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OMFGGGGGGGG Wonderstruck ♥ Due March 15; 2 kids; Seattle, Washington 482 posts
3rd Apr '13

I try to keep posts like these off my FB so here goes it.
Im so f**king sick of picking up BD's slack, every f**king weekend it's some excuse as to why he needs me to take the boys back early, or why he can't take them.
He has them friday evenings, until Sunday mornings. TWO f**king DAYS.
But every week it's a different excuse?



Sorry but this seems to be doing more harm to them then good. They don't deserve to suffer! & im tired of making plans and getting excited to get ME TIME just to have to cancel.




/end rant.

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
3rd Apr '13

What are his reasons for cancelling? Depending on the situation I would refuse.

Wonderstruck ♥ Due March 15; 2 kids; Seattle, Washington 482 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Mama Lizzy :]:" What are his reasons for cancelling? Depending on the situation I would refus

I would refuse but i know if i do, they kids will just get pawned off onto his mother and they STILL won't get the time with him. That's my whole thing, i don't refuse because i feel like if I do, my kids suffer.



One week it was his mom was getting her roof re-done (he lives there)
Then this week he needs to make a trip to Portland for "business" (which is him buying / selling cars btw)
& then he has admitted that after they go to sleep or once a weekend he'll leave them with his mother and go out.
Mind you he was in jail for 45 days at one point too.

ItsEasyIfYouTry 1 child; Florida 830 posts
3rd Apr '13

I don't blame you I would be upset too. I'm a single mom. Thankfully BD is not involved so I don't have to deal with his stressful ways.

Sophia's Mommy♥ 1 child; Hollywood, Florida 10160 posts
3rd Apr '13

I'd tell him I was busy or I wasn't home when he tried to bring them back. Not like he'd drop them on your doorstep and leave. (Well I'd hope not, lol)

Sophia's Mommy♥ 1 child; Hollywood, Florida 10160 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:" I don't blame you I would be upset too. I'm a single mom. Thankfully BD is not involved so I don't have to deal with his stressful ways."


This! Sounds like something my BD would do.

Wonderstruck ♥ Due March 15; 2 kids; Seattle, Washington 482 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Sophia's Mommy♥:" I'd tell him I was busy or I wasn't home when he tried to bring them back. Not like he'd drop them on your doorstep and leave. (Well I'd hope not, lol)"

He'd drop them off with my parents then and involve them.
He's that kind of BD lol

Wonderstruck ♥ Due March 15; 2 kids; Seattle, Washington 482 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting ItsEasyIfYouTry:" I don't blame you I would be upset too. I'm a single mom. Thankfully BD is not involved so I don't have to deal with his stressful ways."

It's to the point where i feel like he's doing more harm then good being "involved"
My kids are 3 & 15 months ... they know wtf is going on.

Sophia's Mommy♥ 1 child; Hollywood, Florida 10160 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" He'd drop them off with my parents then and involve them. He's that kind of BD lol"


Have them tell him that they're busy or not home also?

Wonderstruck ♥ Due March 15; 2 kids; Seattle, Washington 482 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Sophia's Mommy♥:" Have them tell him that they're busy or not home also?"

I could but then I feel guilty if all i'm doing is relaxing or out with friends and he's trying to get rid of them, I feel like they feel unwanted and get that vibe so I just take them.
I loooooove spending time with them, but this is starting to wear on me.
I like MY time to spend with SO and to just f**king sit in silence LOL

Sophia's Mommy♥ 1 child; Hollywood, Florida 10160 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" I could but then I feel guilty if all i'm doing is relaxing or out with friends and he's trying to get ... [snip!] ... time with them, but this is starting to wear on me. I like MY time to spend with SO and to just f**king sit in silence LOL"


You deserve time to yourself too. Tell him he needs to stop returning them early, if he has plans, reschedule them. You could always refuse to let them go over for a couple weekends until he shows you that he actually appreciates and wants the time with them.

Wonderstruck ♥ Due March 15; 2 kids; Seattle, Washington 482 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Sophia's Mommy♥:" You deserve time to yourself too. Tell him he needs to stop returning them early, if he has plans, reschedule ... [snip!] ... refuse to let them go over for a couple weekends until he shows you that he actually appreciates and wants the time with them."

Definitely going to be doing that.
I feel like he's taking advantage of me and of his time.

Sophia's Mommy♥ 1 child; Hollywood, Florida 10160 posts
3rd Apr '13
Quoting Wonderstruck ♥:" Definitely going to be doing that. I feel like he's taking advantage of me and of his time."


Sounds like he is! Hope you guys can work it out mama.

mom2andrew&carter 18 kids; Leesburg, Florida 2159 posts
4th Apr '13

sounds like my boys father. this weekend he cant get them cause of something to do with his taxes, last weekend he had something planned with his friends, the weekend before he had to work that weekend. Its always an excuse and he usually only gets them from friday afternoon to saturday night. so i know exactly what you are going through and than when my kids go there him and his mom fight the whole time. i am just tired of it cause the only time i can really clean the house is when he takes them and i like having me time once in a while.I swear most guys dont know what it takes to raise a child.