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user banned 2 kids; Iowa 7762 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting Smartass *Preggo!*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Secret Service:</b>" because if I never would of said its ... [snip!] ... we would still be together"</blockquote> Self esteem counseling ASAP. Before your daughter learns this behavior from you"


This for sure.

Do you want your daughter to end up in a relationship like this? Being cheated on and treated like dirt?

Secret Service Texas 739 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting Squeaky McGee [23 wks]:" Why would you want to be with someone who cheats on you?"


I undersatnd why everyone is trying to tell me to leave him because of that. Trust me I do.Before a few days ago he really made me happy and I dont wanna just give up right now. Ithink Ill really regret it.

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65028 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting Secret Service:" I undersatnd why everyone is trying to tell me to leave him because of that. Trust me I do.Before a ... [snip!] ... me I do.Before a few days ago he really made me happy and I dont wanna just give up right now. Ithink Ill really regret it."


Do whatever makes you happy, OP. You have to live with the consequences, not us. Good luck!

user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
6th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Secret Service:</b>" I undersatnd why everyone is trying to tell me to leave him because of that. Trust me I do.Before a ... [snip!] ... me I do.Before a few days ago he really made me happy and I dont wanna just give up right now. Ithink Ill really regret it."</blockquote>



I think you have problems. How many 3 page threads of people telling you that you're dating a scum bag do you need?

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65028 posts
6th Apr '13

I went through the same thing with my ex years ago. He left me for another girl, and when he decided he wanted me back, I stupidly took him back. Well, guess what? He left me AGAIN for another girl! Absolutely devastated me.



Once a cheater, always a cheater.



Unfortunately, I know this from personal experience, because I have been the cheater.

Secret Service Texas 739 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting Squeaky McGee [23 wks]:" Do whatever makes you happy, OP. You have to live with the consequences, not us. Good luck!"


thats where I need help though. I wanna talk to him 24/7 becuase Im scared. He says I can still come over sometimes and bring the baby. The question is how many days should I not contact him for? Im having a very hard time with this. Hes practiacally the only person I have seen for a year. I have no friends to hang out with and most of them are too busy to even talk. My DD called him Dad.

Squeaky McGee 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 65028 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting Secret Service:" thats where I need help though. I wanna talk to him 24/7 becuase Im scared. He says I can still come ... [snip!] ... I have seen for a year. I have no friends to hang out with and most of them are too busy to even talk. My DD called him Dad. "


Don't take this the wrong way, but you sound clingy. No wonder he needs a break.

Secret Service Texas 739 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting Squeaky McGee [23 wks]:" Don't take this the wrong way, but you sound clingy. No wonder he needs a break."


I agree but what can I do to help instead of push him away

ßlack Rose ♥ 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Sharon, Oklahoma 5335 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting Secret Service:" thats where I need help though. I wanna talk to him 24/7 becuase Im scared. He says I can still come ... [snip!] ... I have seen for a year. I have no friends to hang out with and most of them are too busy to even talk. My DD called him Dad. "


I'd go a couple weeks. Or until he contacted me. This gives you a good time away from him. Obviously you are too dependent on him. You need to have your own life. Find something to preoccupy your time so that you aren't constantly thinking about him. A time consuming hobby that doesn't interfere with your mommy schedule. Just, don't text him. Don't call him. Don't write him. This will also give you time to think and reflect on everything and eventually you will be thinking things through with clearer thoughts. Right now you thoughts and decisions are clouded because you are upset. Things will start getting better. Just give it time.

Andi+Andy=Marley+1 2 kids; Fredericksburg, Virginia 4564 posts
6th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Secret Service:</b>" I agree but what can I do to help instead of push him away"</blockquote>




He has already pushed you away. There is nothing you can do. He wants out of the relationship so he can see other girls and/or his ex. He kissed her. On purpose. He didn't fall on her lips. He might still have feelings for her and wants to get back with her or he just wants to f**k her. You can't believe everything he says. You can move on or wait for him to get bored and lonely. That choice is yours

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting Secret Service:" he says it not about other girls. that he just wants to go to work come home and hes atually trying ... [snip!] ... right now. He said hes been neglecting his friends because he wanted to be with me and he doesnt wanna do that right now. "


Bullshit.
He can hang out with his friends and not have to be single to do it.



Cut your losses and move on. It hurts but there are better men out there.

Captain Obvious 2 kids; Havana, Cuba 25634 posts
6th Apr '13

OP, is this the father of your child?

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting Captain Obvious:" OP, is this the father of your child?"


I'm guessing not since she said that "my DD even calls him Daddy"

Rebekah Garden x3 Due October 5 (boy); 33 kids; Fall River, Massachusetts 5223 posts
6th Apr '13

Okay I am going to be a b***h: seriously have some respect for yourself! Show your daughter that you don't let men cheat on you and them beg them to stay. He justs wants to f**k other girls, or he never would have cheated on you in the first place!!!!!! Honestly he doesn't deserve you and you need to gain some respect for yourself !

user banned 2 kids; Iowa 7762 posts
6th Apr '13

OP, get over it already. You are going to teach your daughter that it's totally okay for men to treat her like a dog.

I want to have sympathy for you but I'm finding it harder and harder the more I read. GET OVER HIM. If you stay with him you are forcing your daughter to live with your shitty decisions. If you are okay with doing that to her, then you are not a fit mother.

And yes, I know I sound like a b***h for that.