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ThreeLittleBirds Due August 28; 3 kids; Pueblo West, CO, United States 939 posts
8th Apr '13

My opinion is move on. You admit you're different people and that it probably wouldnt work. Also the hotel arrangement is bizarre and I wouldn't put up with that even in a friends with bennies relationship. I also have to be completely honest in saying your communications with each other are very immature.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting Its Eh-Lei:" what no. you must of misunderstood me or I wasn't clear. We hang out a decent amount 1hr here 1hr there ... [snip!] ... passed away. Ive sort of just been quiet the past couple times Ive seen him which is odd because I usually talk alot."


Honestly you sound like an emotional mess.

SailorJerry 2 kids; California 17276 posts
8th Apr '13

Dated my best guy friend of over 10 years once. Worst thing ever and it really ruines our friendship which totally sucks now because we no longer speak at all. It's just usually not a good mix. I say, leave before you get too attached, because it sounds like he is seeing other people.

Its Eh-Lei Ocala, Florida 4303 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" You were going to a hotel with him.....are you really trying to put this on your grandfather now? You ... [snip!] ... grief as a cop out. You don't NEED anyone, and acting like you do with someone who you're not even dating is just too much. "


I've been understanding on some of your points. I have. But now your forming opinions on nothing I've stated and twisting it around. Your right I'm not dating him. Although he was a great friend. To me. We hit a spark. Started having casual sex. Okay.. then when things happened on my end I got snappy. I never once stated we do hotels on the regular. Or thats all we do. It's a thing we do to sort of Escape everyone. Like pick a place drive there and spend the night type of deal. I haven't told him what going on yet, because I've been in my own world. Which I knew if I would of told him anything he would of felt obligated to "console me". So I would have waited till like morning time or soemthing or at dinner to talk about it.



What do you mean our relationship is toxic I didn't understand thatT?

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting Its Eh-Lei:" I've been understanding on some of your points. I have. But now your forming opinions on nothing I've ... [snip!] ... time or soemthing or at dinner to talk about it. What do you mean our relationship is toxic I didn't understand thatT?"


You haven't mentioned your grandfather the last 2 times you've hung out, and now that he doesn't want to hang out, you need him because you grandfather passed away? Are you even trying to be honest with yourself?



Instead of just saying "Okay, we'll get together another time" you two went on a rant about ruining one another's night and blah blah blah.



That's a conversation I'd expect a high schooler to have, not an adult.

Its Eh-Lei Ocala, Florida 4303 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" You haven't mentioned your grandfather the last 2 times you've hung out, and now that he doesn't want ... [snip!] ... ruining one another's night and blah blah blah. That's a conversation I'd expect a high schooler to have, not an adult. "


damn good point.
We saw each other two days before. for two days about three hrs a piece. An honestly no I didn't I kind of just stared into space and talked to him about his day. Smoked a couple of cigarettes and just left both times. I didn't want to talk about it but I did want his company? If that made sense.

Red Bottom 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15185 posts
8th Apr '13
Quoting Its Eh-Lei:" damn good point. We saw each other two days before. for two days about three hrs a piece. An honestly ... [snip!] ... a couple of cigarettes and just left both times. I didn't want to talk about it but I did want his company? If that made sense."


You need to stop making this about your gried and make it about what it's about.



Youre more into this than he is. Point blank.

Onalee's Mummy Due August 26; 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
8th Apr '13

Your original post didn't say anything about a grandfather. I'm not sure what you are saying about it because you have already deleted half your posts.



But as I and most people have said, he prob has another on the side. You seem very emotionally involved and I don't think he is. I would move on, and if you want to save thus friendship you have with him, just stop having sex and let him off the hook for whatever you think he owes you