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Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
3rd Apr '13

I'm 2.5 months in to ebf and it is not easy. He won't take a bottle though. It's tough. He often nurses every hour so I can't leave the house without him and getting stuff done around the house is a hassle. Makes it harder to tend to my daughter's needs. ts definitely hard. However, is say the percentage is so low is because a lot of mothers go back to work.

ChubbyCheekers 2 kids; New York 3117 posts
3rd Apr '13

I think it's easy! Especially in the middle of the night - I don't have to get up and make a bottle, I just pluck her out of her bassinet and put her on the b**b. It's hard for the first couple weeks due to cluster feeding, engorgement, and sore nipples, but then it gets easier.



Honestly, most women just aren't educated enough and/or don't have enough support. Many are told they're "not producing enough" and bullied into giving formula for fear of starving their baby.



ETA: I should add that DD does get a bottle when I'm at work (a couple days a week), but it's breastmilk, not formula. She's never had anything but breastmilk, so I'm not sure if that qualifies as EBF or not.

Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
3rd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ChubbyCheekers

[Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker] 18 kids; noneya, TN, United States 3245 posts
3rd Apr '13

I have a decent support system in my husband. He wasn't on board with bfing my first, but we were both verrrry young and neither knew the benfits. He knows how important this is to me and supports it as long as I want it. My mom is pro bf....but only until they have teeth (wtf?) My dad is really supportive. My inlaws are dead set against it. Like...my mil said that's what makes rapists and shit. Shes crazy.



I'm just scared of drying up...my mom dried up at 6 weeks with me because I wouldn't nurse enough. I'm afraid to feel like I failed.

~Mommyof3girls~ 3 kids; Ohio 2686 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting [Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker]:" I have a decent support system in my husband. He wasn't on board with bfing my first, but we were both ... [snip!] ... scared of drying up...my mom dried up at 6 weeks with me because I wouldn't nurse enough. I'm afraid to feel like I failed."


If baby isn't nursing then pump. Only way to maintain a supply is if you're telling your body to produce more. You're not going to "dry up" over night, it's physically impossible. My first goal was to make it out of the hospital, we're going 7 months and counting now :) She's our first breastfed baby but our third/youngest child. Anything is possible as long as you set your mind to it.

ღ.ღ.ღ 3 kids; South Carolina 7316 posts
3rd Apr '13

It was hard in the beginning but to me it gets a little irritating at times. Especially when i'm trying to do something and DD wants to do nothing but stay on the b**b, sometimes i just want to hand her to DH and have him feed her or give her a bottle/sippy with BM. In 2 days we will be EBF for 9 months.

Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
3rd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting [Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker]:</b>" I have a decent support system in my husband. He wasn't on board with bfing my first, but we were both ... [snip!] ... scared of drying up...my mom dried up at 6 weeks with me because I wouldn't nurse enough. I'm afraid to feel like I failed."</blockquote>




As long as you do what you can you won't fail. With my first kid I only breastfed for 3 weeks because I had no support. My husband was deployed and didn't come home until our daughter was 2 months old so I only had my mom and she thinks breastfeeding is unnecessary. I did what I could though. It was the constant fatigue when she nursed that had me stop because I didn't have anyone rooting for me. I'm proud I.made it 3 weeks with her. Some breastfeeding is better then none.

Stfu Squirrel District of Columbia 8535 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Andi+Andy=Marley+1:" <blockquote><b>Quoting [Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker]:</b>" I have a decent support system ... [snip!] ... because I didn't have anyone rooting for me. I'm proud I.made it 3 weeks with her. Some breastfeeding is better then none."


Oh man, I forgot about the fatigue. Can't say I'm looking forward to wanting to fall asleep every time I feed the baby. Then again, I guess it's not so bad to have an excuse to be superlazy. Not that I need one now...

ღ.ღ.ღ 3 kids; South Carolina 7316 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Stfu Squirrel:" Oh man, I forgot about the fatigue. Can't say I'm looking forward to wanting to fall asleep every time ... [snip!] ... every time I feed the baby. Then again, I guess it's not so bad to have an excuse to be superlazy. Not that I need one now..."


Lol this totally happened to me earlier, didn't help i had only gotten an hour of sleep. DD was nursing and i dozed off and i woke up to DH yelling at me that i was suppose to be awake watching the kids. (good thing they were watching their movie)

Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
3rd Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Stfu Squirrel:</b>" Oh man, I forgot about the fatigue. Can't say I'm looking forward to wanting to fall asleep every time ... [snip!] ... every time I feed the baby. Then again, I guess it's not so bad to have an excuse to be superlazy. Not that I need one now..."</blockquote>




you might get lucky this time and nit have a problem with fatigue. I got lucky this time with my son. This time around fatigue only happened at night so I started cosleeping. Easy peasy!

Thunderchunk 2 kids; Mobile, Alabama 11066 posts
3rd Apr '13

I have been EBF for almost 4 months and it is one of the hardest things I've ever done. I formula fed my son (3 years old) and it was a completely different experience BF my daughter. With my son, me and my husband could take turns feeding him and we could leave him with my MIL once he got older so we could have the night out or something. But with BF my daughter, I do all of the feedings and barely have any "me" time (heck, I didn't have time to shave my legs until she was almost 2 months old :oops:). It's definitely very time consuming! I also have very little support from my family and that makes it harder. Every time I go visit my family, at least one person asks me when I'm going to start feeding her formula. I hate to sound like BF is a negative experience because it's not. The bonding is absolutely amazing. I hate to say it, but I didn't have a true "connection" with my son until he was 4-5 months old. I loved him of course, but I didn't connect with him if that makes sense. With my daughter, I had an immediate connection and I feel like that has a lot to do with breast feeding. It's hard but so worth it.

The Inconspicuous Raccoon 2 kids; Cincinnati, Ohio 1688 posts
3rd Apr '13

At first it is hard, but after a rough week or two it comes so naturally.

JenTheHen 2 kids; Hillsboro, Oregon 458 posts
5th Apr '13

For me it was a lot of work to exclusively nurse, but I was never tempted to give my son formula. My son nursed 20 times a day for the first 2 months. It was painful and exhausting. The first 6 weeks are the hardest, and that's when it's so important to nurse well to be able to maintain your supply. I'm a stay at home mom so I only ever pumped for my own comfort, but I can imagine having to pump at work and deal with bottles and all that on top of nursing is the reason why the numbers of exclusive breastfeeders at 6 months is so low. The best thing you can do is prepare yourself before the birth of your baby, learn as much as you can, and expect it to be challenging and exhausting at first, but it really does get better and there are just so many benefits to nursing that you and your baby will have if you keep it up.