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Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3314 posts
4th Apr '13
Quoting Noahs Mommy =]:" No mostly because I dont want to feed her ideas if nothing is really going on. She is notorious for ... [snip!] ... and just not wiping, this was a full blown poop in her underwear and all she had to say was she cant hold her poop in anymore. "


Has she been examined by a doctor? If you go this route, however, I would have her sedated for it. No 8-yo needs to experience or remember a gynecological-type exam. :(
Do you check for bruising or tearing (casually, although I don't know how to do that) after she's come from the grandparents?
The whole thing is just really making me sick to my stomach for the poor girl.

May♥ 1 child; Texas 9183 posts
4th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mrs.Mud:</b>" Really? It's very common for children who have been sexually abused to have bowel/bladder issues. They ... [snip!] ... how to (or want to) use them for their intended function. Basically, anyway, it obviously goes much deeper psychologically."</blockquote>




Oh I've never heard that. Makes sense now

Noah and Baby J's mommy 2 kids; Oregon 3454 posts
4th Apr '13
Quoting Bunny Belly:" How old is she? I've been told that a good way to have a child open up, is to mention that anything covered ... [snip!] ... maybe you can mention it quietly, and let her know that it's okay to tell you if she's had an accident, that you want to help"


Last night out of the blue she asked me when they were going to cut the baby out of me. That took me by a shock and honestly had no idea what to tell her. Shes bright and picks up on things quickly.

Bunny Belly Due August 3; 1 child; Spring Hill, Florida 1234 posts
4th Apr '13
Quoting Noahs Mommy =]:" Last night out of the blue she asked me when they were going to cut the baby out of me. That took me ... [snip!] ... baby out of me. That took me by a shock and honestly had no idea what to tell her. Shes bright and picks up on things quickly. "


:shock: That's a bit odd! How did you respond to this?



And, I can imagine that it would be extremely difficult to check her- I'm sure you don't want to do anything to make her uncomfortable either! I wish I knew something to help....



The friend I previously mentioned had the doctor check her daughter, who was extremely jumpy and nervous about it. But, her daughter spoke to another relative about this, and she (the mother) knew it would need to be done- and wanted it to be by a trusted physician.

Coffee Milk 2 kids; Alaska 2089 posts
4th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" Really? It's very common for children who have been sexually abused to have bowel/bladder issues. They ... [snip!] ... how to (or want to) use them for their intended function. Basically, anyway, it obviously goes much deeper psychologically."


:(:(
Thanks for the info, it makes sense ( I am really not disconnected, my kids are not in any risky enviroments, so its just not something I am in the 'know' about)

Poor baby, I hope its really nothing :(

MontanaMadness 2 kids; Small Town, MT, United States 4394 posts
status 4th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Coffee Milk:</b>" :(:( Thanks for the info, it makes sense ( I am really not disconnected, my kids are not in any risky ... [snip!] ... not in any risky enviroments, so its just not something I am in the 'know' about) Poor baby, I hope its really nothing :("</blockquote>




The world is a risky environment. Not trying to be rude but I would get informed about the symptoms amd signs.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3314 posts
4th Apr '13
Quoting Coffee Milk:" :(:( Thanks for the info, it makes sense ( I am really not disconnected, my kids are not in any risky ... [snip!] ... not in any risky enviroments, so its just not something I am in the 'know' about) Poor baby, I hope its really nothing :("


Yah, I didn't mean to come off rude at all. To me, it just makes sense. Sexual abuse and bathroom issues = same body parts = trouble. But I've also taken a couple of psychology courses and work in the medical field...
On the other hand, if your kids go to daycare or school or even friends' houses... it's all a risk. Basically if you don't have them in a bubble and within eyesight 24/7... they're at risk. And it's unfortunate we need to think that way. The little girl in question in the OP is having symptoms after coming from her own GRANDPARENTS... how scary and sad!!

Coffee Milk 2 kids; Alaska 2089 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs.Mud:" Yah, I didn't mean to come off rude at all. To me, it just makes sense. Sexual abuse and bathroom issues ... [snip!] ... way. The little girl in question in the OP is having symptoms after coming from her own GRANDPARENTS... how scary and sad!!"



Oh, my kids are in a bubble alright :)
Thanks for the info, I will get with the program before they are doing things outside the bubble. They are 2 and just turned 4.. I didnt think you came off as rude, don't apologize!

Noah and Baby J's mommy 2 kids; Oregon 3454 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Bunny Belly:" :shock: That's a bit odd! How did you respond to this? And, I can imagine that it would be extremely ... [snip!] ... to another relative about this, and she (the mother) knew it would need to be done- and wanted it to be by a trusted physician."


I was really vague and told her that babies dont always need cut out, and there is another way to get them here but she really didnt want to know how. I dont need her going back to her moms telling her I told her how babies get here, her mom had 3 c-sections. She can continue to think they are cut out. When shes old we can have the conversation.




I called her school and the counselor is out today. I dont want to put her through a full exam unless a trained professional thinks its the only option. She wont be back to her moms/grandmas for 2 weeks. Her normal physiologist made an appointment for her first thing monday morning. So guess we just wait through the weekend.

Bunny Belly Due August 3; 1 child; Spring Hill, Florida 1234 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Noahs Mommy =]:" I was really vague and told her that babies dont always need cut out, and there is another way to get ... [snip!] ... Her normal physiologist made an appointment for her first thing monday morning. So guess we just wait through the weekend. "


Blah, I always hate these situations for others :/ I'm definitely praying for you guys, if nothing else!