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Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
Apr 6th '13
Quoting Head of Pots:" It is in Oregon. (I believe) My bestfriend's cousin called the police on her mom idk how many times already for spanking her. They threaten to take her away and gave her family counceling. "

Wow really? I don't agree with spanking at all but I don't think it should be considered abuse, unless they are using more force than necessary (actually hurting the child and leaving marks).

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
Apr 6th '13
Quoting Head of Pots:" It is in Oregon. (I believe) My bestfriend's cousin called the police on her mom idk how many times already for spanking her. They threaten to take her away and gave her family counceling. "

The thing with physical abuse is that it often does not have set boundaries. It is up to the individual, Judge, CPS worker, Police Officer, to determine if it was in fact abuse. There's no law that states a smack of the hand to the behind is illegal. Get what I'm saying? It's at the discretion of the Person it's being reported to and has to be then confirmed by a Judge if action is taken.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
Apr 6th '13
Quoting Ivana, expecting #3!:" it varies state to state, I know here in Colorado it is legal to swat a child with an open hand on a clothed or diapered butt only."


Yes I know. Which is why I was saying, just because it's legal to spank here. It doesn't make it legal everywhere. Personally, I think it's ridiculous.

mommy2thing1&thing2 Due November 11 (girl); 2 kids; Phoenix, Arizona 3064 posts
Apr 6th '13

Ive spanked my son in public and i dobt beat him at home. Everyone disiplines there children differently. I think calling the cops is the dumbest thing ive heard in a long time

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
Apr 6th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting BoogsMaMa:</b>" Ok not addressing the situation in public period means the child is going to get away with what they ... [snip!] ... rediculous. I think everyone needs to realize the difference between discipline and abuse, no matter what their beliefs are."</blockquote>



I would address it, but i would pull them somewhere private to do so. Not only is it embarrassing, but it's less effective to discipline a child in front of a crowd because they get easily distracted by all of the people.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
Apr 6th '13
Quoting Madi's*Mama:" Wow really? I don't agree with spanking at all but I don't think it should be considered abuse, unless they are using more force than necessary (actually hurting the child and leaving marks). "


Yes. At least as to what my best friend told me. She's had to go to Oregon plenty of times because of it. Also, if a parent gets tired or fed up with their children, they can call the cops. They'll come and take them, put them in foster care. It's crazy.

MomDIA TTC since May 2008; 81 kids; Warminster, Pennsylvania 3812 posts
Apr 6th '13
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" <blockquote><b>Quoting BoogsMaMa:</b>" Ok not addressing the situation in public period ... [snip!] ... but it's less effective to discipline a child in front of a crowd because they get easily distracted by all of the people."


Exactly addressing it I believe is necessary. I wouldn't get involved though if I saw someone else do it. I am the mom who gets real quiet or whispers to my son when he needs to calm down, but they are my beliefs. In this situation although I wouldnt be cheering the parent on for their choice I wouldnt make it my business unless I felt the child was in an abusive situation.

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
Apr 6th '13
Quoting Head of Pots:" Yes. At least as to what my best friend told me. She's had to go to Oregon plenty of times because of ... [snip!] ... tired or fed up with their children, they can call the cops. They'll come and take them, put them in foster care. It's crazy. "

It's crazy but I think that's a good thing that they will come get the child so that the adult doesn't snap and do something crazy.



As for the spanking, it just surprises me that it is illegal in some states. I've never heard that before and for some reason the thought that it was possible didn't even cross my mind.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
Apr 6th '13
Quoting Head of Pots:" Yes. At least as to what my best friend told me. She's had to go to Oregon plenty of times because of ... [snip!] ... tired or fed up with their children, they can call the cops. They'll come and take them, put them in foster care. It's crazy. "

Tell your friend not to worry. It is NOT illegal to spank your kid in Oregon.




Physical force is justified if parent/guardian/other person with the care and supervision of a minor uses reasonable force when and to the extent the person reasonably believes necessary to maintain discipline or promote welfare of minor.

Rebekah 2 kids; Tennessee 5594 posts
Apr 6th '13

It's not my business.



On the flip side of this, I got bitched out for NOT spanking my child at a doctor's office. I was so pissed. She was under two and having a tantrum because it was nap time, I chose to let her work it out while calmly trying to quiet her. I'm not against spanking, but she was wayyyy to young. I ignored the woman, but man I wanted to punch her.

Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
Apr 6th '13

Just so everyone knows, spanking is not illegal in any of the 50 states in the US. Corporal punishment and hitting, kicking, slapping, punching, etc. is illegal, but spanking is not. I can provide criminal law codes for any state anyone has an issue believing it of.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
Apr 6th '13
Quoting Madi's*Mama:" It's crazy but I think that's a good thing that they will come get the child so that the adult doesn't ... [snip!] ... in some states. I've never heard that before and for some reason the thought that it was possible didn't even cross my mind. "


Yes. I wouldn't imagine it either but I think it's a good idea.

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
Apr 6th '13
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" Tell your friend not to worry. It is NOT illegal to spank your kid in Oregon. Physical force is justified ... [snip!] ... the person reasonably believes necessary to maintain discipline or promote welfare of minor.
Crystal 3 kids; Hephzibah, Georgia 15566 posts
Apr 6th '13
Quoting Head of Pots:" Well, then .. next time her aunt is in jail for smashing her daughters hand. I'll tell her not to go bail her out since she's not supposed to be there in the first place. :wink: "

Smashing someone's hand is not spanking.....

Gosloving 1 child; Washington 12831 posts
Apr 6th '13
Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" Smashing someone's hand is not spanking....."


No shit. Yet, whether it's spanking, smashing someone's hand or putting your hands in whatever form on a child, could get you in prison in Oregon. As I am concerned. At the same time though, my best friend's cousin is or was a little rebel who will go out of her way to make her mom's life a living hell.