Cleaning with an attached toddler What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13678 posts
5th Apr '13

How do you do it? My LO wants to follow me around and be constantly with me when I am cleaning but he also wants to destroy everything I clean and when I don't pay automatic attention to him he throws a fit (which I let him do) because he wants attention. I feel like I cannot clean my house because he acts like he is attention starved when I try. I am like great job of making me feel like shit child..

user banned California 36390 posts
5th Apr '13

I do it after he's asleep (in our bed, because we still co-sleep) or when he's with my in-laws.

Household 6 2 kids; Columbus, Georgia 17761 posts
5th Apr '13

Wear him? I usually wait until DD goes to bed because she doesn't usually let me wear her at home.

Peyton'sMommy♥ 1 child; Springfield, Ohio 16811 posts
5th Apr '13
Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" I do it after he's asleep (in our bed, because we still co-sleep) or when he's with my in-laws."


This or I at least do the chores that can be done without him in the room like we have a baby gate blocks off the kitchen and back part of the house so DH will watch him while I wash dishes. Otherwise I have to wait till he's napping or asleep because he will go behind me and mess everything right back up.

JenTheHen 2 kids; Hillsboro, Oregon 458 posts
5th Apr '13

My son always wants to help so I give him a special job to do. It's frustrating because you know it will be twice as fast if they will just leave you alone, but I figure I should take this opportunity to involve him and build his self esteem. I give him the duster and a sponge and he cleans whatever surface he can reach. When I do laundry he helps put clothes in, when I pick up toys he helps put things in the basket, empty the dishwasher he hands me plates one at a time, etc. There are certain chores I wait or him to be asleep, like mopping the floor and cleaning the toilet.

susanesque 2 kids; Georgia 8427 posts
5th Apr '13

Option A: Wait until the kid is asleep (understanding that as soon as they wake up the house will be destroyed almost immediately)

Option B: Have the kid help (In my experience this might actually make your job harder.)

Option C: Cartoons. (often very effective in my case)

Option D: Clean faster (it's kind of like playing one of those video games where you have to clear blocks faster than they build back up)


Yo-Landi 2 kids; Kiss my ass, EU, Lithuania 16093 posts
5th Apr '13

Kiddo is only 9 months but he flips a shit if I put him down or walk away from him. So usually I clean when Daddy is here to entertain him or he's sleeping.

Jays*Mama 2 kids; Michigan 5689 posts
5th Apr '13

I would try to give your toddler a wash cloth and let him wash cupboards or whatever is around you so that he can be near you but allow you to do your cleaning too

**mrsNance** Washington 5 posts
5th Apr '13

My 5 year old loves to help... I let him do dishes while I clean the kitchen, and have him do small things to help. My 8 month old is very clingy so I usually speed clean while she naps... Sometimes having her in her hi chair helps when I'm doing the kitchen. When my son is home tho, it's much easier because he loves to play with her and she usually won't notice I'm not there.

What's wrong, flat face? TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; 3 angel babies; Texas 13678 posts
7th Apr '13

I have tried having him help but he doesn't quite get it. I have tried waiting until DH gets home but I tell him to watch LO and he doesn't and LO ends up where I am anyways or screaming cause he wants my attention cause his daddy isn't giving it. I would wait until after he goes to sleep but we have been having bedtime issues lately because LO has only been sleeping for about 6 hours a night. (Thinking of taking him to the doctor for this.) So life is hectic right now and I am dealing with DH best I can but I tend to raise my voice because of frustration and I don't want LO to hear that so its hard.