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"Mentall Illness" Summer Sunshine Due May 15 (girl); Japan 36 posts
5th Apr '13

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Jays*Mama 2 kids; Michigan 5658 posts
5th Apr '13

I had ppd after my son and my dh didn't understand at all and was not supportive. He even threatened to divorce. Once I got through it we got better.

What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13678 posts
5th Apr '13

Yeah but if my DH told me it was an excuse I would throw him to the curb in a heartbeat. I have Manic depression, PTSD, and Schizophrenia (they think I have other stuff but I did not stick around for them to diagnose it.) and I actually tried to kill myself when I was 7 or 8 the first time. I did not know how which I guess is why it did not work..... anyways.. Yeah I would have to tell DH to GTFO if he isn't going to even try to understand.

Summer Sunshine Due May 15 (girl); Japan 36 posts
5th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jays*Mama:</b>" I had ppd after my son and my dh didn't understand at all and was not supportive. He even threatened to divorce. Once I got through it we got better."</blockquote>



I don't see my illnesses going away on their own :/
But I'm glad things got better for you guys!

Summer Sunshine Due May 15 (girl); Japan 36 posts
5th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Let the rain fall:</b>" Yeah but if my DH told me it was an excuse I would throw him to the curb in a heartbeat. I have Manic ... [snip!] ... I guess is why it did not work..... anyways.. Yeah I would have to tell DH to GTFO if he isn't going to even try to understand."</blockquote>



Yeah, when I'm more angry then sad I want to scream at him to gtfo for sure. But I really want to give it my best shot. I want to know at the end of the day that I did everything that I could do. Even if my attempts prove futile...

What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13678 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Jays*Mama:" I had ppd after my son and my dh didn't understand at all and was not supportive. He even threatened to divorce. Once I got through it we got better."

That boils my blood. It really pisses me off that most men just cannot understand mental illness of any sort at all. DH knows I am not yanking his chain because of how out of control my problems used to be and he got to witness that shit first hand.

~Nimlorel~ 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Edmonton, Alberta 4787 posts
5th Apr '13

I've dealt with pretty bad PPD after two of my births and minor depression before that, and honestly, the thing that kept my husband and I together was that he had walked in my shoes. If he hadn't had a history with severe depression I don't think we'd have made it.

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
5th Apr '13

I struggle with depression. DH tries to be understanding but its difficult for him. He does his best to be supportive, though. Its hard for him at times but he does try.

Jays*Mama 2 kids; Michigan 5658 posts
5th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Let the rain fall:</b>" That boils my blood. It really pisses me off that most men just cannot understand mental illness of any ... [snip!] ... I am not yanking his chain because of how out of control my problems used to be and he got to witness that shit first hand."</blockquote>




yeah and what pisses me off is that he has dealt with depression himself and he still somehow thinks that I could just turn my PPD off like a light switch

C410 ; 1 angel baby; California 314 posts
5th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Summer Sunshine:</b>" Trying to make a long story short - I've dealt with major depression, suicidal ideation, and bpd since ... [snip!] ... you and SO able to make things work? If so, what helped? TIA Sorry if that was confusing- my thoughts are super jumbled atm."</blockquote>




I've only told my ex that I was depressed, but we not too long, he broke up with me. I was 25, he 26, and he went for a 19 year old.



I didn't tell my current bf, although we have had lots of problems lately due to his immaturity and stubbornness. He doesn't see it yet unfortunately so I don't think it is a good time to say it for me. I think that most people don't understand it. Your so may get frustrated for sire, but if he loves you and tries to understand and be patient, then I think that is a keeper,

Summer Sunshine Due May 15 (girl); Japan 36 posts
6th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jays*Mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Let the rain fall:</b>" That boils my blood. It really pisses ... [snip!] ... is that he has dealt with depression himself and he still somehow thinks that I could just turn my PPD off like a light switch"</blockquote>




Definitely not a light switch -_- I'd feel the same way.

Summer Sunshine Due May 15 (girl); Japan 36 posts
6th Apr '13

Thanks C410, I agree.