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Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
7th Apr '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" :!::!: You can also write in there that a new agreement will be negotiated prior to the start of elementary ... [snip!] ... prior to the start of elementary school. Trust me, switching off that often will wreak havoc with homework, bed times, etc."


I agree with what desert rain said as well.



We have already registered him in Catholic pre-k for this coming year so that is done.



I know it is difficult, but I did it as a kid. My parents had us switching every 2 days and every other weekend. His fathers work schedule is so messy that I dont know when he would see him otherwise.

Good Queen Bess 2 kids; Ontario 45928 posts
7th Apr '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" I agree with what desert rain said as well. We have already registered him in Catholic pre-k for this ... [snip!] ... every 2 days and every other weekend. His fathers work schedule is so messy that I dont know when he would see him otherwise."


That's how we did my daughter's schooling for 4 years. It was a pain.



I guess as long as your communication is open, it's fine. Also, talk to the school about sending two sets of every handout home (including progress reports).

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
7th Apr '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" That's how we did my daughter's schooling for 4 years. It was a pain. I guess as long as your communication ... [snip!] ... is open, it's fine. Also, talk to the school about sending two sets of every handout home (including progress reports)."


yes! I hated that as a kid. I'd always have to ask if I could not get in trouble for handing in my report card late because my dad traveled.




I just talked to him and he's pissed that I don't want to put the no full custody/no child support thing in. He's complaining that everything HE wants isn't going in. I don't know how to handle it without arguing that I don't want to put it in and that he is NOT screwing himself over by not putting it in.

мɑkɑnɑni 1 angel baby; ~, FL, United States 65683 posts
status 7th Apr '13

No leaving the county? That's a bit much IMO.



What about exposure to new partners?
Diet?
Keeping to a routine--bedtime, dinner, etc.

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
7th Apr '13
Quoting mαkαnαni:" No leaving the county? That's a bit much IMO. What about exposure to new partners? Diet? Keeping to a routine--bedtime, dinner, etc."


He has threatened to take J and leave, so it's solely for protection purposes. I wasn't sure if diet could be put in? We are pretty much on the same page as far as routine, but it can't hurt to put it in!

bean.dip 1 child; 3 angel babies; Assawoman, Virginia 1173 posts
7th Apr '13

I would have a set pick up/drop off time just to be safe. You said he's threatened to take your kid and leave in the past. What if he gets mad and things get complicated? Having a set time helps ease confusion and will keep your child on a better routine making things easier in the long run.

Spoonful of Jayson 17 kids; Morrisville, Pennsylvania 11627 posts
7th Apr '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting mommyMB:</b>" I would have a set pick up/drop off time just to be safe. You said he's threatened to take your kid and ... [snip!] ... Having a set time helps ease confusion and will keep your child on a better routine making things easier in the long run."</blockquote>




Yes, but his dads schedule is so weird that the times would be different all the time. Sometimes he goes to work at 6:30am, or 12:00pm, or 2:00pm. Sometimes he is done at 4:00, 5:00, 6:00, or after 10:00pm. How do I write that out?

desert☮rain 1 child; Phoenix, Arizona 7674 posts
7th Apr '13
Quoting Spoonful of Jayson:" <blockquote><b>Quoting mommyMB:</b>" I would have a set pick up/drop off time just ... [snip!] ... to work at 6:30am, or 12:00pm, or 2:00pm. Sometimes he is done at 4:00, 5:00, 6:00, or after 10:00pm. How do I write that out?"


Who is watching the kid while he is at work? Then that person would be in charge of picking up your child. Make set times, trust me.

BABY MAKES TWO Due September 16 (boy); Australia 193 posts
8th Apr '13

Don't give in with the child support but assure him that as long as you both stick to the rules you have set out you won't file for it. Unless you do want to...either way is good