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KissMeFinnNelson<3 1 child; 2 angel babies; Glasgow, Scotland, UK, United Kingdom 5406 posts
4th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Colt's mommy:</b>" I'm sorry you feel that way :( He needs to be better at hiding it from you, imo. "</blockquote>




Agree!

JoAnna &hearts's Jett Due January 20 (boy); 1 child; Midlothian, TX, United States 6511 posts
4th Apr '13

If you feel it's a big issue to you and he has already told you he would stop, I think you're justified to be upset. Don't let people try to tell you it's ok.

Cαtwomαn 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Gotham, DC, United States 12912 posts
4th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Juliette:</b>" I am so overloaded with emotion right now. My husband knows I don't like porn he knows I HATE it. He ... [snip!] ... It's not something I can just get.over and obviously he isn't going to stop. I don't want to leave but I'm so sick of it. :("</blockquote>




Don't feel bad. Some girls are ok with their men watching porn, some aren't. It's a lifestyle choice IMO (for lack of a better word) - like some girls are ok with their guys smoking pot or drinking, some aren't.



If he was doing it before you got together it might be a hard habit to break. Don't feel bad about feeling sad about it. He should respect your opinion. But once every six months DOES sound like he's trying, at least.

Juliette 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Olive Branch, MS, United States 3015 posts
4th Apr '13

Honestly. It makes me want to kill myself....

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
4th Apr '13

He should be more respectful of you but you also need to be respectful of his natural urges. Masturbation is perfectly normal and men are visual creatures. All porn is a way for him to get his jollies off without asking you to demean yourself to the level that most girls in porn go.



In future, why not ask him that since he's going to watch porn anyways, that he does it in a way where you can't find any proof that he's doing it.

^-^ Rawr + 2 2 kids; Big Spring, Tx, United States 10449 posts
4th Apr '13
Quoting *Sabrina's Mommy*:" But saying its natural for a man to watch porn cuz hes a man is like saying its natural for men to cheat, ... [snip!] ... awhile, just as long it dont get to the point where hes addicted to it anytime he gets a chance, then we have a dam problem. "


Dude, watching porn and cheating are TWO way different things. You never check out a guy? You always think of your SO when you masturbate?
You never watch porn ever?



I mean, do people like that really exist?



I actually watch porn more than my SO most days.



It's just some mostly naked people. Doing stuff on tv. Hell, it's basically just tv without clothes, haha.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22090 posts
status 4th Apr '13
Quoting *Sabrina's Mommy*:" But saying its natural for a man to watch porn cuz hes a man is like saying its natural for men to cheat, ... [snip!] ... awhile, just as long it dont get to the point where hes addicted to it anytime he gets a chance, then we have a dam problem. "


I use the excuse of being a woman. I get bitchy right before my period. I tell DH I'm in a pissed of mood and it's because I'm about to get my period and to just deal with it. Guys need to masturbate. Some of them can't do it without visual stimulation.

LA REINA™ New York, NY, United States 16316 posts
4th Apr '13
Quoting Colt's mommy:" I mean, I agree to a certain extent. But he probably feels it's an irrational feeling (as do I, but ... [snip!] ... hurting her feelings. If he can discreetly view it every now and then without her knowlegde, it would not be an issue at all."

Oh I understand where you're coming from but if he knows she doesn't like it, they need to find some type of common ground.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
4th Apr '13
Quoting Juliette:" Honestly. It makes me want to kill myself...."


THen you need some counseling on your own. Seriously. If the issue is THAT devastating to you, then you need to figure out why. I understand being upset. But wanting to kill yourself over catching your husband watch porn? Even that sort of reaction after finding men cheating, or being left by them, is extreme.

Cαtwomαn 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Gotham, DC, United States 12912 posts
4th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Juliette:</b>" Honestly. It makes me want to kill myself...."</blockquote>




Then it's a deeper issue than him watching porn, and you should talk to someone.

Colt's mommy 1 child; Moore, Oklahoma 22090 posts
status 4th Apr '13
Quoting she nan igans:" THen you need some counseling on your own. Seriously. If the issue is THAT devastating to you, then ... [snip!] ... catching your husband watch porn? Even that sort of reaction after finding men cheating, or being left by them, is extreme."


I agree.

Cordelia's Mom 33 kids; Bakersfield, California 3685 posts
4th Apr '13
Quoting she nan igans:" THen you need some counseling on your own. Seriously. If the issue is THAT devastating to you, then ... [snip!] ... catching your husband watch porn? Even that sort of reaction after finding men cheating, or being left by them, is extreme."


all this too!

Ꭶwan♥Nemo 1 child; Kansas City, Missouri 7416 posts
4th Apr '13
Quoting Juliette:" Honestly. It makes me want to kill myself...."


what? Thats really extreme. Why do you feel like that? I really dont understand because personally porn is a fun thing between my SO and I and not taboo.

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
4th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Juliette:</b>" Honestly. It makes me want to kill myself...."</blockquote>




Okay your being a little dramatic about porn. Have you tried watching it with him? Porn is not as bad as some think. Give it a chance.



Also are you snooping for it or is he leaving it out in the open? If your snooping you have no reason to be mad. He's trying to respect your feelings and not flaunt it but your taking that away from him. He could be at the strip club or with another women but he's not.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
4th Apr '13
Quoting JoAnna &hearts's Jett:" If you feel it's a big issue to you and he has already told you he would stop, I think you're justified to be upset. Don't let people try to tell you it's ok."

This. I agree with whoever said you two should try counseling.