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1inpink2inblue Switzerland 11961 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" lol. they say they "gotta have their fix." lol"


What really sucks is when you get use to it and then they just up and stop doing it. You try and get them to take her and they are all "sorry we can't......" like for months. That is what happened to me. My mom use to keep the kids once every week to every two weeks. Then she just started saying she couldn't keep them all of a sudden. She told me the other day it will be at least june before she could watch them again.:x

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
5th Apr '13

No, my parents always say hey we are coming to get the kids. I always say YaY!!!!!!!!!!!



But you should tell them she needs to be home by like 10am or something or they can't take her.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20821 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs. Tebow:" I'd definitely say something. Sounds exactly like my parents last year. They would make me feel like ... [snip!] ... than we get to spend with our grandkids". It became a problem because DH would be home from work and not get to see his kid."

see, i see WAY to many people IRL who the grandparents are raising the kid more than the parents. i want them to feel like its a treat, not a requirement and i'm dumping my kid on them. plus there are some judgmental people who even if i try to argue with my parents taking DD, they'd say i made them take her so i could go party or some bs.

Coffee Milk 2 kids; Alaska 2089 posts
5th Apr '13

No, because I don't want to make mountains out of mole hills. (really, is it THAT BIG of a deal?)

Why can't dad get up and go get her and start a 'going out to breakfast on sundays' tradition? Than everybody is happy.

You still get a break
Your relationship is good with your parents,
Dad gets time with LO
He brings her home before noon and you guys have a whole day to spend together.

Alexandra the gay 2 kids; 2 angel babies; El Paso, Texas 6702 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" see, i see WAY to many people IRL who the grandparents are raising the kid more than the parents. i want ... [snip!] ... people who even if i try to argue with my parents taking DD, they'd say i made them take her so i could go party or some bs."


For reals I have horrible anxiety when my kids are in someone elses care.
But if I see anyone in town or someone runs into my mom/MIL with my DD I feel like they are coming up with all of these assumptions in their head about it.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20821 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting misanthrope:" It wouldn't bother me. When my mom was still living near by she would say I'm taking the kids to the ... [snip!] ... they were babies she would ask, but once they were older I think she knew i was game lol. But I'm pretty easy going in general."

i try to be but i'm not when it comes to DH getting time with DD. she's only 10 months so i think it's a little early to be doing this...:?

Alexandra the gay 2 kids; 2 angel babies; El Paso, Texas 6702 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Coffee Milk:" No, because I don't want to make mountains out of mole hills. (really, is it THAT BIG of a deal?) ... [snip!] ... good with your parents, Dad gets time with LO He brings her home before noon and you guys have a whole day to spend together."


For her DH to be working a lot and only getting 1 day to spend with his kid? :?
I'd be mad if I was in DH's shoes and it was a constant thing.

NopeNotGonnaDOIt 6 kids; Cuba 3000 posts
5th Apr '13

I'm sure they would understand if you told or reminded them it's your DH's only day off and he wants to spend it with his children. Maybe they can figure out another night that works for them, or alternate weekends.

Elena Gilbert 4 kids; La Center, KY, United States 2730 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Draco'sStalker:" see, i see WAY to many people IRL who the grandparents are raising the kid more than the parents. i want ... [snip!] ... people who even if i try to argue with my parents taking DD, they'd say i made them take her so i could go party or some bs."


I fell like that to. my mom pretty much raises my niece and nephew. my sister will alway gulit trip her if my mom tells her no... I let my kids go with my in laws so much becuase they want them.. i let them know all the time that they dont have to keep them. she gets all butt hurt saying she needs them. they keep her going. she looks forward to having them. (which is true. DH passed away in 2011.) and since she has gotten them more than usual. but I dont mind.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20821 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting 1inpink2inblue:" What really sucks is when you get use to it and then they just up and stop doing it. You try and get ... [snip!] ... she couldn't keep them all of a sudden. She told me the other day it will be at least june before she could watch them again.:x"

dang. yeah last wknd they were supposed to get her and i had had a SERIOUS lack of sleep that particular wk. for once i was REALLY looking forward to them taking her. they had told me they were going to. had her dressed, packed, and ready and my mom calls me saying she's on call. :cry:

☠Owen Lee's Mommy 1 child; Tennessee 131 posts
5th Apr '13

At least your parents ask for her, neither grandparents ask for him. Not complaining cause I don't trust many to watch him. I just find it odd ya know. Or if I do ask my mom she would say he's your only responsibility blah blah blah shit like that.

Coffee Milk 2 kids; Alaska 2089 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Mrs. Tebow:" For her DH to be working a lot and only getting 1 day to spend with his kid? :? I'd be mad if I was in DH's shoes and it was a constant thing."



He doesnt come home the other nights of the week? I must have missed that.

I would kill for one night a week alone with my DH.
And kudo's to the gparents who want to spend time with thier gbaby.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20821 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Elena Gilbert:" I fell like that to. my mom pretty much raises my niece and nephew. my sister will alway gulit trip ... [snip!] ... to having them. (which is true. DH passed away in 2011.) and since she has gotten them more than usual. but I dont mind."

i've never asked them to take her. i've asked if they wanted her, but that's about it. i've had people ask me "where's the baby?" "at my parents'" "oh, just wondered why you didn't have her" like your baby should be with you not them. if i asked them all the time to take her, i could see being like that but as you can tell from this post, that's so not the case.

☠Owen Lee's Mommy 1 child; Tennessee 131 posts
5th Apr '13

Shit deff needs to be said when it comes to his time. That's total bullshit.

THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20821 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting ☠Owen Lee's Mommy:" At least your parents ask for her, neither grandparents ask for him. Not complaining cause I don't trust ... [snip!] ... I just find it odd ya know. Or if I do ask my mom she would say he's your only responsibility blah blah blah shit like that."

yeah, i think that situation is messed up.