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Baby daddy Rant.. Lorelei's Mommy ♥ 1 child; Scotts Valley, CA, United States 1463 posts
6th Apr '13

I was laying in bed with my daughter while she falling asleep and for some reason the situation with my ex, court and our daughter kept playing in my mind.. Which inspired me to write this.
I just get SO frustrated with the whole situation. How my BD choose to walk out on us when my DD was about 3 months old and how he got to party it up while I stayed home and cared for our child. Then when HIS dad wanted visits that i refused (theres history of sexual abuse on his part and I was allowing sup. visits with him until he threatened me) and when I stopped that he tried getting 'grandparent rights' which do not exist in CA so he forced his son, BD, to take me to court. It just seriously bothers me that he CHOOSE to walk out, want nothing to do with her and then he can waltz back in court when HE choose to and get visitation/part custody.. I hear it all the time on here how guys walk out and then they come back later. I get that there the father but if he choose to leave thats on him.
Well anyway, ive just been thinking about how he's been playing off his 'back injury' that i truely dont think exists. It was a good excuse for him in court not to have to pay CS and to make visits around when his GF was off because he couldn't 'take care of her on his own'. (the girl friend part doesnt bother me, the 'around his schedule' does.) It just makes me so angry. He milks it. YET when we're alone, he walks without his cane. He picks her up with no 'hesitation' and acts normal. yet when were around other people or in court he puts on his fake 'limp' and uses his cane.
He canceled his last visitation because I asked him to do it early in the morning and that doesnt work with his sleep schedule. he sleeps all day which is why the late visits work for him and stays up all night. YET, his excuse was 'he was up all night with severe pain'. funny how that never happens in later visits.
And to add to the whole thing, i just found out that hes attending a mayhem concert.. really? Every year we were together, he attended it. And was out of work for WEEKS due to back pain. because he does that bullshit 'death wall' or whatever the f**k its called.



End of rant.

1 child; Georgia 425 posts
6th Apr '13

He sounds like a loser. Him & my babys dad would get a long great ha. I

ℕightingale 1 child; Mississippi 7012 posts
6th Apr '13

Next time record him and show it at court so they know his full of shit.

Lorelei's Mommy ♥ 1 child; Scotts Valley, CA, United States 1463 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting Glo♥:" Next time record him and show it at court so they know his full of shit."


yeah. Its hard. The only proof I have is him telling my brother about going to mayhem.
And he broke court orders but I could never 'prove it'. so nothing happened.
And it was serious too.

Its kinda hard since I dont walk around with a camera to catch him.

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5432 posts
6th Apr '13

That makes me sad Megan, you are a great mother and have gone above and beyond for Lorelei. He has always been this way and will never change, You know how I feel about sex offenders and sexual abused accusations so that allow would make feel very protective of letting my child go over there have you mentioned that during court?



All you can do is hold your end of the bargain, he will f**k up all on his own in good time thats just the kind of person he is no matter how much his dad wants him too, and thats makes me really freaked up and worried why his father has pushed him so much to go to court and get visitation mostly just so he can have visitation with lo?

Lorelei's Mommy ♥ 1 child; Scotts Valley, CA, United States 1463 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting Smokey_Taboo:" That makes me sad Megan, you are a great mother and have gone above and beyond for Lorelei. He has always ... [snip!] ... worried why his father has pushed him so much to go to court and get visitation mostly just so he can have visitation with lo?"

We agreed on EVERYTHING during court but his dad.
He feels like his sister was lying about it and hes done nothing wrong.
I made it well known I wasnt comfortable with her seeing his dad but the court ruled he could see her if it was supervised. And allowed josh to be the supervisor. So i always worry hes not truly watching her like he should around his dad but theres nothing i can do.

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5432 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting Lorelei's Mommy ♥:" We agreed on EVERYTHING during court but his dad. He feels like his sister was lying about it and hes ... [snip!] ... to be the supervisor. So i always worry hes not truly watching her like he should around his dad but theres nothing i can do."


Holly shit, how can he think his own sister would lie :( thats really fucked up.

Lorelei's Mommy ♥ 1 child; Scotts Valley, CA, United States 1463 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting Smokey_Taboo:" Holly shit, how can he think his own sister would lie :( thats really fucked up. "

I know.. We always knew SOMETHING happened we just didnt know what or how bad.
Josh is always doing WHATEVER Craig says. he like worships the a*****e.
Its sad.

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5432 posts
6th Apr '13
Quoting Lorelei's Mommy ♥:" I know.. We always knew SOMETHING happened we just didnt know what or how bad. Josh is always doing WHATEVER Craig says. he like worships the a*****e. Its sad."


Does the sister let her children see craig? Ugh what a awful situation, idk how but when I was little my dad made my mother only had supervised visit with me. I feel like that would be such a better option for you all.

Lorelei's Mommy ♥ 1 child; Scotts Valley, CA, United States 1463 posts
7th Apr '13
Quoting Smokey_Taboo:" Does the sister let her children see craig? Ugh what a awful situation, idk how but when I was little ... [snip!] ... little my dad made my mother only had supervised visit with me. I feel like that would be such a better option for you all. "

Well its technically her step dad. and no. she nor her daughter see him.
Shes the one who wrote the letter to the court. If it werent for her, Lorelei would have unsupervised with craig. :(

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5432 posts
7th Apr '13
Quoting Lorelei's Mommy ♥:" Well its technically her step dad. and no. she nor her daughter see him. Shes the one who wrote the letter to the court. If it werent for her, Lorelei would have unsupervised with craig. :("


omg thank goodness for her, what a strong strong women <3 Im sorry megan if you wanna get together and talk some time I'd love to do that maybe we can go get lunch or get a pedicure or something.

Bobber Due October 1; 1 child; Manitoba 137 posts
7th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lorelei's Mommy ♥:</b>" yeah. Its hard. The only proof I have is him telling my brother about going to mayhem. And he broke ... [snip!] ... 'prove it'. so nothing happened. And it was serious too. Its kinda hard since I dont walk around with a camera to catch him."</blockquote>



Do you have a phone with a camera/video recorder? You could pretend your texting & record him lol.