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adopt or add? LIVE.OUT.LOUD Due July 11 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Lawrenceville, Georgia 1624 posts
7th Apr '13

So dh is not the biological father of our 2 boys. One of my friends said her dh isnt her child bio dad and he just went to the court house and signed the birth certificate. Our boys are 2 and 16 months. We live in Georgia. How would we go about dh signing their birth certificates? Or does he have to adopt them? The bio dad was never on either of the birth certificates, never been around them (except for my first but left the day I found out I was pregnant with my 2nd), paid anything, or anything else. How do we go about doing this?

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7110 posts
7th Apr '13

He has to legally adopt them before he can be added to the BC. If he tries to just go in and sign them they will ask for a paternity test to be done before anyone is added on.

LIVE.OUT.LOUD Due July 11 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Lawrenceville, Georgia 1624 posts
7th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting supa~~fly:</b>" He has to legally adopt them before he can be added to the BC. If he tries to just go in and sign them they will ask for a paternity test to be done before anyone is added on. "</blockquote>




Ok thanks :) so I just need to call a lawyer? Or how do we start the process?

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7110 posts
7th Apr '13

Yup call a family lawyer and they can get you headed in the right direction. you and your DH need to be married in most states 6 months before a judge will look at him adopting your kids. Some states it's a year that you need to be married.

Little Oddish 16 kids; Texas 323 posts
7th Apr '13

I would start with a lawyer. My grandparents went through a lawyer to adopt me when I was a kid.

мɑkɑnɑni 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65697 posts
7th Apr '13
Quoting supa~~fly:" He has to legally adopt them before he can be added to the BC. If he tries to just go in and sign them they will ask for a paternity test to be done before anyone is added on. "


Are you sure? Women have added random men to the BC who later found out they weren't the father, but they were still responsible for the child.

penispenispenisVAGINA 4 kids; Idaho 7110 posts
7th Apr '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" Are you sure? Women have added random men to the BC who later found out they weren't the father, but they were still responsible for the child."


Yes I'm sure. If a woman goes to the hospital to have a baby the man who is on the BC has to sign the papers that says he's the father either before the baby is born or right after the baby is born before they leave the hospital. Women can say whoever they want is the father of their child but their name won't show up on the BC unless the father signs the knowledgement of paternity papers. If a couple knowingly puts a man on the BC that ISN'T the father that is a federal criminal offence punishable by fine and/or jail time.

Two Princesses 2 kids; Long Beach, CA, United States 7201 posts
7th Apr '13

Well since the BC has no father listed, it should be easier to get him added on.
but whether or not he'll be required to adopt them or take a paternity test depends on your states laws.
Were the two of you married when the 16 month old was born? If so might be able to get him added under "Presumption of paternity".
Best of luck.