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How can I tell him nicely? Ashley Reay Due May 29; Cottonwood, Arizona 11 posts
5th Apr '13

I am currently 32 weeks pregnant and in a relationship with my boyfriend I met over a month ago (obviously not the baby daddy) He is kind of a bigger guy and not very experienced when it comes to the bedroom. He only wants it two ways.. me on top or missionary. I am fine being on top for a little while until my legs go numb... having a huge belly causes breathing factors as well. His favorite is missionary. Again, my belly doesn't like this AT ALL! When he is on top I cant breathe and get light headed. I have even tried to be all sexy with it, "how do you want me?" but his answer is always the same. We have tried d***y s***e once and I dont think he was that into it. I am always in the mood but I want to actually enjoy it. How can I tell him nicely that I can not have him laying on top of me and I am NOT going to be on top ALL THE TIME?? I feel really bad but in 6 weeks our sex will be cut-off for 5-6 weeks after my daughter comes. Please help!!

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
5th Apr '13

Just sit down with him and tell him that those positions are difficult because of your belly, and you would like to try something else.

::Nikki:: 1 child; Arkansas 2624 posts
5th Apr '13

Not to be rude, but has this dude been tested? I wouldnt be comfortable at all with having sex with a guy I just met while being pregnant with a child that isnt his. That could just be me though.



Buuut...I would just tell him matter-of-factly that sex is give and take, and that you need to work out a new arrangement as far as positions go.

The Pretender 2 kids; Brazil 1215 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting ::Nikki:::" Not to be rude, but has this dude been tested? I wouldnt be comfortable at all with having sex with a ... [snip!] ... tell him matter-of-factly that sex is give and take, and that you need to work out a new arrangement as far as positions go."


She made no mention of if she is using condoms or not and, really, it is none of our damn business. Insinuating that she takes her reproductive health and that of her child so lightly as to be having unprotected sex is not only judgmental, it is really rude.

Mrs. Sherwood TTC since Jun 2013; 16 kids; Mesa, Arizona 3391 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Ashley Reay:" I am currently 32 weeks pregnant and in a relationship with my boyfriend I met over a month ago (obviously ... [snip!] ... ALL THE TIME?? I feel really bad but in 6 weeks our sex will be cut-off for 5-6 weeks after my daughter comes. Please help!!"


You could try doing missionary at the end of the bed, where he is standing/kneeling and you are laying down. It seems he likes the face-to-face positions, so that may work for you both. :)

Mama Rachael♥ 17 kids; Asheville, North Carolina 15828 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting ::Nikki:::" Not to be rude, but has this dude been tested? I wouldnt be comfortable at all with having sex with a ... [snip!] ... tell him matter-of-factly that sex is give and take, and that you need to work out a new arrangement as far as positions go."


LOL putting "Not to be rude" in front of something super rude doesn't make it any less rude. Mind your own.



OP- I would just tell him straight up that laying on your back is really uncomfortable since you're super pregnant :)

lamr - 02-08-13-21 2 kids; Crazytown, ON, Canada 5921 posts
5th Apr '13

I'd tell him the baby has moved and its now uncomfortable to have sex in that position (only cause i wouldn't want him to think i hated all the times we've previously have sex). Give him ideas on positions you'd like to try.

orchidlovingmama 2 kids; Santa Rosa, California 1733 posts
6th Apr '13

You just have to be very honest with him and let him knoe that because of your growing belly it has become uncomfortable in positions a and b. Tell him that you still enjoy havng sex but it will only be feasible to do it in positions c, and d. If he is at all compassionatte or caring for you he will be more than happy to oblige. Im 37 Weeks with a 9 lb baby and my oh and I have only been able to have sex maybe once a week for the pst couple months. missionary and me on top hasnt happened sincr I was like 20wks prego. My Ph completely understand and honestly I would be vet upset hurt and questioning his true love if he had a problem with that. My ability to breathe, and my babies safety (could get squished) is much mich more important than his desire sexually. That's just my take on it. One more thing, make sure you explain this is a temporary thing and you enjoy those positions very much but that they have just become uncomfortable. Good luck :)

orchidlovingmama 2 kids; Santa Rosa, California 1733 posts
6th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ::Nikki:::</b>" Not to be rude, but has this dude been tested? I wouldnt be comfortable at all with having sex with a ... [snip!] ... tell him matter-of-factly that sex is give and take, and that you need to work out a new arrangement as far as positions go."</blockquote>




Ummmmm......thst WAS rude and not at all a part of the question she asked. Drama queen. Go arguue with a fence post or the wall or something, you will get further. Sometimes I can't believe the drama queens on this forum. unbrlievable. Im sorry to the op. Not everyone is asmiserable as this b.

Ashley Reay Due May 29; Cottonwood, Arizona 11 posts
10th Apr '13

Thank you all. I talked with him over the weekend and he completely understood. We are back to having a healthy sex life again yay!! and honestly how we protect ourselves is nobodies business but ours. But he has been tested... he has to do a physical for his training ( a cop) but like a said.... not really anyones business. Thank you ALL for the support. I love this site!!!