow ups too? I'd consider it....but I know DH wants to try CIO before anything else, so if that's an epic fail I'm glad to know I have a plan B even if it's pricey, instead of looking at another sleepless year lol.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Supafly★:" So $250 all together for all 8 follow ups too? I'd consider it....but I know DH wants to try CIO before ... [snip!] ... if that's an epic fail I'm glad to know I have a plan B even if it's pricey, instead of looking at another sleepless year lol. "

This is the lady im speaking with today (doing the 15 min free consult.) They focus on gentle sleep training (no CIO) and establishing a good schedule. I heard about it from another friend and just googled baby sleep coach and my zip code.
Who I am speaking with she is local to me: http://www.sweetdreamsmarin.com/



This is the site I found her on: http://www.sleeplady.com/



Katy went down just great last night woke up at 5:30 and slept downstairs with my husbad for another 3 hours. This is what we consider a great night and a rare occasion.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" This is the lady im speaking with today (doing the 15 min free consult.) They focus on gentle sleep training ... [snip!] ... at 5:30 and slept downstairs with my husbad for another 3 hours. This is what we consider a great night and a rare occasion. "


That sounds like heaven to me! DS goes to bed at 1am, up at 1:30, back down around 2, up at 5:30 and then back down from 7-9am - that's a typical day and of course the times are never the same lol. It's so exhausting. And his naps suck, too.



I want to look into it but I can just hear DH's remarks now - "You're going to hire someone else to do your job?" :roll: So I'm going to try on my own first, just to make him understand that this isn't fixed as easily as he thinks it can be.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Supafly★:" That sounds like heaven to me! DS goes to bed at 1am, up at 1:30, back down around 2, up at 5:30 and ... [snip!] ... So I'm going to try on my own first, just to make him understand that this isn't fixed as easily as he thinks it can be. "

Luckily my DH is the one who has to get up with her so he is I think more desperate than I am. She naps great. Goes down around 1 give or take 30 min without a problem. I put her down fully awake she rolls over sucks her pinky and is out for 2-3 hours on avg. At night she goes to bed around 9/9:30 90% of the time just as easily as nap. She gets milk, cuddles, then bed. She goes down awake. She can then wake up anytime between 12:30 and 5:30 sometimes she lets out a small cry and then goes back to sleepy. Most of the time it goes straight to hysterical crying and screaming and the only thing that settles her is daddy sleeping in the recliner downstairs.

Supafly★ 2 kids; Poland 14113 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Jennybananna:" Luckily my DH is the one who has to get up with her so he is I think more desperate than I am. She naps ... [snip!] ... straight to hysterical crying and screaming and the only thing that settles her is daddy sleeping in the recliner downstairs. "


Aww poor DH. Most nights he bounces DS to sleep while I get a shower in. I feel bad though because he cries a lot and it takes a loooong time for him to fall asleep.

mamiKrystal 4 kids; Hayward, California 809 posts
3rd Apr '13

I let my kids CIO, along with other methods sometimes like if I know exactly why they're crying and we can resolve it. I never had to use a time limit.. my kids, 3 and 4 sometimes will cry instead of telling me what's wrong for example, and I just take them to a place by themselves like the bedroom or bathroom and tell them when they're ready to talk to me to come out. I think the time limit depends on the child's age and what kind of behavior it is as well.

mamiKrystal 4 kids; Hayward, California 809 posts
3rd Apr '13

I let my kids CIO, along with other methods sometimes like if I know exactly why they're crying and we can resolve it. I never had to use a time limit.. my kids, 3 and 4 sometimes will cry instead of telling me what's wrong for example, and I just take them to a place by themselves like the bedroom or bathroom and tell them when they're ready to talk to me to come out. I think the time limit depends on the child's age and what kind of behavior it is as well.