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TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 22822 posts
status 3rd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting talexys:</b>" I am actually wondering when and if your baby will ever self sooth to sleep if you always rock your baby ... [snip!] ... just not sure what to do.. Please no rude comments, I'm genuinely wondering peoples techniques and opinions on the matter. TIA"</blockquote>




I had a lousy sleeper who never learned to self-soothe.
I tried a few methods and sought a great deal of advice. I was very anti-CIO. The No Cry Sleep Solution helped get us from point A to point D but we needed point Z or closer to point Z. I used the methods in Healthy Sleep Habits Happy Child by Weisbluth. It was one of the best decisions I made. She didn't cry much and things went far better than I imagined they would have.



I dont believe it is good for kids to cry and I am 100% confident that there was less crying and more sleep using Weissbluth method. For us, that meant CIO.

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 22822 posts
status 3rd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama*AtoZ:</b>" I tend to go with whatever my child is showing me that they NEED and what is biologically normal. That ... [snip!] ... socializing with supportive mommy friends, getting fresh air and exercise, taking quiet time for yourself when you can etc."</blockquote>




Much of wHat you state that "we know" is not truly known.
The "studies" on CIO are not valid and not something we can base recommendations upon.

Mara Due September 27 (girl); 2 kids; San Francisco, California 38964 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Mama*AtoZ:" We have a fundamental difference in the view of children. I don't believe a child doing what is easy ... [snip!] ... on that is deliberately making them cry, and leaving them alone to do it. Therapeutic crying is usually done with support. "


*claps happily*



well said!



crying is normal - but it doesn't feel good, it doesn't make the baby happier or healthier. it's communication of distress of some form whether emotional or physical, that's your job to fix / prevent / soothe.



it sucks to be a baby - lacking mobility, the ability to articulate thoughts, much less express them, sitting in your shit till someone notices, the bizarreness of other humans and all their noises and ability to control your body... the darkness and it's mysterious ability to blind you.



poor little monkeys... crying isn't good - it's normal, but it's not any more good than when WE cry.

Rebecca(Adam'sMommy) 1 child; Beaufort, South Carolina 3251 posts
3rd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama*AtoZ:</b>" We have a fundamental difference in the view of children. I don't believe a child doing what is easy ... [snip!] ... on that is deliberately making them cry, and leaving them alone to do it. Therapeutic crying is usually done with support. "</blockquote>




That was way too much for me to read.



But what im gathering is, you have your children to parent and i have mine. Think what you want but i was raised the same way and im doing better than anyone in my family especially my two brothers who were baby(ed).



By the way. I clearly stated that when he is in the high chair i am in front of him at all times. Im not fortunate enough to have a way to tye him to my hip for me to do things which in my opinion is just another way of "making things easier" for you.



And also let me state, i never once said letting them cry alone for hours was healthy. I said showing them that they can be away from you and reassuring them they are okay is how to do it.