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Making it on your own Aliana 1 child; California 391 posts
5th Apr '13

How did you do it? I'm 19 with a 6mo son living with my mother, brother 16 and my hormonally raged 13 year old sister. I'm going to the Junior College full-time for nursing, this is my last semester full-time because between school and home-life, the combination is driving me psychologically crazy. I starting to think it's impossible to do so here in California because it costs like $500 just to rent a ROOM! I feel like I just need to get out and live on my own!




PS the truth is nice, but please try not to sound mean :?
I just want to know how you made it on your own with your kid(s)

I'mOnFire 1 child; Kentucky 2133 posts
5th Apr '13

My only suggestion.. Leave Cali haha. It's way too expensive over there. I love me some Kentucky. Shit is so cheap here compared to a lot of places. I hope you figure things out soon though. I wish you the best of luck.

☠Undead Mommy☠ 1 child; Westerville, Ohio 24562 posts
5th Apr '13

There should be some low income places by you to help you out for a while. Have you looked into it?

The Doctor 2 kids; Whiskey Dick Mountain, WA, United States 59649 posts
5th Apr '13

It's hard.



Especially in expensive places like NY and Cali.



Without working full time with a decent salary... not really possible. :(



Hell. I work full time and it still wouldn't be possible for me to live on my own, really. I live with my fianc

Aliana 1 child; California 391 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting I'mOnFire:" My only suggestion.. Leave Cali haha. It's way too expensive over there. I love me some Kentucky. Shit ... [snip!] ... Shit is so cheap here compared to a lot of places. I hope you figure things out soon though. I wish you the best of luck. "


I have thought about it! I just have a hard time thinking about leaving my mom :cry: and that i dont know anybody or have any family down there. Except for an uncle who lives in TN.

Mrs.O! 18 kids; your moms ass, HI, United States 21470 posts
5th Apr '13

a room goes for anywhere from $500-$900 here so trust me, I get it.....we're still in my mom's place because financially it's the only place we could afford without having to go hungry...we can't get any government housing help because the list is sooooo backed up from everyone else wanting to be on it and or on it that they have closed down some of the waiting list because they can't even put new people on them..we're looking at renting hopefully before the end of the month and the place we're looking at is about $1400 for a small two bedroom...and thats the cheapest we can get in the area we're looking at(it's not the ghetto but it's not the most expensive part of the island)...DH works as a carpenter and makes really good money. I stay home and watch the kid/s because it's cheaper that way, we aren't going to be eating out much, DH works close enough to where we live now and where we'll be living that he can come home for lunch...we're cutting corners where ever we can.



I suggest you stay in school and suck it up with living with your mom for now...I know how much it could suck but it's honestly your best option for right now, so when you graduate and become a nurse you can afford the better things in life instead of just struggling.

[♥]Mrs. Taylor 18 kids; Texas 12250 posts
5th Apr '13

It was really hard..



I saved up for everything before I moved out. First/last month rent, deposit etc and then I made sure I had everything I would need for a house. Very basic stuff, but I kept it in a storage building until I had everything.



Once I got out I penny pinched, didn't go anywhere, and tried to make everything stretch as far as it could. Once I got used to the bills and what I had to have it got a little easier.

Aliana 1 child; California 391 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting ☠Undead Mommy☠:" There should be some low income places by you to help you out for a while. Have you looked into it?"


Yes! I have! but unfortunately the its mostly senior citizens and wait list is incredibly long.. and it's not really the best environment for a single mom. Last month a room in one of the Low Income complex was caught on fire by a 16 yr old (my brothers friend) kid trying to make hash oil -_-

Ꭶwan♥Nemo 1 child; Kansas City, Missouri 7416 posts
5th Apr '13

The baby forced me to be more responsible with my money. I learned to budget and be more thoughtful about where my money was going. Once I got that down it became relatively easy. Being independent is important to me since Im doing this parent thing alone. I said, since Im having this baby, Im taking care of him...without any help. I like to prove people wrong with assumptions about me...and that all the motivation i needed.



Are you working? Calculate your finance and bills. Also have a good back up of money before moving to pad you a little. Don't rush it.

Aliana 1 child; California 391 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Ꭶwan♥Nem
**Cali's Mommie**[EBF] 2 kids; San Jacinto, California 661 posts
5th Apr '13

i moved out of cali with my SO it was wayyy to exspensive we moved to texas its much cheaper over here and we could never have the life we have now if we still lived in california even though i left all of my family and friends it was hard but well worth it!

ar1213 Due July 3 (girl); California 23 posts
5th Apr '13

I also live in Cali, SoCal to be specific, and yes Cali can be very expensive, I've already done some research because myself too want to move out with my baby once she's born. But there are some places that are cheap!! So far i've search in Fontana, Indio, Palmdale and the rent there for a Studio or a 1 bedroom 1 bath apartment they run from $500 and up a month!! And its not in the Ghetto its a well secured area...


But i also want to know if its hard to do it on your own as a single momma.??

Aliana 1 child; California 391 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting ar1213:" I also live in Cali, SoCal to be specific, and yes Cali can be very expensive, I've already done some ... [snip!] ... not in the Ghetto its a well secured area... But i also want to know if its hard to do it on your own as a single momma.??"


Its so expensive because of the name :x
$500+ for just a studio!




I've come to the conclusion I'll stay at home til I eventually finish school and get a job and start saving. Hopefully DS will be starting/in school and I can get transferred and work while he's in school.