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this isn't working. help? THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
3rd Apr '13

DD is 10 months. She has a rather strict bed time of 10 and has since about 7-8 months. She gets up when she gets up. i feel that if she sleeps long, then she must have needed it. She gets up anywhere 9-12 (rarely 1-2). usually she's ready for a nap between 1-3 (depending on when she gets up in the morning). she naps 2-3 hrs. when she gets up, she gets lunch. While she's eating, she's fine. once she's full she gets down and plays. sometimes by 5 but lately closer to 7, she's tired again and starts getting really cranky. i feel this is too close to her bed time to let her nap.



last night, she went down close to 8, got up between 9:30-10. she laid down around 3, getting up around 5. ever since about 6:30, she's been a total crab. she keeps doing stuff to get hurt (falling while cruising, pinching her finger with her toys, etc). when we pick her up to love on her, she won't let you put her down. even when she's ok, if you set her down she starts crying like you just broke her heart.



i don't know what to do. she seems to always be tired and cranky. any suggestions or advice? any at all is welcome!

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 46773 posts
3rd Apr '13

I think she needs to go to bed earlier, and get up earlier. Get her on a routine.
Example... LO is 11 months old and bedtime is 7:30. Even if he's not acting tired I put him down for that time and he will fall asleep because he's so used to it. I wakes around 8 on weekends, has breakfast, lunch, snack, dinner at the same times and his naps every day are at the same time.



Keeping things consistent is best... but kids her age need to go to bed earlier. We start producing the chemicals in our body that help us go to sleep when the sun goes down. Being up until 10 is just making her overtired and then she's sleeping over 12 hours a night and not napping at the same time daily. She needs a set routine.



Maybe 8pm bedtime, waking around 8.
Breakfast and lunch the same time daily.
Nap 1-3.
Then snack and dinner at the same time daily and back to bed for 8.



It could take a week or two for her to get used to it, but it's worth it.

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting MunchkinWrangler:" I think she needs to go to bed earlier, and get up earlier. Get her on a routine. Example... LO is 11 ... [snip!] ... dinner at the same time daily and back to bed for 8. It could take a week or two for her to get used to it, but it's worth it."

i forgot to put in OP that when we've tried putting her to bed earlier she wakes several times a night and is up by 4-6 which doesn't work in our house because it will wake DH and MIL who have to work.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Oceanside, CA, United States 112351 posts
3rd Apr '13

Sounds like she needs more than one nap. my 10 month old has one around 10-11 and then another around 3-4



She could be teething too. My son is extra sleepy, cranky and clingy this week and hes getting his first tooth.

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:" Sounds like she needs more than one nap. my 10 month old has one around 10-11 and then another around ... [snip!] ... around 3-4 She could be teething too. My son is extra sleepy, cranky and clingy this week and hes getting his first tooth."

i usually try to get her down for a 2nd nap by 5 but if she naps till 3 is that too close together?



i keep thinking she's teething but feel nothing...(she has 3 bottom teeth and that's it)

user banned 2 kids; Silly, Belgium 6539 posts
3rd Apr '13

I think she should sleep earlier as well, it seems it would solve most of the problems. Start the bedtime routine around 7, so she'll be asleep by 8, then wake her up 10-12 hours later, let her take a nice long lunchtime nap and she'll be ready for bed by 7:30.

TootsMcGoots 1 child; Saskatchewan 3732 posts
3rd Apr '13

Ha, DS is almost 10 months, and he goes to bed at midnight or later :? We have absolutely NO routine whatsoever....I don't want him to go to bed any earlier than 10-10:30, otherwise he wakes up early...and I am in no way a morning person. Selfish? Yup :)

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting TootsMcGoots:" Ha, DS is almost 10 months, and he goes to bed at midnight or later :? We have absolutely NO routine ... [snip!] ... him to go to bed any earlier than 10-10:30, otherwise he wakes up early...and I am in no way a morning person. Selfish? Yup :)"

this is part of why i don't want her waking up at the crack of dawn. like the other day, i was up till 6, as soon as i laid down, she was up...after going to bed at 9:45...

...lll 1 child; Rutland, Vermont 1400 posts
3rd Apr '13

dd is 8 months and we start our routine about 7:30... bath, last bottle, zantac, brush her teeth, play for about 20-30 mins depending on what the time looks like and we try to have her in her crib at 8:00 then we read her a couple stories then lights out. she will sleep through the night until about 8am. naps on the other hand have been horrible lately... she just doesnt want more then one a day so shes super grumpy until bed time. but im trying to work with her to take more then just one nap so she doesnt get so over tired. this has been our routine since she was about 2 months old. the only time it ever got screwed up is day light savings and when we lost power in the dead of winter for 3 days...

lamr - 02-08-13-21 2 kids; Crazytown, ON, Canada 5922 posts
3rd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Draco'sStalker:</b>" this is part of why i don't want her waking up at the crack of dawn. like the other day, i was up till 6, as soon as i laid down, she was up...after going to bed at 9:45..."</blockquote>




You were up to 6am? Why? Are you a shift worker?

THE Draco Malfoy 1 child; Tennessee 19885 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting lamr - 02-08-13-21:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Draco'sStalker:</b>" this is part of why i don't want her waking ... [snip!] ... laid down, she was up...after going to bed at 9:45..."</blockquote> You were up to 6am? Why? Are you a shift worker?"

DH works nights so i end up staying up till he gets home.

Sarah ♥ K&K 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Oceanside, CA, United States 112351 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Krystie321:" dd is 8 months and we start our routine about 7:30... bath, last bottle, zantac, brush her teeth, play ... [snip!] ... old. the only time it ever got screwed up is day light savings and when we lost power in the dead of winter for 3 days..."


DS tried to cut out his second nap so I just shortened the first one, instead of 3 hours its 2 hours and then 1 hour for the 2nd nap. Its working well.