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THE Draco Malfoy 2 kids; Tennessee 20889 posts
status 5th Apr '13
Quoting [JadeLee]:" I hemorrhaged due to retained placenta that had began to calcify and imbed in my uterus five weeks after ... [snip!] ... risk for hemorrhage, retained placenta, uterine rupture, IUGR and a whole slew of other things with future pregnancies."

oh wow!

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8509 posts
5th Apr '13

I would love to but I cant because Im a high risk pregnancy and because my daughter was born before 27 weeks. Also when I looked into doing it the agencies I found had crazy requirements for surrogates like you had to have a college degree, atleast 2 children of your own, no health problems in like the past 5 years, not at risk for miscarrying, no history of high risk pregnancy or any preterm delivers.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 16486 posts
status 5th Apr '13
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" I would love to but I cant because Im a high risk pregnancy and because my daughter was born before 27 ... [snip!] ... problems in like the past 5 years, not at risk for miscarrying, no history of high risk pregnancy or any preterm delivers. "


Not so crazy when you consider $100,000 price tag. If the IPs are going to shell out that kind of money they're going to be for sure their surrogate is the healthiest of the healthy.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8509 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" Not so crazy when you consider $100,000 price tag. If the IPs are going to shell out that kind of money they're going to be for sure their surrogate is the healthiest of the healthy."

See I can understand the health requirements but the college degree and some of the other things where a bit out there IMPO. Also $100,000 isnt really all that much when you take into consideration that if the couple where able to have a child themselves they would shell out maybe not exactly that much money but somewhere around there. I wish my old comp was still working because I had a few of the websites for the agencies I looked at saved on there and on one of them they broke it down so you knew where every bit of the money the couples pay goes and in the end I think the surrogates walked away with like 15-20k for everything.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 16486 posts
status 5th Apr '13
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" See I can understand the health requirements but the college degree and some of the other things where ... [snip!] ... every bit of the money the couples pay goes and in the end I think the surrogates walked away with like 15-20k for everything. "

How would they be spending that much having a child themselves? Childbirth would cost me $250, nowhere near $100k which is cost prohibitive for us. I personally wouldn't wouldn't care about having a college degree as long as it's clear the surrogate has got it together and passed the psych eval with flying colors. And yeah, the agencies get the bulk of that money. That's why many IPs skip the agency altogether. I would not go through an agency.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8509 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" How would they be spending that much having a child themselves? Childbirth would cost me $250, nowhere ... [snip!] ... the agencies get the bulk of that money. That's why many IPs skip the agency altogether. I would not go through an agency."


See thats why I wish my old comp still worked because the website I had saved on there broke everything down to show you the cost of having a child yourself and having one via surrogacy. They factor in everything rent, health insurance/medical bills, maternity clothing, even food because from what that site said depending on which surrogate you chose you could be responsible for all of those expenses. If I remember they put it out as carrying your own child was like 45k cheaper then having a surrogate.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 16486 posts
status 5th Apr '13
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" See thats why I wish my old comp still worked because the website I had saved on there broke everything ... [snip!] ... all of those expenses. If I remember they put it out as carrying your own child was like 45k cheaper then having a surrogate. "


This doesn't make sense to me though. Things like rent/mortgage and insurance premiums have to be paid whether one is pregnant or not. And things like clothing and food would be not be a significant increase in expense. I honestly can't think of anything to make being pregnant that costly. It sounds like they were trumping up the "costs" by including expenses a couple would have, pregnant or not. Probably a marketing ploy on the surrogacy industry's behalf.

S & S *20weeks* Due December 29 (boy); 16 kids; Larouche, Quebec 1123 posts
5th Apr '13

I would do it for a gay couple, definitely! I wouldn't be approved though, because I don't have a living child of my own yet and because I miscarried before. But after I have at least one child, if someone asked if I could surrogate for them, why not! I would consider being an egg donor after I have all my kids and the couple is two gay men.

Caydence's mommy 4/4/09 32 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 8509 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Amelia Margaret:" This doesn't make sense to me though. Things like rent/mortgage and insurance premiums have to be paid ... [snip!] ... by including expenses a couple would have, pregnant or not. Probably a marketing ploy on the surrogacy industry's behalf."


The sad part is that these agencies are around to make money not to help couples have families that is why they charge so much.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 16486 posts
status 5th Apr '13
Quoting Caydence's mommy 4/4/09:" The sad part is that these agencies are around to make money not to help couples have families that is why they charge so much."


It's like any other business, I suppose. They can charge what they like as long as the market will bear it. I however am not willing to pay for their services, so they'll get no money from me!

NYLA Love Due October 1 (girl); 1 child; Lawrenceville, Georgia 401 posts
18th Jun '13

I would definitely do it. However, I doubt they'll consider me as a potential candidate because of my age. My BFF has had trouble keeping a pregnancy and I would SO do it for her, without hesitation.